Friday, November 25, 2011

Words of advice?

he said the better it gets the more he pushes it away and that it had been like this with his last serious girlfriend (2 1/2 yrs ago). i told him i wanted to be the one he gets past that with. ';maybe i will get over this with you';. the way things have been, he had been holding this back for a couple of weeks for my sake (I've had a bunch of issues, depressed, diagnosed with hypothyroidism, failing finance class, %26amp; ended up in the hospital because of stress related chest pains) but I half jokingly half serious said ';you never kiss me anymore'; so that brought about the whole thing. I ended up staying with him and his family last night at beach b/c I didn't trust myself to drive back alone yesterday and he invited me to stay on after what happened. Saturday night we even slept together (not sex) like nothing had happened. I really do love him and I do think he's the one. But if he can't get past this then there's no hope. I'm really confused, he even kissed my forehead when I was leavingWords of advice?
You are way over.





The ';better it gets the more he pushes away'; thing is a great line to feed to the current girlfriend when he wants to get rid of her. It engenders feelings of sympathy, so you won't create a scene and make him feel bad for dumping you. Instead you go away thinking, ';oh poor baby';. By telling you that you may be the one who 'fixes' him he is managing to keep you on the hook until something better comes along. Tell him that he is full of s**t, and dump him.





Your chest pains are symptoms of panic attacks. You do not cope with stress well and there is a hell of a lot of it in your life right now. Go to your doctor and ask for a medication to help you cope for a while. You'll feel a heap better, and it does not have to be a long term thing.Words of advice?
I hate to tell you this - not only are you over - you probably never were. It's fantastic that you are working on yourself %26amp; your isssues - but you can't ';fix'; him, he needs to do that, and until he does he won't be able to have a close relationship with ANYONE, so don't take it personally. You need to end this and find someone who is emotionally available.
Knowing is better than wondering. You will be never able to overcome your issues if you live precariously. Talk to your boyfriend - that would be a good start to deal with your problems.
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  • Tuesday, August 24, 2010

    Help me snag this hunk of love.. I need advice girls and boys, just quick few words.?

    I'm a 39 year old female, i'm a well overweight..i like my food, i'm a foodie, yum yum!! I'm not haveing much look in the men department, and to be honest i have my sights on a 25 year . , and hes real cute. However, hes just split up with a 21 year old part time model who is gorgous and he himself is a real hit with the woman, as he is just beautiful. I want his babies! I've asked him out to drinks twice but hes just had stuff on and said no, but i think hes just playing hard to get. However, my friends daughter (who is 20) tells me he goes to this really trendy bar in town and i'm thinking of asking her can I go with her. I'm crazy about him, he lives 10 doors down. I often walk by his house just for a glimpse. Tell me, how should i dress. My friends daugher says cat suits are the rage with that age group. I'm thinking of buying one, I'm size 18-20 but i heard men like curvies...helpHelp me snag this hunk of love.. I need advice girls and boys, just quick few words.?
    if u lik eating lots of food and youre fat that aint gd enouhg. STOP EATING and he will like you. but if he goes out with loads of girls then y do u want him! hell probably cheat on u if u do get him to go out with you.


    oh nd u should just not wear anything nd go naked......................Help me snag this hunk of love.. I need advice girls and boys, just quick few words.?
    Men definitely like curves, maybe you should go for an item of clothing that you feel comfortable in and shows off your individual personality instead of wearing the latest trend. If you wear something different you will stand out against the crowd and it creates a better chance of him noticing you.





    I would go to the club, have a good time and make sure you don't spend the whole night staring at him! Wait until he notices you and comes over to say hi, that way it's like a casual bump into each other and you can see where it goes. You could drop in hints during the conversations of things you will be doing over the next few weeks and see if he accidentally turns up to any of them :)





    Good luck x

    I'm in a tricky situation, tricky in the context of me on how to handle it, any advice? (or encouraging words)?

    lets say i am on a journey. thing is i dont even know where i am going, but i know i gotta keep going. path is very steep. i am losing confidence. i'm losing it to a point that i cant think straight, it must be that i am giving in to adversity. its been so a while, never gave up.


    i need to keep on going.


    i'm posting this for a reason:


    anybody out there got some love, encouragement, hope words to help me along?I'm in a tricky situation, tricky in the context of me on how to handle it, any advice? (or encouraging words)?
    Proverbs 3:5 '; Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.';


    6 '; In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.';I'm in a tricky situation, tricky in the context of me on how to handle it, any advice? (or encouraging words)?
    Not really...





    But here's a poem by langston hughs





    Well, son, I'll tell you:


    Life for me ain't been no crystal stair.


    It's had tacks in it,


    And splinters,


    And boards torn up,


    And places with no carpet on the floor --


    Bare.


    But all the time


    I'se been a-climbin' on,


    And reachin' landin's,


    And turnin' corners,


    And sometimes goin' in the dark


    Where there ain't been no light.


    So boy, don't you turn back.


    Don't you set down on the steps


    'Cause you finds it's kinder hard.


    Don't you fall now --


    For I'se still goin', honey,


    I'se still climbin',


    And life for me ain't been no crystal stair.
    When you come to the end of all the light you know, and it's time to step into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing that one of two things shall happen: Either you will be given something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly.
    I believe the last guy who tried to communicate exclusively in parables and metaphors wound up nailed to a pair of planks.





    At best, you'll get only metaphorical suggestions. explain yourself.
    Its tricky to rock around to rock around its right on time, its tricky.
    Lots of love to you on your journey, and have you read 'pilgrim's progress', that's about a great journey too.
    Get gps.
    i not very good at riddles

    Words of Advice?

    My 6 year old daughter will be going out of state to visit her dad for the first time. I am a bit nervous cause I have never been without her. Any advice on how to prepare us both for the month long seperation?Words of Advice?
    My ex and I lived about a mile away from each other for 4 years after our divorce. Our son spent time with both of us every week. I recently had to move out of state temporarily for work. It was a little rough on all of us. The most important thing I think is to let your child know you're going to miss them, but don't make them feel guilty about spending time with the other parent. I always tell my son when he goes to his dads that I'm going to miss him, but it's great he's going to visit his dad. I also got him a cell phone on my plan so he can call me any time he wants to while we are apart. My son is 10, so I don't know if the cell phone idea would be feasible for a 6 year old. Just don't make her feel like she's abandoning you and she should be ok with the separation. As for being with out your child, that's a tough one. I miss my son very much when he's gone, but we talk on the phone every day which makes it easier. The web cam idea is also a GREAT one.Words of Advice?
    Get a webcam thats what me and my dad due and its like he is almost really there sometimes.
    Talk to her in plain language, tell her the truth. Tell he she can call at any time for any reason. Also, arrange a designated time when you WILL call her. Be sure Capt. what's his bucket knows about the designated time.
    It's going to be tough for a whole month. Give her lots of things to take to remind her of home (pictures, toys, etc), and make sure you agree to talk on the phone as often as possible once she is there.





    If her father has the internet, you could communicate via webcam, perhaps.
    I am sorry, but I don't understand why on earth you'd let such a little girl stay for so long with a man she has never seen before!!!! This is really weird !!!





    I think you should reconsider this visit.


    It would be much more sensible for the child to see his picture first, then meet him and after they've spent time together plan a visit....and even then, not for an entire month!





    You should ask a child psychologist how to deal with this so the girl is as less freaked out as possible...!
    It is not easy I know this. My oldest 2 girls go to NC every summer and spend the summer with their dad. At first it was very hard and still is. Just remember you can call her everyday or at night before she goes to bed. Send her a picture of you with her. Write her a little note and put it in her suitcase. For you just find one of her favorite stuffed animals and sleep with it every night it will make you feel a little closer to her. Trust me it does get easier over the years. My daughters are now 14 and 12 and now I look forward to summers they go with their dad. Most of all just take it one day at a time. Let your ex know you will be calling her alot and if he has a problem with that then tough. Do what makes you feel better about her being away from you. Good Luck sweetie !!
    wrap her in bubble wrap.
    KEEP BUSY!!! That is what worked the best for me. The first time I was without mine for a weekend, I almost went nuts. Keeping myself busy is the only thing that helps me get through every other weekend. I could not imagine a month without them!
    Huh? You and your daughter have NEVER been apart before and all of a sudden she is going out of state for a month? Who decided this? Don't you think she should be spending a few intermittent weekends with him before she goes into his care full time for half the summer?





    MY advice is to talk lots with her dad between now and then. Together, you need to try and brainstorm as many possible situations he or she might find themselves in during her visit and agree on how to handle them. Which ones will require your input? Which ones will he decide the proper course of action. How will the two of you prepare her for the difference in parenting styles, house rules, food, etc...





    (I'm still dumbfounded that she is going on a month long visit with no prior exposure. That is so wierd....)
    I had this problem when i had my daughter for a week (usually overnight only every other wk end) ....





    I just got her to phone mum every evening to say hi and chat ...she was fine try doing the same... did it for both their sakes as i know the wrench it can be.....


    Most of all make sure he gets her to call when missing you just for a small chat to calm her down... after few days she'll settle in and be fine





    Wish you luck you just keep busy...x
    I'd tell her anything she needs to know about seperation and taking care of herself and pack her suitcase in the best way I could, tooth brush and tooth pastes and other stuff you know she needs. Then you can accept the situation as a new experience for your daughter that will make her stronger and will teach her a lot. Your little girl will be back smarter.:)


    Calm down lady, just do all the needed cares. I think you can also call her every day, this will also calm you.


    Good luck, bests
    NO don't let her go. What is wrong? Tell him to come to your daughter. Don't do it. Change your phone number.

    Advice on CM and general words of support needed?

    Firstly, my body is acting very strange this month. I've not really had any EWCM this month. Usually I get around 3 - 4 days of it each month, but this month I've only had rubbery or sticky cm. I have however had an increase in temperature. But the two days before this we didn't BD so I am gutted if I ovulated then, but I didn't have the ewcm. Does this mean I didn't ovulate this month - I'm confused.





    Secondly, my sister in law had a baby girl yesterday and I feel so jealous. I feel very down today and on the verge of tears for no particular reason (I normally feel like this when AF is due - but that's not due until 14 April). I am going to visit my new baby niece after work and in some ways I don't want to see her. I know it sounds awful and I feel terrible for thinking it but I would love to have a baby girl and it seems like that's impossible at the moment. Is anyone out there feeling the same - or can you offer a few words of comfort for me?





    lots of love and baby dust to us all xx





    PS. No nasty answers pleaseAdvice on CM and general words of support needed?
    Every woman will have a cycle now and then where they do not ovulate. The lack of CM MIGHT mean that this was one of those months for you.





    I'm sorry about how badly you're feeling about the new baby. Just know that is a normal feeling for anyone who has been trying to conceive and has not gotten pregnant.





    Try to do something good for yourself this month. A massage or a spa day!





    Best wishes to you!Advice on CM and general words of support needed?
    This happened to me last month. I did not have any sign of ewcm and then my period came 15 days late so it was safe to say I did not ovulate that month. But on the other hand I noticed some ewcm this morning so sometimes in your cycle you may not ovulate one month. I would keep trying and maybe start using ovulation predictor to pinpoint your ovulation so you know when is a good time to bd. I know its hard not to feel terrible when someone close has a baby and you feel so let down but it will happen and when it does you will feel guilty for thinking like that so even though its hard try to stay positive. and tons of baby dust for you!!!
    Some women just don't get good quality EWCM every month, it doesn't mean that you didn't ovulate. Some women ovulate and never even get a positive with an ovulation predictor kit! Maybe you should look into Pre-Seed or PreConceive Plus (they're basically just synthetic EWCM lubes).





    I don't post here much, but I lurk sometimes and I know how you feel with the jealousy. I've been ttc for nine months and NOTHING, and it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant with no trouble at all. It's hard. If you don't want to visit, don't: look after your own well-being. One of my closest friends is pregnant and I cry every time I talk to her. It makes me feel like a horrible person, but the fact of the matter is, THIS IS PAINFUL. There's no shame in that.





    Take care of yourself, and good luck. I hope you get a bfp soon!
    What you are experiencing about the baby is normal, it's ok for you to feel that way. Do something special for yourself to help you unwind and de stress and don't beat yourself up over it.


    Also minimal or no EWCM doesn't mean you didn't ovulate, my cm is more profuse some months than others. So hold out hope and stay positive cos you just never know. It's not over until AF sings!





    Prayers and a ton of baby dust your way. Good luck and God bless.xx
    well hon you know i had very little ewcm last cycle and if it hadnt been for my monitor and my temps i wouldnt have known i had o'd.


    we did conceive that cycle though (sadly i just lost the pregnancy at 5 weeks 5 days), despite the ewcm not being so good so never give up hope.


    i really have to say that the clearblue fertility monitor and preseed combined with temping (i know it sounds like a lot of work) worked for us. it was the 1st time we did any of those things and we conceived. i am definitely a fan of preseed.





    as for the neice i promise as soon as you meet her all those jealous feelings will melt away. its normal to resent births and pregnant people when you are ttc but let all that resentment go and enjoy being a cool auntie! congratulations. x

    Got any special advice for me? Maybe some verses or words of encouragement?

    Proverbs 3: 5-6


    ';Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.';Got any special advice for me? Maybe some verses or words of encouragement?
    Have a healthy breakfastGot any special advice for me? Maybe some verses or words of encouragement?
    Get a good nights sleep..Things will look better tomorrow.
    seek his face.
    Submit yourself therefor to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you.
    Yes. This is God speaking to John V...





    ';I know the plans I have for you...plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you hope and a future';.
    Phillipians 4:13





    I can do all things through Christ which strengthen me.





    Look into yourself and find the strenghth that Christ has given us through him. Blessings.
    ';Remember that the tea kettle, although up to it's neck in hot water, continues to sing.';
    where there is little forgiveness there is little love. where there is a lot of forgiveness there is a lot of love.
    Never fear moving forward slowly.......fear only standing still.
    For WHAT?!?! How can I give advice if I don't know the problem???
    Faith is the victory that overcomes the world.





    Remember to pray, here is simple prayer to help....


    Lord help me to remember that nothing is going to happen to me today that you and I together can't handle.





    I Corinthians 10:13
    you gotta keep keepin' on
    ';Seven days without prayer makes one WEAK';
    uhm...don't eat yellow snow
    For to me, to live is Christ to die is gain
    If you think something is bad it could always be worse. :)
    If you would tell us why you need these and what is bothering you it might help. However, I have a few things i tell myself when I feel ';down'; Such as





    It can only get better





    There are those with worse problems than mine.





    There is a reason for everything and for everything a reason





    I hold my own fate in my hands and I have the power to change what is wrong with my life.





    Hope that helped
    I can tell you a joke to lift your spirits...how about that?





    What's the difference between a pilot and God?





    God doesn't think he's a pilot. :)

    Good advice on how to increase your pool of vocabulary - and become able to use these words?

    Recently, I relieased the great importance of having a large pool of words and phrases at my own disposal - for different social settings, understanding others, describing a thought, an idea, a process, almost anything involving verbal communication.


    However, i find myself using the words and phrases I have been accustomed to use since I was a child. Recently, I started to read alot...


    Do you know a good method to increase your vocabulary? And how do you master these words - like consciouly incorporate them into your conversation, writing so on? Are there any good books or sites on this subject?


    I really want to improve my word choice and in turn the style of my speech!!Good advice on how to increase your pool of vocabulary - and become able to use these words?
    Be careful of what you wish for and which tools you pick up in order to express your desires. Let your words be in concert with your mind and your mind in harmony with your words. Reading is, indeed, the first link in that chain. Read with a dictionary close at hand. Do not think that reading just anything will make you wise. Nor will putting a large vocabulary into your mouth make you any more understandable.








    Read Ralph Waldo Emerson for thoughts loftier and more succinctly put. Read Baltasar Gracian for true wisdom regarding the condition of human interaction. If you say that their vocabularies are not what you wish, and Gracian certainly did not write in English so the translations will be stilted anyway, try reading Kim Stanley Robinson. He is sold in Science Fiction. Pick up _40 Signs of Rain_ and then the sequal _50 Degrees Below_ for a cultural education.





    Try putting a vocabulary word up on your bathroom mirror. Use it at least three times in one day. Find a use for it. There are daily desk calendars like that.





    One of my favorites, and I have had a few, was frangible. Means ';crumbly';: I used it to describe the cladding on nuclear fuel, my mood after teaching all day on my tortured right leg, the situation in Iraq among the Shiites, Sunnis and Kurds. Frangible.





    Read poetry. There you have wordsmiths paring vocabularly. Ah, the best and brightest today are pushing those words hard. I do not mean the dreck we see posted here. Read modern stuff from the Beats on forward.





    That is enough to get you started. Oh, one other thing. Remember that communication is only possible between equals. You start using words and phrases no one understands, you might as well be reciting Jabberwocky. Might amuse you, but annoys the h3ll out of others. Example is a joke I wrote for an answer to a question. Read my joke and the answer right below. *sigh*





    BTW, I teach nuclear science, radiation chemistry, and tech writing at a nuclear power plant. I am also a published poet and have been an editor of poetry magazines.Good advice on how to increase your pool of vocabulary - and become able to use these words?
    Reading is the best way to increase your vocabulary. Normally context will give you a good means of understanding words you are unsure of, however a dictionary near by is never a bad idea. If you can get through the reading w/o the dictionary jot the words down on a sticky and look them up later.





    Using the words is great. Just remember that the real big words may need definition to others so be prepared to explain and make sure that you use them right.





    I am a big proponent of having a sizable vocubulary but some words are just escoteric and will make you look snobby choose your words wisely.
    i look up words daily and try to use them, if i hear a word i dont know that someone uses, i ask what it means, or i look it up. its a great way to gain a larger vocab.
    Read the New York Times, do the Sunday crossword puzzle in the magazine section and turn off your television. Instead concentrate on quality fiction, biography and books on politics and history
    Read, write, and use a dictionary. It is discipline, while reading write down every word you don't know and look it up. Use it at some point too. Use it obnoxiously the first days until you are searching the recesses of your mind for its synonym. Then you will know it. There are no shortcuts for expansive vocabularies aside from diligence and memory.
    Yes, reading is the best way to expand your vocabulary. Keep a dictionary within reach of a couple places where you like to sit and read most often (I often won't get up to look up a word, but if the dictionary is right there...). Stop to look up words you're unfamiliar with, even if you can guess their meaning; this will help fix their definition in your mind. You could also try setting something like Merriam-Webster's Word of the Day as your home page (http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/mwwod.pl) and then make an effort to use that word sometime during the day. It might sound a little awkward, but practice is really the best way to get used to how to use words. Finally, I find that simple rote memorization of vocabulary lists doesn't work that well because you can't assimilate that many new words all at once and instead you end up learning none at all. Good luck and have fun!
    Read books
    get the books WordSmart and WordSmart II by the Pronceton Review. VERY helpful.
    When you have a question about vocabulary perhaps you should use spell check. Master that first. Walk then run grasshopper.
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