What advice can i give him? or words of comfort?

My brother married to his wife for 7 years is in need of comfort.... He has 2 girls with her. She left him the begining of January because she felt she was not happy in the marriage. He has changed alot and wants his family to be together. They both have seperate houses.. WEll she came back into the picture about three weeks ago. before she never wanted to see him nor talk to him other than things having to do with the kids. Well 3 weeks ago she hugs him and kisses him..giving him thoughts she wants to work it out. its been 6months of sepearation and he gave her an ultimadim.. 3 days ago she says i want to work it out...and he was super excited but then she starts crying.. and admitted to sleeping with someonelse.. now my brother is torn because he was the only person she had been with..and now that was gone.. he wants his family but every time he sees her he imagines her and the other man. Now my brother is calling me in tears asking what do i do? i don't know what to say? help?What advice can i give him? or words of comfort?
Just tell him





DOn't tell me bout yo mama's draws cuz she is stank and you are too.What advice can i give him? or words of comfort?
They need some counseling and to talk these issues out. As far as him being the only one she had ever been with, that may very well be why she wanted to ';test the waters'; outside the marriage a little bit. It may be hard on his ego to know he isn't the only one she has ever been touched by, but honestly that idea is a little bit antiquated anyway. The bigger issues are why she felt the need to leave and can they reconcile the marriage, especially for the kids sake.
He should make sure she's not just coming back to him because she's pregnant. Also make her get tested for STDs. If all checks out, I would tale her back and try to make it work. For better or for worse is part of the vows for a reason. I think if he tries to forgive her and make it work, he'll be happier in the long run.
Tell him that two wrongs can make a right Tell him tit for tat go and have an affair and hopefully he'll feel better and if this isn't part of his logic then tell him to take her back at least they'll be back together time will heal his wounds. S H I T happens he needs to ask himself if the shoe was on the other foot how does he think she would feel. Hell men been doing the s h i t for years and now the tables turn on them it's the end of the world boo f-ing who
Did she sleep with someone else when they were together or apart? If together I can understand his pain because that was deceitful, but if when they were separated, he needs to get over himself... I mean, I'm sure he has been with other woman and it is unfair of him to say ';every time he sees her that he sees her with another man'; It is rare to find anyone now a days that have only been with one or two people, If he wants to work it out with her then he just has to get past that. They still have two kids and a history.
My heart goes out to your brother and the kids. Maybe counseling will help them. To leave your husband is one thing but to leave the children is a totally different. That is very selfish and inconsiderate of her. I could never trust her after that and look at what she is putting the kids thru. My guess is that she left her family for this other man and it did not work with this other man and now she wants to come back home because she knows your brother loves her and will take her back.


I personally think he would do better in the long run without her.
I would suggest they get into family counselling, during break ups, people usually tend to gravitate towards someone that will comfort them during times of stress. Was it because she was with someone else that she left in the first place? infidelity can be worked out, if both want it that way. What's gone is gone, if he really wants to work it out, he needs to grieve for what is lost, and look towards the future, whether that be with her or with out her.
Honestly, I think he needs healing and he needs space from her, romantically, until he can figure out whether he can forgive her mistakes or not.





Remind him that no matter how much both of them wanted to, they can not change their past, and that maybe, if they really wants to make everything work (their marriage and their family) they will have to focus on the future...
Tell him the only reason she is coming back is because she left him for another man and the other guy used her up and now has dumped her skanky a s s and he is her fall back on man!!
They weren't together when this happened? He needs to get past it, if he really wants his family. However, she left once. What's to say she won't leave again? What changes did he have to make? Does he need counseling- from a professional? When he's imagining her with this other man, He's causing it to happen right then in his head. She's not doing it anymore. And she did not have to tell him. Lot's of people would not have. They really need professional counseling or to move on.
She was honest with him and that's huge, and for her to admit that must of been the toughest thing she has ever done. She could have said nothing but there is obvious and sincere guilt. Counciling for both will be a must and it will take time for the hurt to go away. I respect her for being truthful when so many would of lied or said nothing. I believe she truly loves him to be this honest with him.
If your brother believes that she is sincere and sorry then he should look in his heart and decide whether he has it in him to forgive her. Then suggest counseling, this mistake and unconditional love from your brother couild seal their marriage tight forever if they can make it through this rough time. I personally know of two people in my life that this has happened to and they have been married for at least twenty years past the horrible mistakes of the wifes...so there is hope.

Advice me on the best words of wisdom to give a saved friend with a fiancee abroad and is worried of her age?

God knows all before anything happens. Your fiancee chose you, and loves you just the way you are.Advice me on the best words of wisdom to give a saved friend with a fiancee abroad and is worried of her age?
sorry- I don't understand the question

Words of Wisdom....Tell me what advice would you give to a couple that just got married...?

I own a mobile DJ business, and once a while I will ask the guest what advice would you give to the new bride and groom...? I've gotten some good answers, so I'm coming to you with this question based on advice for a new couple that just married....Words of Wisdom....Tell me what advice would you give to a couple that just got married...?
never go to bed angry.Words of Wisdom....Tell me what advice would you give to a couple that just got married...?
hmmm.. advise is.. Ther wil be lots of changes u will be seeing in your parnter as days goes by.. Accept it and never feel that his/her love for u have reduced.. k .. simple advice that i can provide.. thanks
Communicate.
mutual understanding,common interest n respect each other,besides everything should be opened n discussed.hope u can do it n remember all these.good luck
That if they feel an argument comming on hold hands and try not to yell at each other. Anger can make you do and say things you will regret later.
Love must have brought you together ..Trust oneanother for the good of both ..
Love, honour, cherish each other, stand by each other in the good times and the


bad. Don't bad mouth each other during a spat, cool off and talk it out.

I'm looking for advice on how to become a Queen Elizabeth drag queen. Any words of wisdom out there?

hi gandalf-ask elton john-he is not a drag queen but i bet he has known several--after all he is the queen's queen---keep smiling and enjoy the nightI'm looking for advice on how to become a Queen Elizabeth drag queen. Any words of wisdom out there?
What? I thought he was in drag!I'm looking for advice on how to become a Queen Elizabeth drag queen. Any words of wisdom out there?
Elizabeth I or II?


For the first one, go with lots of white make-up and one of those big ruffs around your neck.


If it's the second, big hats. Her dresses themselves really don't seem fancy enough.
When I think of the queen I think of her in a dowdy suit with gloves and tiara and waving her as she does (screwing in a light bulb style).





Perhaps diamonds on neck





And then something that makes it obv you are of the British Monarch like a flag??





Oh, and a really ugly boxy black handbag, matching shoes and perhaps tea stained teeth.





The drag-queen part? Big shoulders, Leg Muscles





Love it!


Go here too:





http://www.royal.gov.uk/output/Page6.asp
Find a place that sells ventage clothing. If inexperience with make-up find a girl to help you who will take this task seriously and not try to make you look like a whore. Wear long sleeves and ankle length dress to cover hair and muscles. Wear gloves, nail polish and Elizabeth will not mix. You also will need to try to make your face as light as possible, almost goth like, to really look authentic.





I am kind of assuming your not a generic drag queen...if you are sorry for waisting your time since I really don't have many ideas on the Queen part.
Buy a tiara %26amp; hide your candy.
bad question to ask.





find to use Queen Elizabeth name. poor tacks
The beard shouldn't be a problem, but you'll have to package ';the unit'; pretty tightly...

neutrogena

Please send me words of wisdom, comfort or advice.Can u still be in love with an ex after 10 yrs?

You know how they say you need to kick a guy to the curb if he aint treating you right coz u deserve better. That's what i did to my first love, but now i'm married and i couldn't stop thinking of my ex, and I think of him wit love in my heart after 10 years since the break-up. Some ppl might say hat I need to move, trust me I would do anything to forget him, at least for a while, but memories of him became stronger after I got married to my husband which I think is weird, or could it be that people only fall in love with one person their entire lives. Tht would mean I am in love with the guy I met when I was 14 years old and today I am 28 . And could it be that young that one maybe be, it is possible to fall in love even if grown ups tend to say we are to yong to kn ow what we want.. but I spent a good deal of my teenage years until early adulthood with my ex... I feel guilty that I have no love for my husband, I am with him because i wanted to move on wit a good man.. but it is not easyPlease send me words of wisdom, comfort or advice.Can u still be in love with an ex after 10 yrs?
You made the choice to be with your husband you got married to him you gave your heart and soul to him so work it out together get marriage counseling. You can fall in love with anyone you choose. It's not right to be thinking of another man while you are married you need to focus on the now and make your marriage and life better. Do something special for your husband and think less about yourself and more for him and you may learn to appreciate him some more you would be surprised. Watch a movie called FIreproof it may help you realize some things.Please send me words of wisdom, comfort or advice.Can u still be in love with an ex after 10 yrs?
Let me tell you for a fact, it is ok to still love your ex. Just remember why that situation does not exist today.


Maybe you left for the right reason or the wrong. But, if you current situation is working for you. Stick with it.


Cherish what was.. But, keep building on what is..
yes and no bc it will pass it is like a phase
please understand that you are only in love with the idea of him and the way things were at the time. you've changed, he's changed...trust me, some things are better left in the past. i don't think that you are still in love with him. i think that you loved him at that point in your life. i also think that you should try to work things out with your husband. i know you can't help how you feel, but you can control your actions. but alas, if you truly don't love him, he deserves someone who does. and trust me, if your husband is a good man, g'luck trying to find that again.
I FEEL YOU. IT IS POSSIBLE TO LOVE HIM STILL BUT I THINK ITS JUST YOU LOVING WHAT USED TO BE. I HAD MY FIRST LOVE AT 14 AS WELL WE WEREN'T TOGETHER FOR THAT LONG 2 YEARS. HOWEVER I THOUGHT HE WAS MY SOUL MATE SOMETIMES STILL DO. I TOO AM MARRIED WITH TWO BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN BUT I OFTEN MISS WHAT I ONCE HAD. BEFORE I MARRIED AND HAD MY KIDS I ALWAYS VISUALISED HIM AND I GETTING BACK TOGETHER ONCE I HAD IT ALL. AFTER OUR RELATIONSHIP HE BECAME MY BEST FRIEND. I COULD STILL FEEL THE LOVE. AFTER BEING TOLD BY SEVERAL PEOPLE THAT HE STILL LOVED ME AND YOU COULD COMPLETELY SEE IT IN HIS EYES I STILL IGNORED IT. I LOVED HIM AND STILL LOVE HIM TIL THIS DAY HOWEVER SOMETIMES YOU REALISE THAT ALL THOUGH YOUR HEART WANTS SOMETHING IT ISN'T THE BEST THING FOR YOU.I LET HIM GO FOR SEVERAL REASONS. I KNOW THAT IT WAS THE BEST THING FOR ME I DO MISS HIM TREMENDOUSLY OCCASIONALLY AND EVERY NOW AND THEN DROP IN ON HIS MYSPACE PAGE LOL. I KNOW ITS TIME TO LET GO. I THINK YOUR IN LOVE WITH THE MEMORIES ONLY THE GOOD ONES. OBVIOUSLY SOMETHING TORE THE TWO OF YOU APART WHEATHER IT BE A GOOD REASON OR ONE OF STUPIDITY IT WAS DONE. I AM ONE WHO BELIEVES THINGS HAPPEN FOR REASONS. I BELIEVE THAT YOU MET YOUR HUSBAND A GOOD MAN BECAUSE ITS WHAT YOU DESERVE. ITS NOT THAT YOU DONT LOVE HIM ITS THAT YOU FIND ALL THE FLAWS WANTING NOT TO LOVE HIM BUT WHEN YOU LOOK INTO HIS EYES AND HE GIVES YOU THAT LOOK OR WHEN HE DOES SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU GIGGLE OR MAKES YOU THINK IM LUCKY YOU KNOW YOU DO. MY HUSBAND IS A BEAUTIFUL MAN SO I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. ITS BEEN 10 YEARS BUT HE WAS YOUR FIRST LOVE. THAT WILL NEVER CHANGE YOU WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIM FOR FOREVER BUT JUST REMEMBER ITS THAT MAN YOUR WITH THAT BREAKS HIS BACK TO GIVE YOU AND YOUR KIDS EVERYTHING HE CAN. THAT HE LOVES YOU WITH ALL HIS HEART AND YOU KNOW THAT HE WILL NEVER DO ANYTHING TO EVER HURT YOU. IF HE'S ANYTHING LIKE MINE GIRL YOU NEED TO REALISE WHAT YOU HAVE BEFORE YOU LET HIM GO. THERE AREN'T MANY LIKE THEM ANYMORE AND YOU CAN CONSIDER US ONE OF THE LUCKY ONES! SOMETIMES WE ARE JUST TO STUPID TO REALISE IT. SORRY FOR THE ESSAY LOL.
Is it possaible here that you truly believe that you don't deserve a good man? Do you think you deserve a man who is a ';problem child'; in your life who treats you badly? The start of your question sounded like you were describing your former relationship (plus you were still a child when you were with him). If I interpreted this accurately, then this is a self-esteem issue, honey. Seriously, get yourself into some counseling with a female counselor who specializes in women's issues. Please don't give up on your marriage yet. If he is a truly good man, ask him to be patient while you work on yourself and try to get through these emotional issues. You are not required to tell him what those issues are, but let him know you are really stuck with some problems from your past and you are trying to work them through. I wish you well, hon.
It is quite possible to be in love with someone yet know it is impossible for you to live with him - for your own health and sanity. As for having trouble letting go, many psychologists believe that we biologically imprint on our early loves from our teen years - that is, our experiences are so new and intense then that they leave a lifelong impression on us. That would explain why so many people never ever completely get over their first love. That being said, in those same teen years our brains are not yet fully developed - that does not happen until our mid-20's. That explains why so many of those first loves don't survive forever - when our brains are developing we make many decisions that we later realize were not safe or appropriate for who we are as adults. So what you are feeling for your ex in not unusual. As for your husband, why did you marry him? I suspect you are more in love with him than you may realize. Try spending more time alone having fun with him talking with him like you did when you were dating. And if you can't work this out on your own, find someone to talk to - a counselor, a pastor - so that you can get your life on track again and put those loving memories of the past where they belong now - in your past - so you can truly enjoy living in the present.
have you considered having him for a little bit of fun on the side?

What is the best advice anyone has ever given you and did you accept their words of wisdom?

One of my very good friends pulled me aside when I was in Maui the day before my wedding. He told me that he loved and respected me (as a friend) and that if I wasn't ready to get married to my husband (now my ex) that I didn't have to and that he would make all the arrangements if I chose not to get married the next day. He also told me that no matter what, he would still love and respect me despite any decision I made. I really should have listened to him and to my heart that day and said NO. It was disastrous from the wedding on. Wasted a lot of time and A LOT of money.What is the best advice anyone has ever given you and did you accept their words of wisdom?
I was told by my parents to always try to be the best person I could be. Always tell the truth no matter what, don't lie, cheat or steal and treat others the way I would like to be treated. Sometimes the truth hurts but it's better than lying.


Yes I listened. Peace n smiles :`))What is the best advice anyone has ever given you and did you accept their words of wisdom?
My parents advised me not to lie, steal and hurt others. I obeyed to some extent. When grew up, they asked me not to smoke. That still I could not obey, but I am trying hard to.
Liquor before beer-you're in the clear


beer before liquor-you'll never be sicker


yes i did accept these words of wisdom:)
Never write a check you can't cash. That goes with giving your word and is a metaphor for a great many things.
Find out what you Love to do in Life and the figure out how to get paid for doing it !





It has been my life's motto. It has worked for ME ;)))))))))))))
I don't remember but I'm sure I have listened on occasion but I'm stubborn so I wouldn't bet on it
An old man at a bar...


';Never worry or fret over something you can NOT change.';


An old Lady at a bar...


';Quit looking for true love....soon as you do, Love will find you.';
never say never ! yes i did head the adviceyou just never no !
Yes,when taking a piss from a moving vehicle,stand downwind.
GOD... (JESUS CHRIST)...Proverbs and Ecclesiastes is the best wisdom in the life.
Do what ever job you are doing to the best of your ability and with honor and pride!
When you're in the lead never look back to see who's gaining on you, I don't and I'm still in the lead.
My dad told me never eat anything bigger than your head. I tried it once in Vegas. He was right.
to get my education for that is the one thing that can never fail me...i listened.
What goes around comes around, I learned that from a tether ball.
My father told me don't lose men I do it once I think he is Right
don't steal or you'll go to jail. yes I kept it

I am so devestated...And I need advice and/or words of wisdom?

I have been dating a guy for a year and a half ( known him for 4 years) we work together and also live together. He just accepted a job offer about 90 miles away where he will have to move. Problem is, I have a child from a previous marriage (as does he) and my child has special needs and cannot be transferred from his school district, plus my ex is very much involved in his life so I cannot leave to move with my boyfriend and leave my son behind. I am so hurt, I feel like my b/f is abandoning me and I feel so worthless. I know its silly but thats how i feel..It's like if I was good enough he wouldnt be able to leave. the job offer is for SO much more money, and I understand that part of it but, again, we are a big part of each others lives. He asked me to go wtih him but I can't leave my son. Can you give me some advice, and also maybe a song that can help me through this, i am completely devestated.. i can't eat, i can't sleep, and we live together and its like we are counting down the days...i'm sick to my stomach.I am so devestated...And I need advice and/or words of wisdom?
I dont see why him accepting the job offer is a bad thing. If you guys have a strong relationship full of love and trust you can make it through. Long distance relationships work and last if the people are right for one another. With there being more money involved, ecspecially much more, he may be thinking more into the future of your relationship and is planning on saving for your future together. Then maybe, when the time is right, he will be able to move back or you move to him.I am so devestated...And I need advice and/or words of wisdom?
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Through the Eyes of Love (theme from ice castles)





Your kids come first. You had them. They didnt ask for this. Love is so beautiful but it can hurt so much. The kids have to come first.