Friday, November 25, 2011

Words of advice?

he said the better it gets the more he pushes it away and that it had been like this with his last serious girlfriend (2 1/2 yrs ago). i told him i wanted to be the one he gets past that with. ';maybe i will get over this with you';. the way things have been, he had been holding this back for a couple of weeks for my sake (I've had a bunch of issues, depressed, diagnosed with hypothyroidism, failing finance class, %26amp; ended up in the hospital because of stress related chest pains) but I half jokingly half serious said ';you never kiss me anymore'; so that brought about the whole thing. I ended up staying with him and his family last night at beach b/c I didn't trust myself to drive back alone yesterday and he invited me to stay on after what happened. Saturday night we even slept together (not sex) like nothing had happened. I really do love him and I do think he's the one. But if he can't get past this then there's no hope. I'm really confused, he even kissed my forehead when I was leavingWords of advice?
You are way over.





The ';better it gets the more he pushes away'; thing is a great line to feed to the current girlfriend when he wants to get rid of her. It engenders feelings of sympathy, so you won't create a scene and make him feel bad for dumping you. Instead you go away thinking, ';oh poor baby';. By telling you that you may be the one who 'fixes' him he is managing to keep you on the hook until something better comes along. Tell him that he is full of s**t, and dump him.





Your chest pains are symptoms of panic attacks. You do not cope with stress well and there is a hell of a lot of it in your life right now. Go to your doctor and ask for a medication to help you cope for a while. You'll feel a heap better, and it does not have to be a long term thing.Words of advice?
I hate to tell you this - not only are you over - you probably never were. It's fantastic that you are working on yourself %26amp; your isssues - but you can't ';fix'; him, he needs to do that, and until he does he won't be able to have a close relationship with ANYONE, so don't take it personally. You need to end this and find someone who is emotionally available.
Knowing is better than wondering. You will be never able to overcome your issues if you live precariously. Talk to your boyfriend - that would be a good start to deal with your problems.
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  • Tuesday, August 24, 2010

    Help me snag this hunk of love.. I need advice girls and boys, just quick few words.?

    I'm a 39 year old female, i'm a well overweight..i like my food, i'm a foodie, yum yum!! I'm not haveing much look in the men department, and to be honest i have my sights on a 25 year . , and hes real cute. However, hes just split up with a 21 year old part time model who is gorgous and he himself is a real hit with the woman, as he is just beautiful. I want his babies! I've asked him out to drinks twice but hes just had stuff on and said no, but i think hes just playing hard to get. However, my friends daughter (who is 20) tells me he goes to this really trendy bar in town and i'm thinking of asking her can I go with her. I'm crazy about him, he lives 10 doors down. I often walk by his house just for a glimpse. Tell me, how should i dress. My friends daugher says cat suits are the rage with that age group. I'm thinking of buying one, I'm size 18-20 but i heard men like curvies...helpHelp me snag this hunk of love.. I need advice girls and boys, just quick few words.?
    if u lik eating lots of food and youre fat that aint gd enouhg. STOP EATING and he will like you. but if he goes out with loads of girls then y do u want him! hell probably cheat on u if u do get him to go out with you.


    oh nd u should just not wear anything nd go naked......................Help me snag this hunk of love.. I need advice girls and boys, just quick few words.?
    Men definitely like curves, maybe you should go for an item of clothing that you feel comfortable in and shows off your individual personality instead of wearing the latest trend. If you wear something different you will stand out against the crowd and it creates a better chance of him noticing you.





    I would go to the club, have a good time and make sure you don't spend the whole night staring at him! Wait until he notices you and comes over to say hi, that way it's like a casual bump into each other and you can see where it goes. You could drop in hints during the conversations of things you will be doing over the next few weeks and see if he accidentally turns up to any of them :)





    Good luck x

    I'm in a tricky situation, tricky in the context of me on how to handle it, any advice? (or encouraging words)?

    lets say i am on a journey. thing is i dont even know where i am going, but i know i gotta keep going. path is very steep. i am losing confidence. i'm losing it to a point that i cant think straight, it must be that i am giving in to adversity. its been so a while, never gave up.


    i need to keep on going.


    i'm posting this for a reason:


    anybody out there got some love, encouragement, hope words to help me along?I'm in a tricky situation, tricky in the context of me on how to handle it, any advice? (or encouraging words)?
    Proverbs 3:5 '; Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.';


    6 '; In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.';I'm in a tricky situation, tricky in the context of me on how to handle it, any advice? (or encouraging words)?
    Not really...





    But here's a poem by langston hughs





    Well, son, I'll tell you:


    Life for me ain't been no crystal stair.


    It's had tacks in it,


    And splinters,


    And boards torn up,


    And places with no carpet on the floor --


    Bare.


    But all the time


    I'se been a-climbin' on,


    And reachin' landin's,


    And turnin' corners,


    And sometimes goin' in the dark


    Where there ain't been no light.


    So boy, don't you turn back.


    Don't you set down on the steps


    'Cause you finds it's kinder hard.


    Don't you fall now --


    For I'se still goin', honey,


    I'se still climbin',


    And life for me ain't been no crystal stair.
    When you come to the end of all the light you know, and it's time to step into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing that one of two things shall happen: Either you will be given something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly.
    I believe the last guy who tried to communicate exclusively in parables and metaphors wound up nailed to a pair of planks.





    At best, you'll get only metaphorical suggestions. explain yourself.
    Its tricky to rock around to rock around its right on time, its tricky.
    Lots of love to you on your journey, and have you read 'pilgrim's progress', that's about a great journey too.
    Get gps.
    i not very good at riddles

    Words of Advice?

    My 6 year old daughter will be going out of state to visit her dad for the first time. I am a bit nervous cause I have never been without her. Any advice on how to prepare us both for the month long seperation?Words of Advice?
    My ex and I lived about a mile away from each other for 4 years after our divorce. Our son spent time with both of us every week. I recently had to move out of state temporarily for work. It was a little rough on all of us. The most important thing I think is to let your child know you're going to miss them, but don't make them feel guilty about spending time with the other parent. I always tell my son when he goes to his dads that I'm going to miss him, but it's great he's going to visit his dad. I also got him a cell phone on my plan so he can call me any time he wants to while we are apart. My son is 10, so I don't know if the cell phone idea would be feasible for a 6 year old. Just don't make her feel like she's abandoning you and she should be ok with the separation. As for being with out your child, that's a tough one. I miss my son very much when he's gone, but we talk on the phone every day which makes it easier. The web cam idea is also a GREAT one.Words of Advice?
    Get a webcam thats what me and my dad due and its like he is almost really there sometimes.
    Talk to her in plain language, tell her the truth. Tell he she can call at any time for any reason. Also, arrange a designated time when you WILL call her. Be sure Capt. what's his bucket knows about the designated time.
    It's going to be tough for a whole month. Give her lots of things to take to remind her of home (pictures, toys, etc), and make sure you agree to talk on the phone as often as possible once she is there.





    If her father has the internet, you could communicate via webcam, perhaps.
    I am sorry, but I don't understand why on earth you'd let such a little girl stay for so long with a man she has never seen before!!!! This is really weird !!!





    I think you should reconsider this visit.


    It would be much more sensible for the child to see his picture first, then meet him and after they've spent time together plan a visit....and even then, not for an entire month!





    You should ask a child psychologist how to deal with this so the girl is as less freaked out as possible...!
    It is not easy I know this. My oldest 2 girls go to NC every summer and spend the summer with their dad. At first it was very hard and still is. Just remember you can call her everyday or at night before she goes to bed. Send her a picture of you with her. Write her a little note and put it in her suitcase. For you just find one of her favorite stuffed animals and sleep with it every night it will make you feel a little closer to her. Trust me it does get easier over the years. My daughters are now 14 and 12 and now I look forward to summers they go with their dad. Most of all just take it one day at a time. Let your ex know you will be calling her alot and if he has a problem with that then tough. Do what makes you feel better about her being away from you. Good Luck sweetie !!
    wrap her in bubble wrap.
    KEEP BUSY!!! That is what worked the best for me. The first time I was without mine for a weekend, I almost went nuts. Keeping myself busy is the only thing that helps me get through every other weekend. I could not imagine a month without them!
    Huh? You and your daughter have NEVER been apart before and all of a sudden she is going out of state for a month? Who decided this? Don't you think she should be spending a few intermittent weekends with him before she goes into his care full time for half the summer?





    MY advice is to talk lots with her dad between now and then. Together, you need to try and brainstorm as many possible situations he or she might find themselves in during her visit and agree on how to handle them. Which ones will require your input? Which ones will he decide the proper course of action. How will the two of you prepare her for the difference in parenting styles, house rules, food, etc...





    (I'm still dumbfounded that she is going on a month long visit with no prior exposure. That is so wierd....)
    I had this problem when i had my daughter for a week (usually overnight only every other wk end) ....





    I just got her to phone mum every evening to say hi and chat ...she was fine try doing the same... did it for both their sakes as i know the wrench it can be.....


    Most of all make sure he gets her to call when missing you just for a small chat to calm her down... after few days she'll settle in and be fine





    Wish you luck you just keep busy...x
    I'd tell her anything she needs to know about seperation and taking care of herself and pack her suitcase in the best way I could, tooth brush and tooth pastes and other stuff you know she needs. Then you can accept the situation as a new experience for your daughter that will make her stronger and will teach her a lot. Your little girl will be back smarter.:)


    Calm down lady, just do all the needed cares. I think you can also call her every day, this will also calm you.


    Good luck, bests
    NO don't let her go. What is wrong? Tell him to come to your daughter. Don't do it. Change your phone number.

    Advice on CM and general words of support needed?

    Firstly, my body is acting very strange this month. I've not really had any EWCM this month. Usually I get around 3 - 4 days of it each month, but this month I've only had rubbery or sticky cm. I have however had an increase in temperature. But the two days before this we didn't BD so I am gutted if I ovulated then, but I didn't have the ewcm. Does this mean I didn't ovulate this month - I'm confused.





    Secondly, my sister in law had a baby girl yesterday and I feel so jealous. I feel very down today and on the verge of tears for no particular reason (I normally feel like this when AF is due - but that's not due until 14 April). I am going to visit my new baby niece after work and in some ways I don't want to see her. I know it sounds awful and I feel terrible for thinking it but I would love to have a baby girl and it seems like that's impossible at the moment. Is anyone out there feeling the same - or can you offer a few words of comfort for me?





    lots of love and baby dust to us all xx





    PS. No nasty answers pleaseAdvice on CM and general words of support needed?
    Every woman will have a cycle now and then where they do not ovulate. The lack of CM MIGHT mean that this was one of those months for you.





    I'm sorry about how badly you're feeling about the new baby. Just know that is a normal feeling for anyone who has been trying to conceive and has not gotten pregnant.





    Try to do something good for yourself this month. A massage or a spa day!





    Best wishes to you!Advice on CM and general words of support needed?
    This happened to me last month. I did not have any sign of ewcm and then my period came 15 days late so it was safe to say I did not ovulate that month. But on the other hand I noticed some ewcm this morning so sometimes in your cycle you may not ovulate one month. I would keep trying and maybe start using ovulation predictor to pinpoint your ovulation so you know when is a good time to bd. I know its hard not to feel terrible when someone close has a baby and you feel so let down but it will happen and when it does you will feel guilty for thinking like that so even though its hard try to stay positive. and tons of baby dust for you!!!
    Some women just don't get good quality EWCM every month, it doesn't mean that you didn't ovulate. Some women ovulate and never even get a positive with an ovulation predictor kit! Maybe you should look into Pre-Seed or PreConceive Plus (they're basically just synthetic EWCM lubes).





    I don't post here much, but I lurk sometimes and I know how you feel with the jealousy. I've been ttc for nine months and NOTHING, and it seems like everyone around me is getting pregnant with no trouble at all. It's hard. If you don't want to visit, don't: look after your own well-being. One of my closest friends is pregnant and I cry every time I talk to her. It makes me feel like a horrible person, but the fact of the matter is, THIS IS PAINFUL. There's no shame in that.





    Take care of yourself, and good luck. I hope you get a bfp soon!
    What you are experiencing about the baby is normal, it's ok for you to feel that way. Do something special for yourself to help you unwind and de stress and don't beat yourself up over it.


    Also minimal or no EWCM doesn't mean you didn't ovulate, my cm is more profuse some months than others. So hold out hope and stay positive cos you just never know. It's not over until AF sings!





    Prayers and a ton of baby dust your way. Good luck and God bless.xx
    well hon you know i had very little ewcm last cycle and if it hadnt been for my monitor and my temps i wouldnt have known i had o'd.


    we did conceive that cycle though (sadly i just lost the pregnancy at 5 weeks 5 days), despite the ewcm not being so good so never give up hope.


    i really have to say that the clearblue fertility monitor and preseed combined with temping (i know it sounds like a lot of work) worked for us. it was the 1st time we did any of those things and we conceived. i am definitely a fan of preseed.





    as for the neice i promise as soon as you meet her all those jealous feelings will melt away. its normal to resent births and pregnant people when you are ttc but let all that resentment go and enjoy being a cool auntie! congratulations. x

    Got any special advice for me? Maybe some verses or words of encouragement?

    Proverbs 3: 5-6


    ';Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths.';Got any special advice for me? Maybe some verses or words of encouragement?
    Have a healthy breakfastGot any special advice for me? Maybe some verses or words of encouragement?
    Get a good nights sleep..Things will look better tomorrow.
    seek his face.
    Submit yourself therefor to God, resist the devil and he will flee from you.
    Yes. This is God speaking to John V...





    ';I know the plans I have for you...plans to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you hope and a future';.
    Phillipians 4:13





    I can do all things through Christ which strengthen me.





    Look into yourself and find the strenghth that Christ has given us through him. Blessings.
    ';Remember that the tea kettle, although up to it's neck in hot water, continues to sing.';
    where there is little forgiveness there is little love. where there is a lot of forgiveness there is a lot of love.
    Never fear moving forward slowly.......fear only standing still.
    For WHAT?!?! How can I give advice if I don't know the problem???
    Faith is the victory that overcomes the world.





    Remember to pray, here is simple prayer to help....


    Lord help me to remember that nothing is going to happen to me today that you and I together can't handle.





    I Corinthians 10:13
    you gotta keep keepin' on
    ';Seven days without prayer makes one WEAK';
    uhm...don't eat yellow snow
    For to me, to live is Christ to die is gain
    If you think something is bad it could always be worse. :)
    If you would tell us why you need these and what is bothering you it might help. However, I have a few things i tell myself when I feel ';down'; Such as





    It can only get better





    There are those with worse problems than mine.





    There is a reason for everything and for everything a reason





    I hold my own fate in my hands and I have the power to change what is wrong with my life.





    Hope that helped
    I can tell you a joke to lift your spirits...how about that?





    What's the difference between a pilot and God?





    God doesn't think he's a pilot. :)

    Good advice on how to increase your pool of vocabulary - and become able to use these words?

    Recently, I relieased the great importance of having a large pool of words and phrases at my own disposal - for different social settings, understanding others, describing a thought, an idea, a process, almost anything involving verbal communication.


    However, i find myself using the words and phrases I have been accustomed to use since I was a child. Recently, I started to read alot...


    Do you know a good method to increase your vocabulary? And how do you master these words - like consciouly incorporate them into your conversation, writing so on? Are there any good books or sites on this subject?


    I really want to improve my word choice and in turn the style of my speech!!Good advice on how to increase your pool of vocabulary - and become able to use these words?
    Be careful of what you wish for and which tools you pick up in order to express your desires. Let your words be in concert with your mind and your mind in harmony with your words. Reading is, indeed, the first link in that chain. Read with a dictionary close at hand. Do not think that reading just anything will make you wise. Nor will putting a large vocabulary into your mouth make you any more understandable.








    Read Ralph Waldo Emerson for thoughts loftier and more succinctly put. Read Baltasar Gracian for true wisdom regarding the condition of human interaction. If you say that their vocabularies are not what you wish, and Gracian certainly did not write in English so the translations will be stilted anyway, try reading Kim Stanley Robinson. He is sold in Science Fiction. Pick up _40 Signs of Rain_ and then the sequal _50 Degrees Below_ for a cultural education.





    Try putting a vocabulary word up on your bathroom mirror. Use it at least three times in one day. Find a use for it. There are daily desk calendars like that.





    One of my favorites, and I have had a few, was frangible. Means ';crumbly';: I used it to describe the cladding on nuclear fuel, my mood after teaching all day on my tortured right leg, the situation in Iraq among the Shiites, Sunnis and Kurds. Frangible.





    Read poetry. There you have wordsmiths paring vocabularly. Ah, the best and brightest today are pushing those words hard. I do not mean the dreck we see posted here. Read modern stuff from the Beats on forward.





    That is enough to get you started. Oh, one other thing. Remember that communication is only possible between equals. You start using words and phrases no one understands, you might as well be reciting Jabberwocky. Might amuse you, but annoys the h3ll out of others. Example is a joke I wrote for an answer to a question. Read my joke and the answer right below. *sigh*





    BTW, I teach nuclear science, radiation chemistry, and tech writing at a nuclear power plant. I am also a published poet and have been an editor of poetry magazines.Good advice on how to increase your pool of vocabulary - and become able to use these words?
    Reading is the best way to increase your vocabulary. Normally context will give you a good means of understanding words you are unsure of, however a dictionary near by is never a bad idea. If you can get through the reading w/o the dictionary jot the words down on a sticky and look them up later.





    Using the words is great. Just remember that the real big words may need definition to others so be prepared to explain and make sure that you use them right.





    I am a big proponent of having a sizable vocubulary but some words are just escoteric and will make you look snobby choose your words wisely.
    i look up words daily and try to use them, if i hear a word i dont know that someone uses, i ask what it means, or i look it up. its a great way to gain a larger vocab.
    Read the New York Times, do the Sunday crossword puzzle in the magazine section and turn off your television. Instead concentrate on quality fiction, biography and books on politics and history
    Read, write, and use a dictionary. It is discipline, while reading write down every word you don't know and look it up. Use it at some point too. Use it obnoxiously the first days until you are searching the recesses of your mind for its synonym. Then you will know it. There are no shortcuts for expansive vocabularies aside from diligence and memory.
    Yes, reading is the best way to expand your vocabulary. Keep a dictionary within reach of a couple places where you like to sit and read most often (I often won't get up to look up a word, but if the dictionary is right there...). Stop to look up words you're unfamiliar with, even if you can guess their meaning; this will help fix their definition in your mind. You could also try setting something like Merriam-Webster's Word of the Day as your home page (http://www.m-w.com/cgi-bin/mwwod.pl) and then make an effort to use that word sometime during the day. It might sound a little awkward, but practice is really the best way to get used to how to use words. Finally, I find that simple rote memorization of vocabulary lists doesn't work that well because you can't assimilate that many new words all at once and instead you end up learning none at all. Good luck and have fun!
    Read books
    get the books WordSmart and WordSmart II by the Pronceton Review. VERY helpful.
    When you have a question about vocabulary perhaps you should use spell check. Master that first. Walk then run grasshopper.
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  • Strangers often seem to give the best advice,when criticizing...what do you think of my words?

    The constant abuse of “I wills” is closely always followed by an almost certain let down. Unfortunately, It is an obvious self made tragedy that indulges every action, thought and word. An illness exists in deepest essence of my being and so I am cautious. Life should not have to be lived as a strategy. Looking for ways to dodge face-offs and simple words is my pitiful way. Staring off into the endless, vastness of space is comforting. It is better to face an unlimited emptiness alone than to have to deal with the troubles of the world. I falsely claim to understand greed, and hatred, because that is where my story begins. A simple brush off wont do. It has become more complex than that because I imprison myself. The key to your heart must also be the key to this cell (or so it was what I believed). My freedom seems to fade now. I can only hope that the key has not been lost, in that same vast emptiness that once allured me. Show me that I exist.Strangers often seem to give the best advice,when criticizing...what do you think of my words?
    very well written the word usage is impeccable. Are you published if not you should try. All I can say is wowStrangers often seem to give the best advice,when criticizing...what do you think of my words?
    it's hard to read, i'm not a native english speaker...the main idea is interesting. i understod that the idea is something like 'life should't be as complicated as it is' or 'don't complicate life'. but you can express the same thing with less words...interesting though...
    Your first sentence has to grasp the reader's attention, these changes helps the flow,


    ...only an opinion for you to consider....


    ';The constant abuse of ';I will'; is almost always followed by a certain letdown.';


    I would also change


    ';I believe the key to this heart must also be the key to this cell.';


    What do you think?





    I really like your writing
    Hi! I like cheese and crackers! :D
    ';The constant abuse of 'I wills' is closely always followed by an almost certain let down.';





    Tell me about it...





    This was an excellent piece of writing, and I applaud you.
    your word usage is excellent, and I liked ';Life should not have to be lived as a strategy'; that is a great line!! man you're real good, it is also great to see how you say something and then you explain it a bit more with detail! you should go to poetry.com they have a poetry tournament for money and you get a chance to get one of your poems in a book, I won second place and a page in the yearly poetry book, and with your skills you can win easily, just go try

    Relationship advice, i need some words of wisdom from somebody?

    My boyfriend and I have been dating now for about 8 months. I started off amazingly, and we fell quickly for one another. Everything was great for the first few months. We got in a big argument about a month and a half ago about a lot of different things but we resolved the issue. Since then we have both tried and have changed for one another and tried not to be so selfish and to learn how to give a little more to each other. Since then though, we both just arent as happy. I feel like our relationship has gone bipolar. One day we are great and the next day its ****. Its not seeming to get better. I dont know if its a temporary thing or if this relationship is just doomed to not get any better. We just had not really an argument but a talk about where this was going and we both addressed how we arent that happy. He brought it up and feels more strongly about it than i do, so i told him that he should take some time to think about things. I love him a lot and i know he loves me, i am just having trouble figuring out if we are that compatible for each other or if we are forcing it. I am a very loyal person and dont like to give up on things. We are both too future oriented and loyal to break up as of now. I would just love some advice or wisdom from somebody who has been through this or can relate or even someone just nice enough to share their opinion. Thank you. Sorry about how long this is.Relationship advice, i need some words of wisdom from somebody?
    You've built a solid friendship by the sounds of it, maybe that's what you need to concentrate on now.


    It might be that you've outgrown each other romantically and need to either break up or spend time apart, but keep the friendship.





    Maybe you'll both meet other people, have other relationships and eventually decide you want each other, maybe you'll do that and eventually decide you're better apart.





    Always keep the friendship though, 'cause friends last a lot longer than lovers.





    Good luck (:Relationship advice, i need some words of wisdom from somebody?
    You will find no words of wisdom in this place, all of them here are the opposite of wise





    all they think is pennies, they always collect pennies

    What advice can i give him? or words of comfort?

    My brother married to his wife for 7 years is in need of comfort.... He has 2 girls with her. She left him the begining of January because she felt she was not happy in the marriage. He has changed alot and wants his family to be together. They both have seperate houses.. WEll she came back into the picture about three weeks ago. before she never wanted to see him nor talk to him other than things having to do with the kids. Well 3 weeks ago she hugs him and kisses him..giving him thoughts she wants to work it out. its been 6months of sepearation and he gave her an ultimadim.. 3 days ago she says i want to work it out...and he was super excited but then she starts crying.. and admitted to sleeping with someonelse.. now my brother is torn because he was the only person she had been with..and now that was gone.. he wants his family but every time he sees her he imagines her and the other man. Now my brother is calling me in tears asking what do i do? i don't know what to say? help?What advice can i give him? or words of comfort?
    Just tell him





    DOn't tell me bout yo mama's draws cuz she is stank and you are too.What advice can i give him? or words of comfort?
    They need some counseling and to talk these issues out. As far as him being the only one she had ever been with, that may very well be why she wanted to ';test the waters'; outside the marriage a little bit. It may be hard on his ego to know he isn't the only one she has ever been touched by, but honestly that idea is a little bit antiquated anyway. The bigger issues are why she felt the need to leave and can they reconcile the marriage, especially for the kids sake.
    He should make sure she's not just coming back to him because she's pregnant. Also make her get tested for STDs. If all checks out, I would tale her back and try to make it work. For better or for worse is part of the vows for a reason. I think if he tries to forgive her and make it work, he'll be happier in the long run.
    Tell him that two wrongs can make a right Tell him tit for tat go and have an affair and hopefully he'll feel better and if this isn't part of his logic then tell him to take her back at least they'll be back together time will heal his wounds. S H I T happens he needs to ask himself if the shoe was on the other foot how does he think she would feel. Hell men been doing the s h i t for years and now the tables turn on them it's the end of the world boo f-ing who
    Did she sleep with someone else when they were together or apart? If together I can understand his pain because that was deceitful, but if when they were separated, he needs to get over himself... I mean, I'm sure he has been with other woman and it is unfair of him to say ';every time he sees her that he sees her with another man'; It is rare to find anyone now a days that have only been with one or two people, If he wants to work it out with her then he just has to get past that. They still have two kids and a history.
    My heart goes out to your brother and the kids. Maybe counseling will help them. To leave your husband is one thing but to leave the children is a totally different. That is very selfish and inconsiderate of her. I could never trust her after that and look at what she is putting the kids thru. My guess is that she left her family for this other man and it did not work with this other man and now she wants to come back home because she knows your brother loves her and will take her back.


    I personally think he would do better in the long run without her.
    I would suggest they get into family counselling, during break ups, people usually tend to gravitate towards someone that will comfort them during times of stress. Was it because she was with someone else that she left in the first place? infidelity can be worked out, if both want it that way. What's gone is gone, if he really wants to work it out, he needs to grieve for what is lost, and look towards the future, whether that be with her or with out her.
    Honestly, I think he needs healing and he needs space from her, romantically, until he can figure out whether he can forgive her mistakes or not.





    Remind him that no matter how much both of them wanted to, they can not change their past, and that maybe, if they really wants to make everything work (their marriage and their family) they will have to focus on the future...
    Tell him the only reason she is coming back is because she left him for another man and the other guy used her up and now has dumped her skanky a s s and he is her fall back on man!!
    They weren't together when this happened? He needs to get past it, if he really wants his family. However, she left once. What's to say she won't leave again? What changes did he have to make? Does he need counseling- from a professional? When he's imagining her with this other man, He's causing it to happen right then in his head. She's not doing it anymore. And she did not have to tell him. Lot's of people would not have. They really need professional counseling or to move on.
    She was honest with him and that's huge, and for her to admit that must of been the toughest thing she has ever done. She could have said nothing but there is obvious and sincere guilt. Counciling for both will be a must and it will take time for the hurt to go away. I respect her for being truthful when so many would of lied or said nothing. I believe she truly loves him to be this honest with him.
    If your brother believes that she is sincere and sorry then he should look in his heart and decide whether he has it in him to forgive her. Then suggest counseling, this mistake and unconditional love from your brother couild seal their marriage tight forever if they can make it through this rough time. I personally know of two people in my life that this has happened to and they have been married for at least twenty years past the horrible mistakes of the wifes...so there is hope.

    Advice me on the best words of wisdom to give a saved friend with a fiancee abroad and is worried of her age?

    God knows all before anything happens. Your fiancee chose you, and loves you just the way you are.Advice me on the best words of wisdom to give a saved friend with a fiancee abroad and is worried of her age?
    sorry- I don't understand the question

    Words of Wisdom....Tell me what advice would you give to a couple that just got married...?

    I own a mobile DJ business, and once a while I will ask the guest what advice would you give to the new bride and groom...? I've gotten some good answers, so I'm coming to you with this question based on advice for a new couple that just married....Words of Wisdom....Tell me what advice would you give to a couple that just got married...?
    never go to bed angry.Words of Wisdom....Tell me what advice would you give to a couple that just got married...?
    hmmm.. advise is.. Ther wil be lots of changes u will be seeing in your parnter as days goes by.. Accept it and never feel that his/her love for u have reduced.. k .. simple advice that i can provide.. thanks
    Communicate.
    mutual understanding,common interest n respect each other,besides everything should be opened n discussed.hope u can do it n remember all these.good luck
    That if they feel an argument comming on hold hands and try not to yell at each other. Anger can make you do and say things you will regret later.
    Love must have brought you together ..Trust oneanother for the good of both ..
    Love, honour, cherish each other, stand by each other in the good times and the


    bad. Don't bad mouth each other during a spat, cool off and talk it out.

    I'm looking for advice on how to become a Queen Elizabeth drag queen. Any words of wisdom out there?

    hi gandalf-ask elton john-he is not a drag queen but i bet he has known several--after all he is the queen's queen---keep smiling and enjoy the nightI'm looking for advice on how to become a Queen Elizabeth drag queen. Any words of wisdom out there?
    What? I thought he was in drag!I'm looking for advice on how to become a Queen Elizabeth drag queen. Any words of wisdom out there?
    Elizabeth I or II?


    For the first one, go with lots of white make-up and one of those big ruffs around your neck.


    If it's the second, big hats. Her dresses themselves really don't seem fancy enough.
    When I think of the queen I think of her in a dowdy suit with gloves and tiara and waving her as she does (screwing in a light bulb style).





    Perhaps diamonds on neck





    And then something that makes it obv you are of the British Monarch like a flag??





    Oh, and a really ugly boxy black handbag, matching shoes and perhaps tea stained teeth.





    The drag-queen part? Big shoulders, Leg Muscles





    Love it!


    Go here too:





    http://www.royal.gov.uk/output/Page6.asp
    Find a place that sells ventage clothing. If inexperience with make-up find a girl to help you who will take this task seriously and not try to make you look like a whore. Wear long sleeves and ankle length dress to cover hair and muscles. Wear gloves, nail polish and Elizabeth will not mix. You also will need to try to make your face as light as possible, almost goth like, to really look authentic.





    I am kind of assuming your not a generic drag queen...if you are sorry for waisting your time since I really don't have many ideas on the Queen part.
    Buy a tiara %26amp; hide your candy.
    bad question to ask.





    find to use Queen Elizabeth name. poor tacks
    The beard shouldn't be a problem, but you'll have to package ';the unit'; pretty tightly...
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  • Please send me words of wisdom, comfort or advice.Can u still be in love with an ex after 10 yrs?

    You know how they say you need to kick a guy to the curb if he aint treating you right coz u deserve better. That's what i did to my first love, but now i'm married and i couldn't stop thinking of my ex, and I think of him wit love in my heart after 10 years since the break-up. Some ppl might say hat I need to move, trust me I would do anything to forget him, at least for a while, but memories of him became stronger after I got married to my husband which I think is weird, or could it be that people only fall in love with one person their entire lives. Tht would mean I am in love with the guy I met when I was 14 years old and today I am 28 . And could it be that young that one maybe be, it is possible to fall in love even if grown ups tend to say we are to yong to kn ow what we want.. but I spent a good deal of my teenage years until early adulthood with my ex... I feel guilty that I have no love for my husband, I am with him because i wanted to move on wit a good man.. but it is not easyPlease send me words of wisdom, comfort or advice.Can u still be in love with an ex after 10 yrs?
    You made the choice to be with your husband you got married to him you gave your heart and soul to him so work it out together get marriage counseling. You can fall in love with anyone you choose. It's not right to be thinking of another man while you are married you need to focus on the now and make your marriage and life better. Do something special for your husband and think less about yourself and more for him and you may learn to appreciate him some more you would be surprised. Watch a movie called FIreproof it may help you realize some things.Please send me words of wisdom, comfort or advice.Can u still be in love with an ex after 10 yrs?
    Let me tell you for a fact, it is ok to still love your ex. Just remember why that situation does not exist today.


    Maybe you left for the right reason or the wrong. But, if you current situation is working for you. Stick with it.


    Cherish what was.. But, keep building on what is..
    yes and no bc it will pass it is like a phase
    please understand that you are only in love with the idea of him and the way things were at the time. you've changed, he's changed...trust me, some things are better left in the past. i don't think that you are still in love with him. i think that you loved him at that point in your life. i also think that you should try to work things out with your husband. i know you can't help how you feel, but you can control your actions. but alas, if you truly don't love him, he deserves someone who does. and trust me, if your husband is a good man, g'luck trying to find that again.
    I FEEL YOU. IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOVE HIM STILL BUT I THINK ITS JUST YOU LOVING WHAT USED TO BE. I HAD MY FIRST LOVE AT 14 AS WELL WE WEREN'T TOGETHER FOR THAT LONG 2 YEARS. HOWEVER I THOUGHT HE WAS MY SOUL MATE SOMETIMES STILL DO. I TOO AM MARRIED WITH TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN BUT I OFTEN MISS WHAT I ONCE HAD. BEFORE I MARRIED AND HAD MY KIDS I ALWAYS VISUALISED HIM AND I GETTING BACK TOGETHER ONCE I HAD IT ALL. AFTER OUR RELATIONSHIP HE BECAME MY BEST FRIEND. I COULD STILL FEEL THE LOVE. AFTER BEING TOLD BY SEVERAL PEOPLE THAT HE STILL LOVED ME AND YOU COULD COMPLETELY SEE IT IN HIS EYES I STILL IGNORED IT. I LOVED HIM AND STILL LOVE HIM TIL THIS DAY HOWEVER SOMETIMES YOU REALISE THAT ALL THOUGH YOUR HEART WANTS SOMETHING IT ISN'T THE BEST THING FOR YOU.I LET HIM GO FOR SEVERAL REASONS. I KNOW THAT IT WAS THE BEST THING FOR ME I DO MISS HIM TREMENDOUSLY OCCASIONALLY AND EVERY NOW AND THEN DROP IN ON HIS MYSPACE PAGE LOL. I KNOW ITS TIME TO LET GO. I THINK YOUR IN LOVE WITH THE MEMORIES ONLY THE GOOD ONES. OBVIOUSLY SOMETHING TORE THE TWO OF YOU APART WHEATHER IT BE A GOOD REASON OR ONE OF STUPIDITY IT WAS DONE. I AM ONE WHO BELIEVES THINGS HAPPEN FOR REASONS. I BELIEVE THAT YOU MET YOUR HUSBAND A GOOD MAN BECAUSE ITS WHAT YOU DESERVE. ITS NOT THAT YOU DONT LOVE HIM ITS THAT YOU FIND ALL THE FLAWS WANTING NOT TO LOVE HIM BUT WHEN YOU LOOK INTO HIS EYES AND HE GIVES YOU THAT LOOK OR WHEN HE DOES SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU GIGGLE OR MAKES YOU THINK IM LUCKY YOU KNOW YOU DO. MY HUSBAND IS A BEAUTIFUL MAN SO I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. ITS BEEN 10 YEARS BUT HE WAS YOUR FIRST LOVE. THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIM FOR FOREVER BUT JUST REMEMBER ITS THAT MAN YOUR WITH THAT BREAKS HIS BACK TO GIVE YOU AND YOUR KIDS EVERYTHING HE CAN. THAT HE LOVES YOU WITH ALL HIS HEART AND YOU KNOW THAT HE WILL NEVER DO ANYTHING TO EVER HURT YOU. IF HE'S ANYTHING LIKE MINE GIRL YOU NEED TO REALISE WHAT YOU HAVE BEFORE YOU LET HIM GO. THERE AREN'T MANY LIKE THEM ANYMORE AND YOU CAN CONSIDER US ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES! SOMETIMES WE ARE JUST TO STUPID TO REALISE IT. SORRY FOR THE ESSAY LOL.
    Is it possaible here that you truly believe that you don't deserve a good man? Do you think you deserve a man who is a ';problem child'; in your life who treats you badly? The start of your question sounded like you were describing your former relationship (plus you were still a child when you were with him). If I interpreted this accurately, then this is a self-esteem issue, honey. Seriously, get yourself into some counseling with a female counselor who specializes in women's issues. Please don't give up on your marriage yet. If he is a truly good man, ask him to be patient while you work on yourself and try to get through these emotional issues. You are not required to tell him what those issues are, but let him know you are really stuck with some problems from your past and you are trying to work them through. I wish you well, hon.
    It is quite possible to be in love with someone yet know it is impossible for you to live with him - for your own health and sanity. As for having trouble letting go, many psychologists believe that we biologically imprint on our early loves from our teen years - that is, our experiences are so new and intense then that they leave a lifelong impression on us. That would explain why so many people never ever completely get over their first love. That being said, in those same teen years our brains are not yet fully developed - that does not happen until our mid-20's. That explains why so many of those first loves don't survive forever - when our brains are developing we make many decisions that we later realize were not safe or appropriate for who we are as adults. So what you are feeling for your ex in not unusual. As for your husband, why did you marry him? I suspect you are more in love with him than you may realize. Try spending more time alone having fun with him talking with him like you did when you were dating. And if you can't work this out on your own, find someone to talk to - a counselor, a pastor - so that you can get your life on track again and put those loving memories of the past where they belong now - in your past - so you can truly enjoy living in the present.
    have you considered having him for a little bit of fun on the side?

    What is the best advice anyone has ever given you and did you accept their words of wisdom?

    One of my very good friends pulled me aside when I was in Maui the day before my wedding. He told me that he loved and respected me (as a friend) and that if I wasn't ready to get married to my husband (now my ex) that I didn't have to and that he would make all the arrangements if I chose not to get married the next day. He also told me that no matter what, he would still love and respect me despite any decision I made. I really should have listened to him and to my heart that day and said NO. It was disastrous from the wedding on. Wasted a lot of time and A LOT of money.What is the best advice anyone has ever given you and did you accept their words of wisdom?
    I was told by my parents to always try to be the best person I could be. Always tell the truth no matter what, don't lie, cheat or steal and treat others the way I would like to be treated. Sometimes the truth hurts but it's better than lying.


    Yes I listened. Peace n smiles :`))What is the best advice anyone has ever given you and did you accept their words of wisdom?
    My parents advised me not to lie, steal and hurt others. I obeyed to some extent. When grew up, they asked me not to smoke. That still I could not obey, but I am trying hard to.
    Liquor before beer-you're in the clear


    beer before liquor-you'll never be sicker


    yes i did accept these words of wisdom:)
    Never write a check you can't cash. That goes with giving your word and is a metaphor for a great many things.
    Find out what you Love to do in Life and the figure out how to get paid for doing it !





    It has been my life's motto. It has worked for ME ;)))))))))))))
    I don't remember but I'm sure I have listened on occasion but I'm stubborn so I wouldn't bet on it
    An old man at a bar...


    ';Never worry or fret over something you can NOT change.';


    An old Lady at a bar...


    ';Quit looking for true love....soon as you do, Love will find you.';
    never say never ! yes i did head the adviceyou just never no !
    Yes,when taking a piss from a moving vehicle,stand downwind.
    GOD... (JESUS CHRIST)...Proverbs and Ecclesiastes is the best wisdom in the life.
    Do what ever job you are doing to the best of your ability and with honor and pride!
    When you're in the lead never look back to see who's gaining on you, I don't and I'm still in the lead.
    My dad told me never eat anything bigger than your head. I tried it once in Vegas. He was right.
    to get my education for that is the one thing that can never fail me...i listened.
    What goes around comes around, I learned that from a tether ball.
    My father told me don't lose men I do it once I think he is Right
    don't steal or you'll go to jail. yes I kept it

    I am so devestated...And I need advice and/or words of wisdom?

    I have been dating a guy for a year and a half ( known him for 4 years) we work together and also live together. He just accepted a job offer about 90 miles away where he will have to move. Problem is, I have a child from a previous marriage (as does he) and my child has special needs and cannot be transferred from his school district, plus my ex is very much involved in his life so I cannot leave to move with my boyfriend and leave my son behind. I am so hurt, I feel like my b/f is abandoning me and I feel so worthless. I know its silly but thats how i feel..It's like if I was good enough he wouldnt be able to leave. the job offer is for SO much more money, and I understand that part of it but, again, we are a big part of each others lives. He asked me to go wtih him but I can't leave my son. Can you give me some advice, and also maybe a song that can help me through this, i am completely devestated.. i can't eat, i can't sleep, and we live together and its like we are counting down the days...i'm sick to my stomach.I am so devestated...And I need advice and/or words of wisdom?
    I dont see why him accepting the job offer is a bad thing. If you guys have a strong relationship full of love and trust you can make it through. Long distance relationships work and last if the people are right for one another. With there being more money involved, ecspecially much more, he may be thinking more into the future of your relationship and is planning on saving for your future together. Then maybe, when the time is right, he will be able to move back or you move to him.I am so devestated...And I need advice and/or words of wisdom?
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TIzPR8i9l鈥?/a>


    Through the Eyes of Love (theme from ice castles)





    Your kids come first. You had them. They didnt ask for this. Love is so beautiful but it can hurt so much. The kids have to come first.

    Outside of spam and one word answers, what is the WORST advice you've ever gotten here?

    Let's hear it!Outside of spam and one word answers, what is the WORST advice you've ever gotten here?
    A hate filled email in response to one of my answers suggesting I stick my head up my own @rse. Not as easy as it sounds,won't be attempting it again!Outside of spam and one word answers, what is the WORST advice you've ever gotten here?
    But Mr. Hat, other than one-word answers, and the occasional spam (jessica), and the bad advice (see jasonlai's ';advice';) I haven't seen anything else!


    Okay, I was joking - it's April 1st today!


    Personally, I never ask for advice.
    I've never asked for advice. And i don't ask that many questions so i haven't gotten any bad answers.
    this guy was a being a nasty to me and this person told me to report him to scotland yard!


    i never did though
    Read A Bible.

    Any help advice out there, words of comfort.?

    i live in a house with a lot of tension- just this morning i went downstairs and there was a notice posted on the door of one of the tenants- about the state of the toilet is left- i wont say what it said-


    but the same tenant drinks a lot- he was also in a fight and had a black eye- and there is something creepy about Him- im hoping he would just disappear but nothing happens- i hate these situations- what can i do- the landlord and lady know all about itAny help advice out there, words of comfort.?
    You could make several anonymous tip offs to the police about drug deals taking place. It may seem malicious, but it sounds as if there is something dodgy about him, and the police might find incriminating evidence about him. If the police visit him enough times, he could be in breach of his tenancy agreement.Any help advice out there, words of comfort.?
    Make sure your door is locked if you feel unsafe, and that you have a plan for help protection (police phone number in mobile, or buy mobile, legal weapon/plan for self defence.) I'm not suggesting you are particularly at risk, but the fact that you have posted the question indicates that you are worried.


    Aside from that, if he doesn't bother you otherwise, keep out of his way and get on with your life. There are people who get drunk and then when in this state get in fights, but who normally wouldn't bother anyone.
    Avoid the person, do not provoke them, tell your parents %26amp; if they don't listen tell another relative or an official at your school.
    You have to rise above it. Do not bother with this person ever.





    You are not being blamed.





    Hope things improve and the tenant leaves.
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  • Survey, have you ever heard any good advice in the words of a song?

    Please name title / singer





    here is an example http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JDRYPTX6鈥?/a>





    Thanks guysSurvey, have you ever heard any good advice in the words of a song?
    Bob Dylan ~ ';Rainy Day Women # 12 %26amp; 35';


    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KUogzf1h2鈥?/a>Survey, have you ever heard any good advice in the words of a song?
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    please try again.
    If today was your last day - NickleBack





    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qejVzYDXc鈥?/a>
    I have indeed, John Lennon with Imagine.
    It's good to look back


    But it's best not to stare





    Tom Petty...Big Weekend
    queens of the stone age - go with the flow





    sometimes its just better not to fight it.
    Prince - Money don't matter 2night.

    In less than ten words....give me one bit of advice for the New Year to change my life?

    I have three 9 word answers, take your pick:





    a. Ask others, listen , but then follow your own advice.





    b. Don't limit your life to simple, nine word answers.





    c. Pick one habit to change and stick with it.In less than ten words....give me one bit of advice for the New Year to change my life?
    Live every day like it's your last; nothing's guaranteed.In less than ten words....give me one bit of advice for the New Year to change my life?
    Live more, Love more, Work hard, Think positive, Help others
    forgiveness !!!!! you'll be surprised how well it will make you feel.