';your not promised anything but family the rest is xtraWhat are some words of wisdom or advice you have received that has really touched you?
Someone once asked me what I want in life. I told him I want to be happy his answer was: So be Happy. And you know what if you want to be happy you can be happy in any situation. It is definetely a matter of choice. I have gone through alot in my lifetime and that is the one thing that has pulled me through. Happiness.
Friday, July 30, 2010
I'll be getting a high school exchange student from Thailand this summer. Any words of wisdom or advice?
I live in the US and she will stay with us for the school year. How hard will it be for her to adjust to new culture, foods? Is there anything really important that I shouldn't miss? What are some things that may be completely different here (i.e. hygiene, laundry, food etc. ) I'm looking for concrete examples.
I want her to feel really welcome. We are a caring and affectionate family.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!I'll be getting a high school exchange student from Thailand this summer. Any words of wisdom or advice?
We had an exchange student too from Japan last year!
Common problems:
1) Language Barrier : make sure you speak slowly %26amp; that she understands you.. sometimes, conflicts arise from being lost in translation. Be patient, it can be frustrating.
2) Religion: ask what is her Religious orientation; does she has a daily routine like praying, reading their bible, etc.If she has a daily rituals then respect her privacy. Our student is Buddhist %26amp; once a week she had to burn incense in her room (which always activate the fire-alarm %26amp; stinks the whole room), so we suggested in a polite way to change the location, hence we found a spot by the Garden.
3) Food: what she can %26amp; cannot eat; Any food Allergens! In North America, toast, cereal and/or coffee are the common breakfast; In other culture esp Asia, they eat rice or soup in the morning, so don't be surprise if she wants full meal in the morning. Our Japanese student always asked for noodle soup in am. Don't be perplexed %26amp; don't look at her when she eats, or she will feel unwelcome or embarrassed and never to ask again! In Japan, they eat raw fish but no pork; Ask your student what she's allowed to eat, vegetarian,vegan or anything ! (Note: In some Culture they pray before each meal...)
4) Electronic Stuffs (i.e. Micro's;Laundry Machine;blow dryer,etc): explain %26amp; demonstrate how it works, it might be different from what she's used to. Ask if she brought any electronic gadgets %26amp; explain that she can't use any of them bcos of the voltage (Asia is 220 volts, NA is 110). Our japanese student blew off our fuse one time bcos she used her hairdyer w/c is 220.
5) Always offer anything %26amp; open your line of communication, sometimes, she might be shy to ask.
6) Be supportive, bcos of homesickness your student might feel low %26amp; withdrawn. To avoid this, invite your student to all activities %26amp; show her around. Travel to nearby cities. Ask your student to teach you their language, anything that will kill the homesickness!
7) Be respectful of her Culture. Don't make fun or say negative criticisms about her country. Or mimic her accent, that is considered racism!
8) Lastly, advised your student that before travelling, she should purchase a Medical Insurance that is valid for a year (that is renewable in case she decides to stay longer).
9) And of course, have lots of fun!I'll be getting a high school exchange student from Thailand this summer. Any words of wisdom or advice?
find out more about Thailand foods,ask the exchange student open questions,like what she likes and doesn't like
there is nothing like a good exchange communication
http://fooddownunder.com/cgi-bin/search.鈥?/a>
Try to find places in your city like thai restaurants and small asian food markets where she can go and buy some foods from her country, that will help her see that you are making an attempt to make her comfortable. Take her places and show her different things here, and help her with learning the english language and ask her to help you learn her native tongue, trust me, it will be fun. I recently worked with a girl from Thailand for three months and she is one of the best people I have ever met, very appreciative and respectful young lady whom I will remember for the rest of my life. She liked going and seeing different places, was intrigued by Barnes and Noble and she loves to shop because name brand items are really expensive in thailand. Our dollar is worth about 34 baht. Be patient with her and help her, you actually have more to learn from her than she does from you. They say thank you alot and do a little repectful bow which is part of their culture, and the thai word for thank you is said like: kob khun kai. TRY TO LEARN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN.
research her country. on the first night try to prepare her a meal from her country, in order to make her feel a little bit more comfortable. after that just be nice to her and let her have an authentic U.S. experience.beauty advice
I want her to feel really welcome. We are a caring and affectionate family.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!I'll be getting a high school exchange student from Thailand this summer. Any words of wisdom or advice?
We had an exchange student too from Japan last year!
Common problems:
1) Language Barrier : make sure you speak slowly %26amp; that she understands you.. sometimes, conflicts arise from being lost in translation. Be patient, it can be frustrating.
2) Religion: ask what is her Religious orientation; does she has a daily routine like praying, reading their bible, etc.If she has a daily rituals then respect her privacy. Our student is Buddhist %26amp; once a week she had to burn incense in her room (which always activate the fire-alarm %26amp; stinks the whole room), so we suggested in a polite way to change the location, hence we found a spot by the Garden.
3) Food: what she can %26amp; cannot eat; Any food Allergens! In North America, toast, cereal and/or coffee are the common breakfast; In other culture esp Asia, they eat rice or soup in the morning, so don't be surprise if she wants full meal in the morning. Our Japanese student always asked for noodle soup in am. Don't be perplexed %26amp; don't look at her when she eats, or she will feel unwelcome or embarrassed and never to ask again! In Japan, they eat raw fish but no pork; Ask your student what she's allowed to eat, vegetarian,vegan or anything ! (Note: In some Culture they pray before each meal...)
4) Electronic Stuffs (i.e. Micro's;Laundry Machine;blow dryer,etc): explain %26amp; demonstrate how it works, it might be different from what she's used to. Ask if she brought any electronic gadgets %26amp; explain that she can't use any of them bcos of the voltage (Asia is 220 volts, NA is 110). Our japanese student blew off our fuse one time bcos she used her hairdyer w/c is 220.
5) Always offer anything %26amp; open your line of communication, sometimes, she might be shy to ask.
6) Be supportive, bcos of homesickness your student might feel low %26amp; withdrawn. To avoid this, invite your student to all activities %26amp; show her around. Travel to nearby cities. Ask your student to teach you their language, anything that will kill the homesickness!
7) Be respectful of her Culture. Don't make fun or say negative criticisms about her country. Or mimic her accent, that is considered racism!
8) Lastly, advised your student that before travelling, she should purchase a Medical Insurance that is valid for a year (that is renewable in case she decides to stay longer).
9) And of course, have lots of fun!I'll be getting a high school exchange student from Thailand this summer. Any words of wisdom or advice?
find out more about Thailand foods,ask the exchange student open questions,like what she likes and doesn't like
there is nothing like a good exchange communication
http://fooddownunder.com/cgi-bin/search.鈥?/a>
Try to find places in your city like thai restaurants and small asian food markets where she can go and buy some foods from her country, that will help her see that you are making an attempt to make her comfortable. Take her places and show her different things here, and help her with learning the english language and ask her to help you learn her native tongue, trust me, it will be fun. I recently worked with a girl from Thailand for three months and she is one of the best people I have ever met, very appreciative and respectful young lady whom I will remember for the rest of my life. She liked going and seeing different places, was intrigued by Barnes and Noble and she loves to shop because name brand items are really expensive in thailand. Our dollar is worth about 34 baht. Be patient with her and help her, you actually have more to learn from her than she does from you. They say thank you alot and do a little repectful bow which is part of their culture, and the thai word for thank you is said like: kob khun kai. TRY TO LEARN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN.
research her country. on the first night try to prepare her a meal from her country, in order to make her feel a little bit more comfortable. after that just be nice to her and let her have an authentic U.S. experience.
My husband and I are considering becoming foster parents. Any words of wisdom or advice?
Laura,
That is so awesome!
There are a couple of families in my church that have had several foster children through the years. One older couple (70's) has a 16 year old! Another mid 30's couple could not have children, so they got a foster child, and then adopted him.
I have long time friends from school that took in a foster child and adopted him. Foster families deserve respect, and you have mine.
There are all kinds of scenarios you will run into. Some will be pretty normal kids and their ';stuff';.
There are other situations where there has been problems with drug-abuse, sexual abuse, etc.
My wife's family is life long friends of one foster family. The little girl's mom was a crackhead. She (R) was a crack baby just a few months old. The doctors told them she would not live more than six months. She was blind, deaf and mute. They fed her through a tube.
She lived to be 16 years old. She died unable to see, speak or hear, but she communicated love.
When she first came into the foster home, the mom (S) was bedfast almost all the time because of her back.
But when this child (R) came into her life, she had to get up and care for her. Not only did she care for her, she fought for that little girl's life, because R was unable to fight for herself.
It was truly a miracle that R lived as long as she did. S saved her life. But it was equally a miracle that S got up out of bed every day to care for her daughter. Not only did the mom save R's life. The daughter saved the mom's life also.
We know this because R died in March of last year. The mom died three months later.
They are now in Heaven. And they are communicating freely and openly, without physical limitations.
I think Christian foster parents are awesome!
My only advice would be: Love them. No matter what.My husband and I are considering becoming foster parents. Any words of wisdom or advice?
You must be a strong wonderful person!!! I could not imagine having a baby then have to give it back!!! There need to be more people like you in the world!!!My husband and I are considering becoming foster parents. Any words of wisdom or advice?
Many times I considered reaching out to kids who need loving homes...what stopped me? The system. Kids are numbers to them, not people. I couldn't take having children bumped into and out of my life...because I want to provide a stability for them that the system is incapable of providing. Sending them back into homes that are unfit is another fear.
Had a friend who was a social worker. Was supposed to save abused kids...at the end of the day he went home and abused his wife. Had a friend who was supposed to check homes for ';safe environments'; for kids...his house was worse than a vagrants. The system is so back logged with children needing safe havens...they have become numbers. Foster families are few...
The system needs to be revamped, and unfit parents need to not have children.
If a foster family could be long term ';stand in'; parents, then and only then would I consider the honor of raising foster children. Kids are people and they need a whole lot of TLC. Not being placed, uprooted, placed and uprooted. They need loving stability. And all homes should have regular monitoring to protect the children. Foster kids are not slaves. They are children needing extra special love and care that their own families couldn't provide for them.
A man I used to work for and his wife got into taking children from abused homes,they would get them all messed up some had been burned,raped and otherwise abused,they were really good with these children,they had the patiance and love it took,they finally quit,because they would get the kids back almost normal,and the damn judges would put them right back in the homes with the abusers,they'd cry,I won't ever hurt them again,I was just messed up,I'm ok now,WELL a couple of them wasn't and the kids ended up dead,they couldn't take it no more,I tell you this so you might at least think about what kind or phase of help you want to get into,it can be very rewarding,but,also very heartbreaking for you's!!!
My son and his wife were foster parents for several yrs.It's a very demanding but rewarding thing to do.
You need the patience of Jobe,a ton of understanding,and a very big heart along with a lot of patience.More than you could ever realize.
You have to deal with child social workers as well as workers for yourself and your husband.You go through miles and miles of paperwork to get there as well as police checks.You go through checks of your home and deal with the social workers coming in and out of your home on visits with the child/children and visits with yourselves.
I am NOT TRYING TO DISCOURAGE YOU.Just giving you a rough outline of what you'll be facing to become a foster parent. It's hard work but as I said,very rewarding.
It's wonderful when a child comes into your home and very sad when they leave especially if you've had them any length of time.Babies are much easier to deal with than older children.My son had 3-9 yr. olds and faced a lot of difficult situations.
I wish you all the best and good luck.
My friend has been through foster care all of her life and from what I got from her they don't really like it when the foster family's try to control who they hang out with. Good luck and have fun!
Are you doing it for the money or the nurturing that you might be able to give these kids? If you're in it for the money, you're probably going to just do more damage to already screwed up minds. If you're in it for the nurturing, maybe you should consider a full adoption.
get your house ready, and baby proofed, because you never know what you will get, and make sure you have at least three beds for children, because alot of times the children have brothers/sisters, and since the foster fecility does not want to seperate them, they will send all of them to one family. make sure you have children's clothes (used or new) and always be ready for anything when it comes to cases like this, and try not to get TOO attatched to a child, because in many cases, the children are moved around alot... show alot of love and compassion to the children, because they deserve the upmost, and always be ready for anything, because who knows, they might be there to stay!
i dont have ne advice..but i think it's a very nice thing to do, alot of children really need a good adult influence and just someone who actually cares about them. That's great you are considering i hope water decision you make everything goes wonderfully :)
Be sensitive to these children. They come from broken homes and many have been abused.
Dont you have enough worries in your life?
That is so awesome!
There are a couple of families in my church that have had several foster children through the years. One older couple (70's) has a 16 year old! Another mid 30's couple could not have children, so they got a foster child, and then adopted him.
I have long time friends from school that took in a foster child and adopted him. Foster families deserve respect, and you have mine.
There are all kinds of scenarios you will run into. Some will be pretty normal kids and their ';stuff';.
There are other situations where there has been problems with drug-abuse, sexual abuse, etc.
My wife's family is life long friends of one foster family. The little girl's mom was a crackhead. She (R) was a crack baby just a few months old. The doctors told them she would not live more than six months. She was blind, deaf and mute. They fed her through a tube.
She lived to be 16 years old. She died unable to see, speak or hear, but she communicated love.
When she first came into the foster home, the mom (S) was bedfast almost all the time because of her back.
But when this child (R) came into her life, she had to get up and care for her. Not only did she care for her, she fought for that little girl's life, because R was unable to fight for herself.
It was truly a miracle that R lived as long as she did. S saved her life. But it was equally a miracle that S got up out of bed every day to care for her daughter. Not only did the mom save R's life. The daughter saved the mom's life also.
We know this because R died in March of last year. The mom died three months later.
They are now in Heaven. And they are communicating freely and openly, without physical limitations.
I think Christian foster parents are awesome!
My only advice would be: Love them. No matter what.My husband and I are considering becoming foster parents. Any words of wisdom or advice?
You must be a strong wonderful person!!! I could not imagine having a baby then have to give it back!!! There need to be more people like you in the world!!!My husband and I are considering becoming foster parents. Any words of wisdom or advice?
Many times I considered reaching out to kids who need loving homes...what stopped me? The system. Kids are numbers to them, not people. I couldn't take having children bumped into and out of my life...because I want to provide a stability for them that the system is incapable of providing. Sending them back into homes that are unfit is another fear.
Had a friend who was a social worker. Was supposed to save abused kids...at the end of the day he went home and abused his wife. Had a friend who was supposed to check homes for ';safe environments'; for kids...his house was worse than a vagrants. The system is so back logged with children needing safe havens...they have become numbers. Foster families are few...
The system needs to be revamped, and unfit parents need to not have children.
If a foster family could be long term ';stand in'; parents, then and only then would I consider the honor of raising foster children. Kids are people and they need a whole lot of TLC. Not being placed, uprooted, placed and uprooted. They need loving stability. And all homes should have regular monitoring to protect the children. Foster kids are not slaves. They are children needing extra special love and care that their own families couldn't provide for them.
A man I used to work for and his wife got into taking children from abused homes,they would get them all messed up some had been burned,raped and otherwise abused,they were really good with these children,they had the patiance and love it took,they finally quit,because they would get the kids back almost normal,and the damn judges would put them right back in the homes with the abusers,they'd cry,I won't ever hurt them again,I was just messed up,I'm ok now,WELL a couple of them wasn't and the kids ended up dead,they couldn't take it no more,I tell you this so you might at least think about what kind or phase of help you want to get into,it can be very rewarding,but,also very heartbreaking for you's!!!
My son and his wife were foster parents for several yrs.It's a very demanding but rewarding thing to do.
You need the patience of Jobe,a ton of understanding,and a very big heart along with a lot of patience.More than you could ever realize.
You have to deal with child social workers as well as workers for yourself and your husband.You go through miles and miles of paperwork to get there as well as police checks.You go through checks of your home and deal with the social workers coming in and out of your home on visits with the child/children and visits with yourselves.
I am NOT TRYING TO DISCOURAGE YOU.Just giving you a rough outline of what you'll be facing to become a foster parent. It's hard work but as I said,very rewarding.
It's wonderful when a child comes into your home and very sad when they leave especially if you've had them any length of time.Babies are much easier to deal with than older children.My son had 3-9 yr. olds and faced a lot of difficult situations.
I wish you all the best and good luck.
My friend has been through foster care all of her life and from what I got from her they don't really like it when the foster family's try to control who they hang out with. Good luck and have fun!
Are you doing it for the money or the nurturing that you might be able to give these kids? If you're in it for the money, you're probably going to just do more damage to already screwed up minds. If you're in it for the nurturing, maybe you should consider a full adoption.
get your house ready, and baby proofed, because you never know what you will get, and make sure you have at least three beds for children, because alot of times the children have brothers/sisters, and since the foster fecility does not want to seperate them, they will send all of them to one family. make sure you have children's clothes (used or new) and always be ready for anything when it comes to cases like this, and try not to get TOO attatched to a child, because in many cases, the children are moved around alot... show alot of love and compassion to the children, because they deserve the upmost, and always be ready for anything, because who knows, they might be there to stay!
i dont have ne advice..but i think it's a very nice thing to do, alot of children really need a good adult influence and just someone who actually cares about them. That's great you are considering i hope water decision you make everything goes wonderfully :)
Be sensitive to these children. They come from broken homes and many have been abused.
Dont you have enough worries in your life?
In desperate need of kind words, advice, anything that will get me out of this stupid slump?
I know this sounds silly...and i asked this last night, but please hear me out
Would guys mind it if a girl's cheekbones don't protrude at all? Would it make her less attractive? Well, everyone's does to some extent but mine are ever so slight, you'd probably think I don't have any. The only time they show up is when I make a stupid kissy face.
But this is affecting my self esteem greatly... especially from the side, my face looks kind of sallow and 'lazy.' You know how the cheekbone's supposed to jut out a bit forward from the side view? Yeah, not with me. And it looks ten times worse in bad light, which exists *everywhere* (school, hah) I think this is why my eye bags look so ridiculous..
Sorry, I have no pic to put up.. but please answer anyway?In desperate need of kind words, advice, anything that will get me out of this stupid slump?
Why dont they look past your slightly less protrusive cheeks and into your gorgeous eyes. Or down to your sweet pouty lips. Everyone absolutely everyone has something they think is an imperfection. Go to the things you do like and highlight them and I bet you will find someone who likes the same thing about you.In desperate need of kind words, advice, anything that will get me out of this stupid slump?
I think when you see victims of accidents or fire, you will be grateful that your face isn't like that. Don't you think?
i hv never noticed a girls cheek bones
You're thinking way too much about this, and you don't need to, trust me! I can honestly say I have never noticed if anyone had prominent cheekbones or not. It's something I just don't see when I look at people, and I'm sure not too many other people notice either. Don't let it bother you! Most likely no one else notices, and you don't need to either. =)
Would guys mind it if a girl's cheekbones don't protrude at all? Would it make her less attractive? Well, everyone's does to some extent but mine are ever so slight, you'd probably think I don't have any. The only time they show up is when I make a stupid kissy face.
But this is affecting my self esteem greatly... especially from the side, my face looks kind of sallow and 'lazy.' You know how the cheekbone's supposed to jut out a bit forward from the side view? Yeah, not with me. And it looks ten times worse in bad light, which exists *everywhere* (school, hah) I think this is why my eye bags look so ridiculous..
Sorry, I have no pic to put up.. but please answer anyway?In desperate need of kind words, advice, anything that will get me out of this stupid slump?
Why dont they look past your slightly less protrusive cheeks and into your gorgeous eyes. Or down to your sweet pouty lips. Everyone absolutely everyone has something they think is an imperfection. Go to the things you do like and highlight them and I bet you will find someone who likes the same thing about you.In desperate need of kind words, advice, anything that will get me out of this stupid slump?
I think when you see victims of accidents or fire, you will be grateful that your face isn't like that. Don't you think?
i hv never noticed a girls cheek bones
You're thinking way too much about this, and you don't need to, trust me! I can honestly say I have never noticed if anyone had prominent cheekbones or not. It's something I just don't see when I look at people, and I'm sure not too many other people notice either. Don't let it bother you! Most likely no one else notices, and you don't need to either. =)
How can i de stress myself while TTC..me in my fertile week..need some words of encouragement and good advice.?
hi all..iam really stressed during this TTC process..everyone around suggests just forget about it and it will happen..but how is it possible girls..?plzz tel me how to relieve my stress..
thanks in advance..thanks a ton..looking fwd for some reallyyyyy nice helpful tips..
luv u allHow can i de stress myself while TTC..me in my fertile week..need some words of encouragement and good advice.?
For each of us, the universe is different. A homeless man may view the universe as unfair, hard and tough. A rich man may view the universe as a lovely place full of luxury and pleasure. Both of them are viewing the same universe, it is just different because of their perceptions of it and their life experiences.
This is a fundamental key to understanding, to know that how you perceive the universe is how it is to you. If you feel it is full of fear and hatred, then it will be. If you think it is full of love and happiness, it is. Using some of the techniques discussed in this, and other articles, you can start to reprogram the way you perceive the universe and change your life!
Think about how many times you have feared something happening and then it has. For example, you might be worried that you are going to bump your car, and then you do. Was it a premonition or did you create it? Compare this to the amount of times you have looked forward to something and then it has happened. Usually the fear is a much stronger emotion and focus, which causes the object of that fear/thought to manifest much more quickly.
Of course, thought and belief does not just create the universe on an emotional and psychological level, but also on a material level. We may fear that we are not good with money and hence we are not. You can use your will and focus on manifesting items that you want to further your life with. Remember that you can only manifest things you believe you can have. You may wish for a million dollars, but unless you really believe you can have it, you will not get it.
You need to be aware that things are not just going to fall out of the air and land on your lap, though on occasion they may well do so, literally as well as figuratively. It sometimes takes a little while for what you want to manifest to appear. Sometimes it requires faith and patience on your part. It might be the Universe is testing you to see if you really want it and will really dedicate yourself to getting it before you get it. You cannot sit back and wait for what you want to manifest.
There is a saying ';God helps those who help themselves';. This is true. When you are manifesting it is essential that you listen to your intuition and follow your instincts. It often also depends on whether what you are trying to manifest is in tune with your life's purpose or not. If it is not then you have an uphill struggle to manifest it. Also, if you manifest for selfish needs and with your ego then it is not likely to work. It works best when you manifest for the greater good, selflessly, and from your higher self.
When working on manifesting remember to keep your mind open as to how it is going to appear in your life. For example, many of us may want to manifest more money. We have a mental program that says, ';more money means I have to work more';. This is not necessarily true. You might manifest more money from a promotion, a raise at work, a change of job or career, from a competition win, an inheritance, and many other ways. You need to be open to this because if you mentally limit the ways the Universe can provide to you then it is going to be much harder for what you want to come into your life. Listen to your intuition too because it will help guide you. You might get the urge to buy a newspaper suddenly. You buy it and notice the exact car you want for sale in it. Our intuition is from our higher self and will guide us if we listen to it.
You can use decrees, affirmations, and positive visualisation to help you create what you want in your universe. This does not just have to be limited to material items, but you can work on bringing more love, more joy and many other things into your life and the lives of those around you. When you are working on manifesting things such as these into your life look to the root cause of what you are lacking. For example, you might feel you are lacking love in your life. Examine the cause and you might see it is because of a lack of self-worth or self-love, or because of something in your childhood. Once you are aware of why you can work on dealing with the issue and healing yourself. Then you will find it much easier to bring, and to keep, what you desire in your life.
Another exercise you can do to help you manifest is to realise the abundance of the universe. Abundance will be the subject of another article, and is dealt with fully within the course, but take a walk outside some time and look at how abundant nature is. See how freely nature gives and how much is given. Think about this and how abundance can be a part of your life.
You can use affirmations such as:
锟? I am worthy of love and respect from others and myself
锟? I have an abundance of money in my life
锟? I am good with money and spend it wisely
锟? I open myself to the abundance of the universe
锟? I am in tune with my higher self I accept that I am a good and worthy persHow can i de stress myself while TTC..me in my fertile week..need some words of encouragement and good advice.?
I know what you're going through. You can't NOT think about it. I mean, it's probably the only thing you think about from morning until night, and maybe you even dream about it in the middle!
The best advice I think I can offer is throw out your calendar. It's what I tell everyone. You can't make yourself crazy over something you can't control. It WILL happen and annoyingly, the key is patience.
In the meantime, the best thing to do is not to stop living. Have that glass of wine you always have on Fridays, hell, have the whole bottle. Don't stop doing something you enjoy ';because I might be this month';. You can't live on a ';maybe';. It will only stress you out more.
But keep in mind always, it WILL happen! You will know once it is time to take that test and it won't be because you've been feeling ';sort of tired'; or ';sort of nauseous'; or ';more hungry than usual';. You'll just know. A little voice in your head will tell you so!
Good luck!!
Good luck!
Sorry you're stressed! I was there myself. It took 14 months, and I was so upset especially toward the end. Not sure how long you've been trying. If it's been close to a year maybe you can get some tests done or take Clomid (that's how I finally got pregnant on month 14 - just one Clomid month and it worked!)
But if it's only been a few months, just remind yourself over and over that lots of totally normal people take a while. I think average is 4-5 months. Good luck!
Well, I don't know what works for you, but do whatever it takes. Stress definitely has a strong effect on fertility.
For me I would maybe take a couple days off work, if you work. Get a massage, maybe even do a spa day if you have the cash. Nice bubble bath with a glass of wine at night. Read a good book, watch a couple movies - whatever it takes to get your mind off things.
I'm right there with ya! Been trying for the last 6 months... hubby and I are both in school, so we're a bit stressed out too.
It's easy for people to tell you to not worry about it and then it will happen...but how could you not think about it?! They say that laughing can actually help conceive...
I will love to see what other women say for this question. Good luck to ya!
What's the Toronto Trasit Commission up to now? Did they cancel some bus routes? I don't think they're going on strike. That's Canada Post. And they say it won't affect mail delivery.
pray and have faith in God that you will cinceive when the time is right!
thanks in advance..thanks a ton..looking fwd for some reallyyyyy nice helpful tips..
luv u allHow can i de stress myself while TTC..me in my fertile week..need some words of encouragement and good advice.?
For each of us, the universe is different. A homeless man may view the universe as unfair, hard and tough. A rich man may view the universe as a lovely place full of luxury and pleasure. Both of them are viewing the same universe, it is just different because of their perceptions of it and their life experiences.
This is a fundamental key to understanding, to know that how you perceive the universe is how it is to you. If you feel it is full of fear and hatred, then it will be. If you think it is full of love and happiness, it is. Using some of the techniques discussed in this, and other articles, you can start to reprogram the way you perceive the universe and change your life!
Think about how many times you have feared something happening and then it has. For example, you might be worried that you are going to bump your car, and then you do. Was it a premonition or did you create it? Compare this to the amount of times you have looked forward to something and then it has happened. Usually the fear is a much stronger emotion and focus, which causes the object of that fear/thought to manifest much more quickly.
Of course, thought and belief does not just create the universe on an emotional and psychological level, but also on a material level. We may fear that we are not good with money and hence we are not. You can use your will and focus on manifesting items that you want to further your life with. Remember that you can only manifest things you believe you can have. You may wish for a million dollars, but unless you really believe you can have it, you will not get it.
You need to be aware that things are not just going to fall out of the air and land on your lap, though on occasion they may well do so, literally as well as figuratively. It sometimes takes a little while for what you want to manifest to appear. Sometimes it requires faith and patience on your part. It might be the Universe is testing you to see if you really want it and will really dedicate yourself to getting it before you get it. You cannot sit back and wait for what you want to manifest.
There is a saying ';God helps those who help themselves';. This is true. When you are manifesting it is essential that you listen to your intuition and follow your instincts. It often also depends on whether what you are trying to manifest is in tune with your life's purpose or not. If it is not then you have an uphill struggle to manifest it. Also, if you manifest for selfish needs and with your ego then it is not likely to work. It works best when you manifest for the greater good, selflessly, and from your higher self.
When working on manifesting remember to keep your mind open as to how it is going to appear in your life. For example, many of us may want to manifest more money. We have a mental program that says, ';more money means I have to work more';. This is not necessarily true. You might manifest more money from a promotion, a raise at work, a change of job or career, from a competition win, an inheritance, and many other ways. You need to be open to this because if you mentally limit the ways the Universe can provide to you then it is going to be much harder for what you want to come into your life. Listen to your intuition too because it will help guide you. You might get the urge to buy a newspaper suddenly. You buy it and notice the exact car you want for sale in it. Our intuition is from our higher self and will guide us if we listen to it.
You can use decrees, affirmations, and positive visualisation to help you create what you want in your universe. This does not just have to be limited to material items, but you can work on bringing more love, more joy and many other things into your life and the lives of those around you. When you are working on manifesting things such as these into your life look to the root cause of what you are lacking. For example, you might feel you are lacking love in your life. Examine the cause and you might see it is because of a lack of self-worth or self-love, or because of something in your childhood. Once you are aware of why you can work on dealing with the issue and healing yourself. Then you will find it much easier to bring, and to keep, what you desire in your life.
Another exercise you can do to help you manifest is to realise the abundance of the universe. Abundance will be the subject of another article, and is dealt with fully within the course, but take a walk outside some time and look at how abundant nature is. See how freely nature gives and how much is given. Think about this and how abundance can be a part of your life.
You can use affirmations such as:
锟? I am worthy of love and respect from others and myself
锟? I have an abundance of money in my life
锟? I am good with money and spend it wisely
锟? I open myself to the abundance of the universe
锟? I am in tune with my higher self I accept that I am a good and worthy persHow can i de stress myself while TTC..me in my fertile week..need some words of encouragement and good advice.?
I know what you're going through. You can't NOT think about it. I mean, it's probably the only thing you think about from morning until night, and maybe you even dream about it in the middle!
The best advice I think I can offer is throw out your calendar. It's what I tell everyone. You can't make yourself crazy over something you can't control. It WILL happen and annoyingly, the key is patience.
In the meantime, the best thing to do is not to stop living. Have that glass of wine you always have on Fridays, hell, have the whole bottle. Don't stop doing something you enjoy ';because I might be this month';. You can't live on a ';maybe';. It will only stress you out more.
But keep in mind always, it WILL happen! You will know once it is time to take that test and it won't be because you've been feeling ';sort of tired'; or ';sort of nauseous'; or ';more hungry than usual';. You'll just know. A little voice in your head will tell you so!
Good luck!!
Good luck!
Sorry you're stressed! I was there myself. It took 14 months, and I was so upset especially toward the end. Not sure how long you've been trying. If it's been close to a year maybe you can get some tests done or take Clomid (that's how I finally got pregnant on month 14 - just one Clomid month and it worked!)
But if it's only been a few months, just remind yourself over and over that lots of totally normal people take a while. I think average is 4-5 months. Good luck!
Well, I don't know what works for you, but do whatever it takes. Stress definitely has a strong effect on fertility.
For me I would maybe take a couple days off work, if you work. Get a massage, maybe even do a spa day if you have the cash. Nice bubble bath with a glass of wine at night. Read a good book, watch a couple movies - whatever it takes to get your mind off things.
I'm right there with ya! Been trying for the last 6 months... hubby and I are both in school, so we're a bit stressed out too.
It's easy for people to tell you to not worry about it and then it will happen...but how could you not think about it?! They say that laughing can actually help conceive...
I will love to see what other women say for this question. Good luck to ya!
What's the Toronto Trasit Commission up to now? Did they cancel some bus routes? I don't think they're going on strike. That's Canada Post. And they say it won't affect mail delivery.
pray and have faith in God that you will cinceive when the time is right!
If anyone could talk to britney what would ur words of, POSITIVE advice be?
i personally would say, yes i know drugs are good, but you are a mother now and you need to stop. Get away, far away from eveyone. Don't let what the world says about you effect you. So many people are bi-polar. I am, shitt. I know how it is, but girly u got to realize its not good to let your impulses get to you. Its hard, it takes work and medicine. Some many people want to see you fail, but 2x as many want you to succeedd.
I love her, i always have. May god be with her.If anyone could talk to britney what would ur words of, POSITIVE advice be?
I would tell her to look at her life and love herself. Get rid of the negative people and focus on herself and her kids.If anyone could talk to britney what would ur words of, POSITIVE advice be?
I would tell her to give up her kids till she can sort herself out. Then I would tell her to stay out of the public eye for a while and get some serious help. I am so sick of her being on every magazine and in every news story looking like she's about to puke like niagra falls.
She's been really messed up ever since her house had a flat tire. Leave her alone...it's traumatic. It would help if she could actually sing outside of a studio where they can make Kermit the Frog sound like Paula Abdul...hmmm
Take a break, take a kit kat :]
i would say that everyone is waiting for her to do something wrong so she should surprise them all and do something good and actually come back to the world.
there are many people who have nothing out there and she has like alot of money .. there are ppl much worse than her ( not mentally )
Pretty much what you just said, get away and escape...but most of all, tend to your children.
I would tell her to go to an african country to suffer. because she so conceited and rich thats why shes all messed up. If she would live the humble life, maybe she wouldnt be in rehab and in the hospital every five minutes. Shes a bad singer [now], bad mother, and slutty [umm she wears NO panties??]
I love her, i always have. May god be with her.If anyone could talk to britney what would ur words of, POSITIVE advice be?
I would tell her to look at her life and love herself. Get rid of the negative people and focus on herself and her kids.If anyone could talk to britney what would ur words of, POSITIVE advice be?
I would tell her to give up her kids till she can sort herself out. Then I would tell her to stay out of the public eye for a while and get some serious help. I am so sick of her being on every magazine and in every news story looking like she's about to puke like niagra falls.
She's been really messed up ever since her house had a flat tire. Leave her alone...it's traumatic. It would help if she could actually sing outside of a studio where they can make Kermit the Frog sound like Paula Abdul...hmmm
Take a break, take a kit kat :]
i would say that everyone is waiting for her to do something wrong so she should surprise them all and do something good and actually come back to the world.
there are many people who have nothing out there and she has like alot of money .. there are ppl much worse than her ( not mentally )
Pretty much what you just said, get away and escape...but most of all, tend to your children.
I would tell her to go to an african country to suffer. because she so conceited and rich thats why shes all messed up. If she would live the humble life, maybe she wouldnt be in rehab and in the hospital every five minutes. Shes a bad singer [now], bad mother, and slutty [umm she wears NO panties??]
Would you like to share some encouraging words or advice of getting over a guy?
it's going to be painful and very emtional but it's important to reevaluate yourself as an individual and let the emotions out. As time moves on so will you.Would you like to share some encouraging words or advice of getting over a guy?
It takes time, it is not easy, everyone goes thru it in their own way, you will get thru it even when it doesn't feel like it, you will be a stronger person from it ... you can do it
It takes time, it is not easy, everyone goes thru it in their own way, you will get thru it even when it doesn't feel like it, you will be a stronger person from it ... you can do it
What is thee best piece of advice you've ever received...words of wisdom?
Mine would have to be from my dad,
';Don't get intimidated by the whole jungle, but rather take on one tree at a time. When you've managed to combat the entire jungle and you look back at it, you will look at it with the same overwhelming emotion you did before you conquered it. However, this time you see it as a feat and you see it from the otherside.';
He doesn't sound as ';poetic'; lol but non-the-less THEE best peice of advice...a close second comes it's not what you know it's who you know.
Anyone care to share...?What is thee best piece of advice you've ever received...words of wisdom?
Change your place, change your life.What is thee best piece of advice you've ever received...words of wisdom?
i dont know if this counts as a piece of advice but i'll say it anyway:
';yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. thats why its called the present'; (got it from kung fu panda lol)
another one:
';live your life, life may have a lot of difficulties, but in the end life's worth it'; (from my dad)
That often times when you look hard enough you can see people who care about you when you look at them the way they want to be seen
hate 2 say it, but, dont be a fundamentalist anything. not really h8ing sayin it. hahaha.
Your dad is so right and I'm happy you realize it!
The best advice I've had came from the Pulpit about 40 years ago. The Rev said ';If you're always afraid of falling into quicksand, you'll never take a step!';
To profit from good advice requires more wisdom than to give it.
Always wear clean underwear.
';the safest way to double your money is to fold it over';
';Don't eat yellow snow...';
The best thing to do with good advice is pass it on, it's never of any use to one's self. -Oscar Wilde
dont live life with regrets.
never try to teach a pig to sing ,it wastes your time %26amp; annoys the pigbeauty advice
';Don't get intimidated by the whole jungle, but rather take on one tree at a time. When you've managed to combat the entire jungle and you look back at it, you will look at it with the same overwhelming emotion you did before you conquered it. However, this time you see it as a feat and you see it from the otherside.';
He doesn't sound as ';poetic'; lol but non-the-less THEE best peice of advice...a close second comes it's not what you know it's who you know.
Anyone care to share...?What is thee best piece of advice you've ever received...words of wisdom?
Change your place, change your life.What is thee best piece of advice you've ever received...words of wisdom?
i dont know if this counts as a piece of advice but i'll say it anyway:
';yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. thats why its called the present'; (got it from kung fu panda lol)
another one:
';live your life, life may have a lot of difficulties, but in the end life's worth it'; (from my dad)
That often times when you look hard enough you can see people who care about you when you look at them the way they want to be seen
hate 2 say it, but, dont be a fundamentalist anything. not really h8ing sayin it. hahaha.
Your dad is so right and I'm happy you realize it!
The best advice I've had came from the Pulpit about 40 years ago. The Rev said ';If you're always afraid of falling into quicksand, you'll never take a step!';
To profit from good advice requires more wisdom than to give it.
Always wear clean underwear.
';the safest way to double your money is to fold it over';
';Don't eat yellow snow...';
The best thing to do with good advice is pass it on, it's never of any use to one's self. -Oscar Wilde
dont live life with regrets.
never try to teach a pig to sing ,it wastes your time %26amp; annoys the pig
Freshman next year...yikes?!?! I'm wicked nervous! any words of encouragement or advice?
highschool is next year and filled with hundreds of kids. %26amp; i'm wicked shy, some people don't even know i speak and i have only about 1 close friend that will join me in highschool. do you have any advice for the first day or maybe the whole experience in general? tips on making friends because it doesn't really come easy to me?Freshman next year...yikes?!?! I'm wicked nervous! any words of encouragement or advice?
well when it comes to makin friends. just sorta go wit the flow dont try to force anything. eventually u will start making friends thats how i made them.
i was shy like u but i had more than just one close friend coming with me though plus i played sports.
on first day just relax it gonna be weird and crazy. just dont come off as a weird crazy guy and dont be scared because people can smell fear and might start giving you a hard time
get active in school activities and sports. join clubs and stuff.
but just make sure u be yourselfFreshman next year...yikes?!?! I'm wicked nervous! any words of encouragement or advice?
Well i know its tough to break out of your shell. I was nervous my first day too. I was lucky that i had several close friends to rely on that were going through the same thing. You need to be more outgoing and try to open yourself up a little bit so that you can make new friends in all of your classes. Just relax and talk to some people and it'll come easily. Its gonna be a little nervewracking but you'll settle right in soon enough. :) good luck with high school.
im gonna be a sophmore this year in highschool and i was really scared for freshmen year too but a couple days or maybe even a week into it you will adapt andsee how much better highschool is then middle school and you might be scared of all the people the first day but like i said you will def adapt son and if someone talks to you you should tslk back because the more friends you jhave in highschool the better off you are and try to get friends from all grades
Im sure all the other kids will be just as nervous. Just be yourself and go up to someone who you want to be friends with and smile and say hi my name is .... and go from there. Also play lots of sport as that is a good way to make friends - since you have something in common
Yeahh.
CALM DOWN.
High school isnt that bad.
I was terrified when my freshman year started. Im now gonna be a senior and i love school. Its not as bad as they portray it in movies, nobody is really SUPER mean, yeahh you have your bullies but they wont mess with you if you dont mess with them.
HAHA FRESHFISH IM GONNA PUT YOU IN A LOCKER HAHAL.......NOT Highschool is not like that at all when i was a freshman i was lost in the big school and some upper class helped me out and showed me where to go its not that bad
freshman year will show you a lot of new things so just relax cause there are kids all over the country who feel the same way and your electives help cause the kids in them have the same interests as you
well when it comes to makin friends. just sorta go wit the flow dont try to force anything. eventually u will start making friends thats how i made them.
i was shy like u but i had more than just one close friend coming with me though plus i played sports.
on first day just relax it gonna be weird and crazy. just dont come off as a weird crazy guy and dont be scared because people can smell fear and might start giving you a hard time
get active in school activities and sports. join clubs and stuff.
but just make sure u be yourselfFreshman next year...yikes?!?! I'm wicked nervous! any words of encouragement or advice?
Well i know its tough to break out of your shell. I was nervous my first day too. I was lucky that i had several close friends to rely on that were going through the same thing. You need to be more outgoing and try to open yourself up a little bit so that you can make new friends in all of your classes. Just relax and talk to some people and it'll come easily. Its gonna be a little nervewracking but you'll settle right in soon enough. :) good luck with high school.
im gonna be a sophmore this year in highschool and i was really scared for freshmen year too but a couple days or maybe even a week into it you will adapt andsee how much better highschool is then middle school and you might be scared of all the people the first day but like i said you will def adapt son and if someone talks to you you should tslk back because the more friends you jhave in highschool the better off you are and try to get friends from all grades
Im sure all the other kids will be just as nervous. Just be yourself and go up to someone who you want to be friends with and smile and say hi my name is .... and go from there. Also play lots of sport as that is a good way to make friends - since you have something in common
Yeahh.
CALM DOWN.
High school isnt that bad.
I was terrified when my freshman year started. Im now gonna be a senior and i love school. Its not as bad as they portray it in movies, nobody is really SUPER mean, yeahh you have your bullies but they wont mess with you if you dont mess with them.
HAHA FRESHFISH IM GONNA PUT YOU IN A LOCKER HAHAL.......NOT Highschool is not like that at all when i was a freshman i was lost in the big school and some upper class helped me out and showed me where to go its not that bad
freshman year will show you a lot of new things so just relax cause there are kids all over the country who feel the same way and your electives help cause the kids in them have the same interests as you
I have a job interview on Thursday...will you give me a star and words of encouragement or advice?
Hey look up advice at yahoo jobs or other websites they have great tips for interviews. Remember to practice in front of the mirror. Dress nice and conservative! Relax you will do great!I have a job interview on Thursday...will you give me a star and words of encouragement or advice?
the Thursday is belongs to guru(he is the one of navagrah nayak%26amp; he is the aacharya of devakull) and also the day belongs
to lakshmidevi,so that you may win your interview and get a good,responcible, well respectable job.you get success all your
service%26amp;in personel life also.I have a job interview on Thursday...will you give me a star and words of encouragement or advice?
The big websites (Monster, HotJobs, Careerbuilder) all have really good sections of interview prep.
The one thing I like to suggest is that you figure out what you are going to wear and try it all on first.
Also, review your resume and make sure you can pick good examples from each place you have worked.
Finally, do your best to be friendly and personable. Remember, interviewers are people too - they want good coworkers - and THEY have been on the other side of the desk too!
Best of luck! What the heck, I'll star you too ;-)
arrive 10 to 15 minutes early
donot eat or drink anything before the interview
greet the receptionist and smile alot
make sure your hands and nails are clean
shake nads with a strong and firm grip
dress one step above the people working there (ie if it is factory work dress in khakis and a polo/dress shirt w/o a tie)
do not sit until asked to take a seat
ask questions to make yourself look like you have researched the company and know something about the company (please do this!!)
donot ramble
make eye contact frequently
be honest
if possible ask for a tour (trust me they will love this!)
do not discuss salary until the offer for the job has been made. if it comes up in the interview say something like its negotiable. if the question is pushed then make sure you have done your homework and say something like ';will researching the position on question you found that people make somewhere between $$ and $$ and with my experience you were looking to make $$ to $$';. This way its open for negotiating and not pigeonholed.
thank the employer for their time
and FOLLOW UP!!
Good luck!
Good luck!!!!!
try not to do a spud in trainspotting (leasure is my pleasure)
what is the worst that can happen ? who knows if you dont get it you may have to find a job that is even better
If you have gaps in your employment history, they will most likely want to know why. The best explanation is to make something up about your family. Say, you had to visit your grandparents in Florida to help them, or you were going through a divorce, etc. People are more sympathetic towards that kind of stuff, instead of you just saying ';I've been looking for work for the past 6 months with no luck'; That would make you look bad.
Look calm and at your best. Make a list of interview questions. Be confident and look the interviewer in the eyes when talking. Speak clear even if you are not sure how to answer the question. Use firm handshake. Ask questions to show you are interested in the company.
no and super size my order please
Most employers want an enthusiastic, enegenic and friendly person who has skills or is coachable and is confident not cocky.Think of the answer to the question ';why should he/she hire you for this job?';
Work the answer in even if it isn't asked.
Get a good night sleep, dress a little better than normal, arrive early, relax and let your smile and enthusiasm overcome your concern about resume facts or questions. Good Luck
first thing to make sure is that you give your full attention and have eye contact at all times. Don't give them any sad stories many people think by giving a sad story they get sympathy and i interview about 5 people a week and trust me I get all kinds of stories. Well good luck just be yourself not something that your not.
the Thursday is belongs to guru(he is the one of navagrah nayak%26amp; he is the aacharya of devakull) and also the day belongs
to lakshmidevi,so that you may win your interview and get a good,responcible, well respectable job.you get success all your
service%26amp;in personel life also.I have a job interview on Thursday...will you give me a star and words of encouragement or advice?
The big websites (Monster, HotJobs, Careerbuilder) all have really good sections of interview prep.
The one thing I like to suggest is that you figure out what you are going to wear and try it all on first.
Also, review your resume and make sure you can pick good examples from each place you have worked.
Finally, do your best to be friendly and personable. Remember, interviewers are people too - they want good coworkers - and THEY have been on the other side of the desk too!
Best of luck! What the heck, I'll star you too ;-)
arrive 10 to 15 minutes early
donot eat or drink anything before the interview
greet the receptionist and smile alot
make sure your hands and nails are clean
shake nads with a strong and firm grip
dress one step above the people working there (ie if it is factory work dress in khakis and a polo/dress shirt w/o a tie)
do not sit until asked to take a seat
ask questions to make yourself look like you have researched the company and know something about the company (please do this!!)
donot ramble
make eye contact frequently
be honest
if possible ask for a tour (trust me they will love this!)
do not discuss salary until the offer for the job has been made. if it comes up in the interview say something like its negotiable. if the question is pushed then make sure you have done your homework and say something like ';will researching the position on question you found that people make somewhere between $$ and $$ and with my experience you were looking to make $$ to $$';. This way its open for negotiating and not pigeonholed.
thank the employer for their time
and FOLLOW UP!!
Good luck!
Good luck!!!!!
try not to do a spud in trainspotting (leasure is my pleasure)
what is the worst that can happen ? who knows if you dont get it you may have to find a job that is even better
If you have gaps in your employment history, they will most likely want to know why. The best explanation is to make something up about your family. Say, you had to visit your grandparents in Florida to help them, or you were going through a divorce, etc. People are more sympathetic towards that kind of stuff, instead of you just saying ';I've been looking for work for the past 6 months with no luck'; That would make you look bad.
Look calm and at your best. Make a list of interview questions. Be confident and look the interviewer in the eyes when talking. Speak clear even if you are not sure how to answer the question. Use firm handshake. Ask questions to show you are interested in the company.
no and super size my order please
Most employers want an enthusiastic, enegenic and friendly person who has skills or is coachable and is confident not cocky.Think of the answer to the question ';why should he/she hire you for this job?';
Work the answer in even if it isn't asked.
Get a good night sleep, dress a little better than normal, arrive early, relax and let your smile and enthusiasm overcome your concern about resume facts or questions. Good Luck
first thing to make sure is that you give your full attention and have eye contact at all times. Don't give them any sad stories many people think by giving a sad story they get sympathy and i interview about 5 people a week and trust me I get all kinds of stories. Well good luck just be yourself not something that your not.
I just need some words of comfort/advice...?
i am 19 years old and have only had one boyfriend and we lasted for like a month like 2 years ago, but i recently met this guy who is absolutely amazing. we have the same views, beliefs, interests, (which is uncommon in conservative cobb county, GA) and he is such an awesome, kind, wonderful person. we both like each other, but i just found out that i am leaving for seattle in 5 more days for an entire year, and i might not see him again if he doesn't work at kroger when i get back. i don't see why he would. i just am upset that i have to leave this guy behind when we haven't even had a chance to date. i would love, love, love to keep in touch with him, but i don't want us to fade out and be awkward, either. anyways, i just need some help. thank you.I just need some words of comfort/advice...?
give him your email, tell him you'd like to keep in touch.I just need some words of comfort/advice...?
Did you get the feeling that he had a similar interest in you, as you have in him? If so, then I would go visit him, explain that you are leaving and that you would like to stay in contact with him. Exchange phone numbers and email addresses. A year seems like a very long time. It can feel like a very brief amount of time, as well. If you have an interest in him and he has an interest in you, then you should let him know and stay in touch with him. He may not be the one, but he may be the one? Like you said, he may not be working at Kroger when you get back. You know what the advantage of establishing a long term, long distance relationship like that could be? Establishing a true friendship that may become even more. Friendship is very important in a relationship. Good luck.
give him your email, tell him you'd like to keep in touch.I just need some words of comfort/advice...?
Did you get the feeling that he had a similar interest in you, as you have in him? If so, then I would go visit him, explain that you are leaving and that you would like to stay in contact with him. Exchange phone numbers and email addresses. A year seems like a very long time. It can feel like a very brief amount of time, as well. If you have an interest in him and he has an interest in you, then you should let him know and stay in touch with him. He may not be the one, but he may be the one? Like you said, he may not be working at Kroger when you get back. You know what the advantage of establishing a long term, long distance relationship like that could be? Establishing a true friendship that may become even more. Friendship is very important in a relationship. Good luck.
Single Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
Im 19 years of age and pregnant. The father had completely abandonned me and made it perfectly clear he does not want to be in my life or the babies life. I have support from my family but I still feel alone. Some friends barely hang anymore knowing as how I can't do the same things I used to. So I guess I really decided to post this up for anyone who can really relate?Single Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
well i cant relate to the boyfriend thing because mine is still around but i can relate to the friends im 21 and mostly all of my friends want nothing to do with me anymore because i cant hang out and go to the bars anymore now that im pregnant. i also lost a best friend because she got jealous that i was pregnant and she isn't yet.. it really sucks but if you have your family's support then you will be ok just hold your head up high and move on with your life you can raise this baby on your own with family support it just takes time and courage. don't give up this baby needs you now more than anybody. good luck hunSingle Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
I don't have any experience but I would like to tell you that your hard times now will pay off. It's a brave thing you've done. Not many would have chosen that path. Your life ahead will be better, you will have time to find another in the future. Don't worry. Just focus on your little one who needs you most right now. To be strong. You may not see it now, but you will see that what you are doing right is something so real, so blessed. Rely and gain support from your family and those who love you. Be around them and not negativity right now. It's important that you be happy or try to be for the baby. Worry bout dating, friends and other social networking later on. Plenty of time. Trust me.
Your time will come later on.
you are blessed and will be fine. Thank God he showed his true color now. he does not deserve you or this precious life that you are carrying. things happen for reasons we cannot see at the time, but will be revealed down the road. God has someone better in store for you and this baby. All you can do is take care of yourself, and take care of this baby that's inside of you, teach this baby the right things, and how to be the best he/she can be in life, and you will be blessed. The day will come when the father will need this child. just do your best and try not to hate him that is too much wasted energy. remember God never give us more than we can handle. God bless you and your little one. I wish you well.
**** the father. that just shows how bad of a person he is. and the friends, if they aren't there for you when you really need them then that proves that they aren't true friends. you seem like a nice person and if your family is there for you, no worries. be happy. they love you and will support you the whole way. Don't feel lonely. you have YOUR baby and that, nobody can ever take away. when he/she grows up, they will love you no matter what.
best of luck!
:)
I feel for you.
This same thing happened to my best friend, but she's twenty.
As soon as she found out that she was pregnant, the ';father'; didn't want anything to do with her or the baby. He even changed his number! Fool.
Don't let this bring you down. The most support you have right now is from your family, and that is all that matters.
They still love you no matter what!
This baby is coming into your life, and it's going to teach you so much! Your gonna have such a better life when your baby gets here girl!
Just keep you head high!
Best of luck sweetie :)
well i cant relate to the boyfriend thing because mine is still around but i can relate to the friends im 21 and mostly all of my friends want nothing to do with me anymore because i cant hang out and go to the bars anymore now that im pregnant. i also lost a best friend because she got jealous that i was pregnant and she isn't yet.. it really sucks but if you have your family's support then you will be ok just hold your head up high and move on with your life you can raise this baby on your own with family support it just takes time and courage. don't give up this baby needs you now more than anybody. good luck hunSingle Mothers. Single Pregnant woman. Please some advice or words of enlightment?
I don't have any experience but I would like to tell you that your hard times now will pay off. It's a brave thing you've done. Not many would have chosen that path. Your life ahead will be better, you will have time to find another in the future. Don't worry. Just focus on your little one who needs you most right now. To be strong. You may not see it now, but you will see that what you are doing right is something so real, so blessed. Rely and gain support from your family and those who love you. Be around them and not negativity right now. It's important that you be happy or try to be for the baby. Worry bout dating, friends and other social networking later on. Plenty of time. Trust me.
Your time will come later on.
you are blessed and will be fine. Thank God he showed his true color now. he does not deserve you or this precious life that you are carrying. things happen for reasons we cannot see at the time, but will be revealed down the road. God has someone better in store for you and this baby. All you can do is take care of yourself, and take care of this baby that's inside of you, teach this baby the right things, and how to be the best he/she can be in life, and you will be blessed. The day will come when the father will need this child. just do your best and try not to hate him that is too much wasted energy. remember God never give us more than we can handle. God bless you and your little one. I wish you well.
**** the father. that just shows how bad of a person he is. and the friends, if they aren't there for you when you really need them then that proves that they aren't true friends. you seem like a nice person and if your family is there for you, no worries. be happy. they love you and will support you the whole way. Don't feel lonely. you have YOUR baby and that, nobody can ever take away. when he/she grows up, they will love you no matter what.
best of luck!
:)
I feel for you.
This same thing happened to my best friend, but she's twenty.
As soon as she found out that she was pregnant, the ';father'; didn't want anything to do with her or the baby. He even changed his number! Fool.
Don't let this bring you down. The most support you have right now is from your family, and that is all that matters.
They still love you no matter what!
This baby is coming into your life, and it's going to teach you so much! Your gonna have such a better life when your baby gets here girl!
Just keep you head high!
Best of luck sweetie :)
Spot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
My 10 year old daughter has a small lump under her tongue that looks like a large boil. Its been there about 10 weeks now. At first it looked like a bleed under the tongue but after a couple of weeks it formed into a hard lump. We went to the docs who referred us to hospital. The appointment at hospital was yesterday, they measured the spot and took a picture of it and asked us to go back on 15th January. The worrying part is that they said when we return if the lump hasnt reduced in size they will do a biopsy. I am worried sick. Anyone had anything similar?
Many thanksSpot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
Probably not, its rare none the less, It could just be a benign tumor(non Deadly) and can be removed fairly easily. I wouldnt worry, just watch it so it does not bleed.Spot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
It's probably nothing. If you havent noticed a change in her general health then it's probably a cyst.
Many thanksSpot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
Probably not, its rare none the less, It could just be a benign tumor(non Deadly) and can be removed fairly easily. I wouldnt worry, just watch it so it does not bleed.Spot in mouth, words of wisdom/advice needed ...?
It's probably nothing. If you havent noticed a change in her general health then it's probably a cyst.
I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
She has been married to her husband for almost 6 years- they differ in age by about 5 years, he's older. They have been together for almost 9 years and have a son together who is 7 years old. In my opinion her husband has been being kind of distant the past year or so... they have been having the talk about having another baby and he always says no to her- that he's done with kids. Ryan is the name I am using for her husband, Evan for their son and Peyton for her sister that she is close with.
This e-mail came to me late last night and this morning she did add that she's not sure but she gets the feeling he either is cheating or did cheat on her, he had quit sleeping in the bed with her quite a while before he moved out and is now saying he hasn't met anyone but really encouraging her to go out and meet someone.
I just got this e-mail from her last night:
Well this isn't something that I've been wanting to have to say, but I don't like hiding important things from my people. Ryan decided that he has not been happy for a long time, so he moved out. He says it MIGHT be temporary, but has no current plan of coming back. He is living with his friend right now. It's only been a couple of weeks since he left, but I just have the feeling that it's over. Evan doesn't know what's going on yet. Ryan's friend is actually out of town so he is ';taking care'; of his place while he is gone and that is all that Evan knows. No one in our family knows. I plan on telling Peyton soon, but I'm not going to talk to anyone else in my family until it is completely final.
There are many ugly details that I could pass on, but who wants to hear all that drama? Basically he doesn't love me anymore and he says he doesn't know why. I had been talking to him about how he gets angry with me all the time and so he stopped talking to me and looking at me all together. When I did talk to him directly he would respond but he just looked at me like he detested the fact that he even had to put up with me. I told him this and he said that its not right for him to treat me like that and that is what made him think to move out. He would rather leave me than try to stay and make things better.
It wasn't something that I saw coming. We had been arguing more often than usual but I just felt like it was a low part in our marriage that we would get through. He must have taken it more seriously than I did. He said it was ';hell';.
I go through phases of being sad, hurt, angry, bitter. He's annoyed with me because I keep trying to talk about it. I just don't know how we can stop talking about it until its resolved. Whatever way it gets resolved.... He's never been one to talk much about anything so when I do try to have a discussion he finds a way to get angry so he can shut the conversation off.
Last week I was hopeful that he would come back, but this week I realized that he doesn't want to.
I feel like leftovers. I'm worried about having to sell the house. I'm worried about being broke. And what person is going to want me anytime soon after this drama. I'm going to get older, uglier and lonelier.
Well I think that is all I can say right now. I know I should probably have told you this over the phone, but then I would sound like a blubbering idiot...soo...here it is.I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I think her husband was or is cheating. I wouldn't even consider counseling at this point because he just told her he doesn't love her anymore. If he really loved her and want to work things out he would suggest counseling with her not leave her in the dust. Tell her hang in there and to take care of herself and her son. She has the better half, their son Evan. Tell her chin up and stay strong for her and her son. She will just let herself go if she keeps thinking negative of herself. She needs to think positive and believe in herself because when you believe you will achieve. My sister has 8 kids and is 44 years old, and she still have guys asking her out. My sister was hurt at the beginning of her devorce and felt the same as your friend but time did heal and she continued to stay strong for herself %26amp; kids. Don't let any man bring you down. Not worth it, you can do better and you deserve a better happy life with a wonderful man who will love you unconditionally. Tell her chin up and think positive. Just be there for your friend %26amp; do fun things together. She can always go back to school, there is such thing as student loans, or financial aid, or find a job to save her house. Tell her I would sell the house instead of foreclosure if anything. If she stays strong and positive any man will accept that. Being depressed and just thinking and waiting for the idiot who just left her in the dust will just make her older, uglier, and lonelier. So don't waste precious time and make something out of herself. I wish her the very best!I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I am going through a similar situation as your friend. Unfortunately there is not much that you can really say to make her feel better. The best thing for you to do is let her know that you are there for her when she needs you.
My family and friends have been my biggest support system. I can lean on their shoulder to cry or have their ears so I can ***** and let out the anger. Counseling may help her deal with what's been going on.
To me the hardest thing to hear from other people is what they would do in the situation. Leave him seems to be the easiest thing to say to someone but to actually do it is difficult. Be there for her as much as you can.
Good luck to your friend in all this.
This is so common.The best thing here is to let it develop
and see whats going to happen.He has to find what's happening to him.Since your still young,you won't have a lot of trouble finding another guy.For now I would date if I were you.Just talk to him about house payments (money matters).
He doesn't love her anymore, no need to look for a reason. Maybe he cheats maybe he doesn't, but it doesn't change the fact he is not in love with her and she needs to move on.
She's only 27 y/o. She will get over this in no time. She will be young and beautiful for many many years to come. She will meet another man and maybe even have babies with him. Even though this seams unfair now, him leaving will turn out to be for the best. She was just a teenager when she started dating him, she has changed into a grown woman since then. She will know now what she wants out of a relationship and out of a man.
There's no easy way out of a marriage but instead of being the end of something, she could see this as the beginning of a new life, a life in which she is more mature, more experienced and more aware of the traps of life waiting for her.
Better to be left at 27 than at 57. You have a lifetime in front of you. If it is a man that you want, you have now been granted a new opportunity to find one who is deserving so be thankful that you are being given this opportunity now rather than later. The one who is leaving is wrong for you so don't grieve but be thankful that you have another opportunity to make a better choice. All change in life whether viewed as good or bad really are neither, they are just more opportunities and learning experiences. As humans, we tend to learn more readily from painful experience so view this pain now as a new opportunity to become who you are truly meant to be. Your next choice will be more in keeping with your heart. You are wiser now and will be happier tomorrow than yesterday. Just let go and accept this opportunity with grace. Whether you know it or not, your values are changing. I know these things because I have lived them and have learned my lessons. Bless you, you will be fine. Be strong and use your head but follow your heart, it never steers you wrong. We are born to grow and there is always pain involved in that process but also huge reward. You are your priority now.
Your friend is afraid of whats to come in her life .I would not ponder what tomorrow will bring just live life be happy
Most of my friends that split apart the ladies find some one they like/love more in time she is only 27 y old
I am in the playpen with sweet Mildred
I feel you should absolutely encourage her to move on, grow, change, and find a love worthy of her. Ryan is not communicative. I think from what you write that he doesn't fully know what he's feeling or why... and doesn't seem particularly interested in discovering it. That's his choice, but it's an unhappy way to live for him and even more so for her. She feels like leftovers, because she is. He no longer values her, if he ever did. That won't be completely his fault, no doubt there are things she could change and will... but this guy does not deserve her love; she should move on.
I suggest supporting your friend 100% during this time, let her know how special you feel she is, how she and those she loves deserve for her to be in a mutual, passionate, loving relationship. Don't let her waste her young life on something that is obviously not worth it. Remind her that a relationship that is energizing, healing, would lift her to a higher level is out there. It is looking for her.
Good luck.
well to your friend i guess my advice would be theres a lot of guys who would like to ';date'; her so she wont be alone
and sorry that her husband left her but he probably was cheating on her anyway so its all good
The way she is feeling is quite normal, however in time she will meet someone and things will change. She needs to seek some help in the form of counseling.
I kinda know what your friend is going through, my ex left me after 26 yrs. of marriage, he said he loved me but he wasn't in love with me, he said he was depressed, so I feel her pain, that was 3 yrs. ago and I'm still hurting, she will hurt too but as time goes by it will get better for her, and I know she will find true love again, the first thing she needs to do is stop feeling like she is ugly and old, tell her she is beautiful and she is not to old to find love again, tell your friend to keep herself busy that helps alittle, tell her to keep her head up high, everything will be alright, she has to go on with her life and make the best of it. I truly wish her all the best, I know she will be ok, tell your friend I said good luck.......
Oh, God. That's terrible.
Before consoling her, you need to assess what kind of person she is. Is she the kind of person who thrives off of sympathy? Or, is she the person who HATES sympathy?
If she doesn't mind the sympathy, you should make sure she knows that you're sorry for her. That things do happen for a reason, however vague and unknown that reason may be right now.
She seems to be putting up a pretty tough front, so it may be that she doesn't want the sympathy. Some people are like that; they don't want people to look at them with pity. It makes them feel pathetic. If that's the case, just support her. Say that you're sorry for her situation, not sorry for her. Say that you're there to talk but you won't push the matter.
And, remember, this woman was married to this man for almost a decade. She loves him. So, whatever you do, don't put him down. She might go through a stage where every word out of her mouth is a negative comment towards him. But, you shouldn't ever be the one to talk trash. You can agree with her or listen to her. But, the fact of the matter is it'll hurt her later when she's alone to think about the bad things said about him.
She'll never be able to heal and move on if her time is spent feeling guilty, feeling at fault, or feeling pitied.
Just be a friend; that's all you really can do.beauty advice
This e-mail came to me late last night and this morning she did add that she's not sure but she gets the feeling he either is cheating or did cheat on her, he had quit sleeping in the bed with her quite a while before he moved out and is now saying he hasn't met anyone but really encouraging her to go out and meet someone.
I just got this e-mail from her last night:
Well this isn't something that I've been wanting to have to say, but I don't like hiding important things from my people. Ryan decided that he has not been happy for a long time, so he moved out. He says it MIGHT be temporary, but has no current plan of coming back. He is living with his friend right now. It's only been a couple of weeks since he left, but I just have the feeling that it's over. Evan doesn't know what's going on yet. Ryan's friend is actually out of town so he is ';taking care'; of his place while he is gone and that is all that Evan knows. No one in our family knows. I plan on telling Peyton soon, but I'm not going to talk to anyone else in my family until it is completely final.
There are many ugly details that I could pass on, but who wants to hear all that drama? Basically he doesn't love me anymore and he says he doesn't know why. I had been talking to him about how he gets angry with me all the time and so he stopped talking to me and looking at me all together. When I did talk to him directly he would respond but he just looked at me like he detested the fact that he even had to put up with me. I told him this and he said that its not right for him to treat me like that and that is what made him think to move out. He would rather leave me than try to stay and make things better.
It wasn't something that I saw coming. We had been arguing more often than usual but I just felt like it was a low part in our marriage that we would get through. He must have taken it more seriously than I did. He said it was ';hell';.
I go through phases of being sad, hurt, angry, bitter. He's annoyed with me because I keep trying to talk about it. I just don't know how we can stop talking about it until its resolved. Whatever way it gets resolved.... He's never been one to talk much about anything so when I do try to have a discussion he finds a way to get angry so he can shut the conversation off.
Last week I was hopeful that he would come back, but this week I realized that he doesn't want to.
I feel like leftovers. I'm worried about having to sell the house. I'm worried about being broke. And what person is going to want me anytime soon after this drama. I'm going to get older, uglier and lonelier.
Well I think that is all I can say right now. I know I should probably have told you this over the phone, but then I would sound like a blubbering idiot...soo...here it is.I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I think her husband was or is cheating. I wouldn't even consider counseling at this point because he just told her he doesn't love her anymore. If he really loved her and want to work things out he would suggest counseling with her not leave her in the dust. Tell her hang in there and to take care of herself and her son. She has the better half, their son Evan. Tell her chin up and stay strong for her and her son. She will just let herself go if she keeps thinking negative of herself. She needs to think positive and believe in herself because when you believe you will achieve. My sister has 8 kids and is 44 years old, and she still have guys asking her out. My sister was hurt at the beginning of her devorce and felt the same as your friend but time did heal and she continued to stay strong for herself %26amp; kids. Don't let any man bring you down. Not worth it, you can do better and you deserve a better happy life with a wonderful man who will love you unconditionally. Tell her chin up and think positive. Just be there for your friend %26amp; do fun things together. She can always go back to school, there is such thing as student loans, or financial aid, or find a job to save her house. Tell her I would sell the house instead of foreclosure if anything. If she stays strong and positive any man will accept that. Being depressed and just thinking and waiting for the idiot who just left her in the dust will just make her older, uglier, and lonelier. So don't waste precious time and make something out of herself. I wish her the very best!I need some words of wisdom/advice/comfort for my friend whose husband is leaving her - she's 27 y/o?
I am going through a similar situation as your friend. Unfortunately there is not much that you can really say to make her feel better. The best thing for you to do is let her know that you are there for her when she needs you.
My family and friends have been my biggest support system. I can lean on their shoulder to cry or have their ears so I can ***** and let out the anger. Counseling may help her deal with what's been going on.
To me the hardest thing to hear from other people is what they would do in the situation. Leave him seems to be the easiest thing to say to someone but to actually do it is difficult. Be there for her as much as you can.
Good luck to your friend in all this.
This is so common.The best thing here is to let it develop
and see whats going to happen.He has to find what's happening to him.Since your still young,you won't have a lot of trouble finding another guy.For now I would date if I were you.Just talk to him about house payments (money matters).
He doesn't love her anymore, no need to look for a reason. Maybe he cheats maybe he doesn't, but it doesn't change the fact he is not in love with her and she needs to move on.
She's only 27 y/o. She will get over this in no time. She will be young and beautiful for many many years to come. She will meet another man and maybe even have babies with him. Even though this seams unfair now, him leaving will turn out to be for the best. She was just a teenager when she started dating him, she has changed into a grown woman since then. She will know now what she wants out of a relationship and out of a man.
There's no easy way out of a marriage but instead of being the end of something, she could see this as the beginning of a new life, a life in which she is more mature, more experienced and more aware of the traps of life waiting for her.
Better to be left at 27 than at 57. You have a lifetime in front of you. If it is a man that you want, you have now been granted a new opportunity to find one who is deserving so be thankful that you are being given this opportunity now rather than later. The one who is leaving is wrong for you so don't grieve but be thankful that you have another opportunity to make a better choice. All change in life whether viewed as good or bad really are neither, they are just more opportunities and learning experiences. As humans, we tend to learn more readily from painful experience so view this pain now as a new opportunity to become who you are truly meant to be. Your next choice will be more in keeping with your heart. You are wiser now and will be happier tomorrow than yesterday. Just let go and accept this opportunity with grace. Whether you know it or not, your values are changing. I know these things because I have lived them and have learned my lessons. Bless you, you will be fine. Be strong and use your head but follow your heart, it never steers you wrong. We are born to grow and there is always pain involved in that process but also huge reward. You are your priority now.
Your friend is afraid of whats to come in her life .I would not ponder what tomorrow will bring just live life be happy
Most of my friends that split apart the ladies find some one they like/love more in time she is only 27 y old
I am in the playpen with sweet Mildred
I feel you should absolutely encourage her to move on, grow, change, and find a love worthy of her. Ryan is not communicative. I think from what you write that he doesn't fully know what he's feeling or why... and doesn't seem particularly interested in discovering it. That's his choice, but it's an unhappy way to live for him and even more so for her. She feels like leftovers, because she is. He no longer values her, if he ever did. That won't be completely his fault, no doubt there are things she could change and will... but this guy does not deserve her love; she should move on.
I suggest supporting your friend 100% during this time, let her know how special you feel she is, how she and those she loves deserve for her to be in a mutual, passionate, loving relationship. Don't let her waste her young life on something that is obviously not worth it. Remind her that a relationship that is energizing, healing, would lift her to a higher level is out there. It is looking for her.
Good luck.
well to your friend i guess my advice would be theres a lot of guys who would like to ';date'; her so she wont be alone
and sorry that her husband left her but he probably was cheating on her anyway so its all good
The way she is feeling is quite normal, however in time she will meet someone and things will change. She needs to seek some help in the form of counseling.
I kinda know what your friend is going through, my ex left me after 26 yrs. of marriage, he said he loved me but he wasn't in love with me, he said he was depressed, so I feel her pain, that was 3 yrs. ago and I'm still hurting, she will hurt too but as time goes by it will get better for her, and I know she will find true love again, the first thing she needs to do is stop feeling like she is ugly and old, tell her she is beautiful and she is not to old to find love again, tell your friend to keep herself busy that helps alittle, tell her to keep her head up high, everything will be alright, she has to go on with her life and make the best of it. I truly wish her all the best, I know she will be ok, tell your friend I said good luck.......
Oh, God. That's terrible.
Before consoling her, you need to assess what kind of person she is. Is she the kind of person who thrives off of sympathy? Or, is she the person who HATES sympathy?
If she doesn't mind the sympathy, you should make sure she knows that you're sorry for her. That things do happen for a reason, however vague and unknown that reason may be right now.
She seems to be putting up a pretty tough front, so it may be that she doesn't want the sympathy. Some people are like that; they don't want people to look at them with pity. It makes them feel pathetic. If that's the case, just support her. Say that you're sorry for her situation, not sorry for her. Say that you're there to talk but you won't push the matter.
And, remember, this woman was married to this man for almost a decade. She loves him. So, whatever you do, don't put him down. She might go through a stage where every word out of her mouth is a negative comment towards him. But, you shouldn't ever be the one to talk trash. You can agree with her or listen to her. But, the fact of the matter is it'll hurt her later when she's alone to think about the bad things said about him.
She'll never be able to heal and move on if her time is spent feeling guilty, feeling at fault, or feeling pitied.
Just be a friend; that's all you really can do.
Help I could use some words of reassurance/Advice!!?
In the last three weeks, I've had more then I could possibly think I could handle happen.
1. My boyfriend is in Iraq, we are very close, his leave was scheduled for January, we flying down to Texas so I could meet his family it got canceled at the last minute.
2. We broke up %26amp; then got back together, it was all over a misunderstanding. He thought I was wanting to break up with him I thought he wanted to break up with me...
3. One of his best friends died while they were serving together.
4. I had to rush my puppy to the emergency room because he was sick.
5. I got sick %26amp; missed 2 weeks of pay, pretty much between that my dog %26amp; the doc %26amp; vet bills I've drained all of my savings account.
6. My mom %26amp; I had a huge fight
7. Last weekend my mom had a stroke just released from the hospital
8. I'm working 3 jobs just to get by.
9. I got into a car accident yesterday that was my fault %26amp; totaled my car, I had just dropped down to liability for cheaper payments.Help I could use some words of reassurance/Advice!!?
Marie girl...
That is bad. I'm so sorry all that has happened to you. I know its hard, but my advice to you is you have got to prioritize. My husband was in Iraq for sometime and it seems there are times when everything that can go wrong, will go wrong. BUT, you have got to sit down and decide what is most important in your life. Once you can do this, the things that are not of most importance, you must not worry about. I know personally that this is easier said than done..but do try.
Your boyfriend, your mother and your little puppy's health and well being are priorities. Material things are not. Money will work itself out. You will find a way to get another car. I know it doesn't seem that way at the moment, but you have to stop and be thankful that you were not hurt or killed in your accident, your mother is still alive and pray for your boyfriends safety everyday.
And on that subject...don't give your boyfriend a hard time. The military rules their lives right now. It is a dissapointment when they change your plans on you, but please understand you and your boyfriend have no control over that. My husband has been in the military for years (he was in the gulf war too!) and I have learned not to have expectations from the military. They can change your schedule at a moments notice.
Also, he is under tremendous stress and danger right now and I know from my husband's experience there are days when all they want is to hear your voice and some reason of sweetness and sanity to make them know that everything is going to be ok. Its important that you just try to do your best when you speak to him to make him feel loved and supported. Or you can REALLY screw him up.
There are terrible things happening and he may never tell you about them. Not now or not ever. I've never been one of those ';stand by your man'; kind of women, but in this instance it is important to put your personal feelings aside and be supportive if you really love him. I remember times when my husband could not tell me what was wrong, and I knew there was something wrong. Today he is more willing to talk and the bits of horror that he manages to describe to me are beyond belief. I was the only thing that kept him sane in those times, he tells me now.
Believe me when I tell you that your loving support and kindness is what will get him through alive and well. That is what is most important.
You are in my thoughts...I wish the best for you.Help I could use some words of reassurance/Advice!!?
I was offered a property's manager position, so my rent is now free, I got a new job that pays me more + benifits, my boyfriends doing better, %26amp; I'm buying a new car this weekend!
You are a loser. Get used to it. Life is relentless. What does not kill you will make you stronger.
As for myself I am a winner. I won the lottery. Just bought an old house and found some valuable items in the attic. My first book is on the best sellers list and I've had some inquires from flim makers to have it produced into a movie. Then after lunch I took a nap.
So in conclusion, what you have to do is realize you are a loser and should just get used to it and quit whinning.
I wish I could do something to help but know that someone out there feels your pain and things will get better soon!
Wow thats SOME bad luck,
What am I supposed to say?
Whats the question?
I am sorry all this is happening to you!
I'm so sorry. You have had a lot of misfortune happen to you all at one time it seems. Tell your mom that you love her, although you disagree. See if you can find other ways to cut back on your bills. Like get rid of your cable, or disconnect your home phone and only use your cell. Put an add in the paper for another room mate %26amp; put them on the lease this time. Again, I'm sorry for your misfortune, and I hope I helped a little bit.
I'm sorry about your situation. You are totally stressed out. You won't be given more than you can handle. Attack these problems, one at a time. Start off with taking a deep breath. Your stress is causing some of these problems. You must do one thing at a time. I wish you the best. You can do it.
Take some time at night or when you get a chance and pray...Ask God to help you through these rugh times and get through...it will all be over with soon..it may seem like forever but use this time too take as a learning experance so you can help others cope later on...
1. My boyfriend is in Iraq, we are very close, his leave was scheduled for January, we flying down to Texas so I could meet his family it got canceled at the last minute.
2. We broke up %26amp; then got back together, it was all over a misunderstanding. He thought I was wanting to break up with him I thought he wanted to break up with me...
3. One of his best friends died while they were serving together.
4. I had to rush my puppy to the emergency room because he was sick.
5. I got sick %26amp; missed 2 weeks of pay, pretty much between that my dog %26amp; the doc %26amp; vet bills I've drained all of my savings account.
6. My mom %26amp; I had a huge fight
7. Last weekend my mom had a stroke just released from the hospital
8. I'm working 3 jobs just to get by.
9. I got into a car accident yesterday that was my fault %26amp; totaled my car, I had just dropped down to liability for cheaper payments.Help I could use some words of reassurance/Advice!!?
Marie girl...
That is bad. I'm so sorry all that has happened to you. I know its hard, but my advice to you is you have got to prioritize. My husband was in Iraq for sometime and it seems there are times when everything that can go wrong, will go wrong. BUT, you have got to sit down and decide what is most important in your life. Once you can do this, the things that are not of most importance, you must not worry about. I know personally that this is easier said than done..but do try.
Your boyfriend, your mother and your little puppy's health and well being are priorities. Material things are not. Money will work itself out. You will find a way to get another car. I know it doesn't seem that way at the moment, but you have to stop and be thankful that you were not hurt or killed in your accident, your mother is still alive and pray for your boyfriends safety everyday.
And on that subject...don't give your boyfriend a hard time. The military rules their lives right now. It is a dissapointment when they change your plans on you, but please understand you and your boyfriend have no control over that. My husband has been in the military for years (he was in the gulf war too!) and I have learned not to have expectations from the military. They can change your schedule at a moments notice.
Also, he is under tremendous stress and danger right now and I know from my husband's experience there are days when all they want is to hear your voice and some reason of sweetness and sanity to make them know that everything is going to be ok. Its important that you just try to do your best when you speak to him to make him feel loved and supported. Or you can REALLY screw him up.
There are terrible things happening and he may never tell you about them. Not now or not ever. I've never been one of those ';stand by your man'; kind of women, but in this instance it is important to put your personal feelings aside and be supportive if you really love him. I remember times when my husband could not tell me what was wrong, and I knew there was something wrong. Today he is more willing to talk and the bits of horror that he manages to describe to me are beyond belief. I was the only thing that kept him sane in those times, he tells me now.
Believe me when I tell you that your loving support and kindness is what will get him through alive and well. That is what is most important.
You are in my thoughts...I wish the best for you.Help I could use some words of reassurance/Advice!!?
I was offered a property's manager position, so my rent is now free, I got a new job that pays me more + benifits, my boyfriends doing better, %26amp; I'm buying a new car this weekend!
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You are a loser. Get used to it. Life is relentless. What does not kill you will make you stronger.
As for myself I am a winner. I won the lottery. Just bought an old house and found some valuable items in the attic. My first book is on the best sellers list and I've had some inquires from flim makers to have it produced into a movie. Then after lunch I took a nap.
So in conclusion, what you have to do is realize you are a loser and should just get used to it and quit whinning.
I wish I could do something to help but know that someone out there feels your pain and things will get better soon!
Wow thats SOME bad luck,
What am I supposed to say?
Whats the question?
I am sorry all this is happening to you!
I'm so sorry. You have had a lot of misfortune happen to you all at one time it seems. Tell your mom that you love her, although you disagree. See if you can find other ways to cut back on your bills. Like get rid of your cable, or disconnect your home phone and only use your cell. Put an add in the paper for another room mate %26amp; put them on the lease this time. Again, I'm sorry for your misfortune, and I hope I helped a little bit.
I'm sorry about your situation. You are totally stressed out. You won't be given more than you can handle. Attack these problems, one at a time. Start off with taking a deep breath. Your stress is causing some of these problems. You must do one thing at a time. I wish you the best. You can do it.
Take some time at night or when you get a chance and pray...Ask God to help you through these rugh times and get through...it will all be over with soon..it may seem like forever but use this time too take as a learning experance so you can help others cope later on...
Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
i'm going to grad school in the fall, so i have something ot look forward to.
i don't have a summer job and really have no money, so i don't go out of my apartment much. i go for walks every day and i cook food for fun, but mostly, there isn't much i consider fun and more and more i find it harder to get out of bed. plus, i've been SO tired, i sleep like 12 hours a day. i've been trying to find a job, but no call backs.
i don't have friends in my life and my family ... well, they're downers and being around them makes me feel worse.
i kinda feel like life and time are just passing me by.
it's only june, and i'm afraid the hole might get deeper as the summer goes along. help?
oh, and i don't have health insurance and, like i said, i don't have a job or money, so please don't suggest i go see a doctor.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
Graduate school is an exciting time and it can also be stressful. However, since God has allowed you to get accepted and start the higher education journey, let us think of it as a blessing. Always stay in the word of God and remember if you don't have a job, perhaps God wants you to take this time out to know Him more. I am also struggling with finding friends and a wonderful boss of mine gave me a book that helped me to realize that I was focusing on finding friends and not finding God. This scripture should help you, '; and we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.'; Romans 8:28. Good friends will come when God allows them to come. You may meet people in graduate school and form lifelong friendships. Take some time to prepare and I want you to know that other people (like me)are going through the same thing. Try to scope out a church if you can. Don't worry keep doing as you are and remember God loves you.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
I am with you on that one. There are few,if any people who really love God and are not simply playing the religion game. I am so glad that you got something out of it and I am almost sure you will enjoy graduate school and partake in things that are new, exciting, and fun. God Bless, smile:)
Get involved with a local Christian congregation. If your not a believer, become one and grow with people your age so they can mentor you on your journey.
The reason I say the Christian faith is so important to have especially if you are depressed because you can find hope in knowing that you will go to paradise after death where there is no more pain or suffering. A perfect life.
It helps me to get up at the same time every day, go for a morning walk and make sure I talk to people in person. You have an education, perhaps you could volunteer to tutor a child that needs help with reading or math. Volunteering is the best way to get your focus on something other than your current circumstances. I also get lifted up by going to church and reading Psalms in the Bible.
Well, we are kind of in the same boat (going to grad school + no job).
Just for something to do, I joined a political campaign (its a great way to meet people and get out of the house).
As for words of wisdom, just remember that you control your on fate. You have to make things happen.
As my late grandmother always said, ';G*d helps those who help themselves.';
Well, until you can land a job, I'd suggest getting active in the community through volunteer work, like at a soup kitchen or animal shelter. You'll get out more, you'll meet new people, and you'll gain some more confidence. :)
Good luck! Hopefully your energy will pick up soon.
My heart goes out to u. this is a really perilous time we live in financially, spiritually and emotionally. this is really the time to throw your burden on god. We cannot handle it all, he have to let god take some of the burden off of us, he encourages it at Psalms: 55:22. when we let god take over what ever we are going through we are showing faith in him.
a JW
Set some goals and get to work on them. I dont care if it is to ride a bike 100 mile or plant a flower garden. Just set some goals and it would be even better if those goals were benefiting someone else too.
Stop in at your local churches. Many of the them have young adult services with tons of stuff going on.
Pray, my dear, and He will be kind to you.
God Bless.
College is a wonderful thing as it will help you reach financial goals. However, your goals may be a little distorted. If we sum it all up, true success is happiness and I don't recall that having a hell of a lot to do with financial success. You may not need to see a doctor; maybe you're one yourself! Take a moment, grab some paper and pin (not pencil). Write as fast as you can, anything that comes to mind. I mean, write intensely!. When you have nothing else to say, read what you wrote. Maybe you'll find a clue as to what the problem is and maybe, even a start to the solution.beauty advice
i don't have a summer job and really have no money, so i don't go out of my apartment much. i go for walks every day and i cook food for fun, but mostly, there isn't much i consider fun and more and more i find it harder to get out of bed. plus, i've been SO tired, i sleep like 12 hours a day. i've been trying to find a job, but no call backs.
i don't have friends in my life and my family ... well, they're downers and being around them makes me feel worse.
i kinda feel like life and time are just passing me by.
it's only june, and i'm afraid the hole might get deeper as the summer goes along. help?
oh, and i don't have health insurance and, like i said, i don't have a job or money, so please don't suggest i go see a doctor.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
Graduate school is an exciting time and it can also be stressful. However, since God has allowed you to get accepted and start the higher education journey, let us think of it as a blessing. Always stay in the word of God and remember if you don't have a job, perhaps God wants you to take this time out to know Him more. I am also struggling with finding friends and a wonderful boss of mine gave me a book that helped me to realize that I was focusing on finding friends and not finding God. This scripture should help you, '; and we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.'; Romans 8:28. Good friends will come when God allows them to come. You may meet people in graduate school and form lifelong friendships. Take some time to prepare and I want you to know that other people (like me)are going through the same thing. Try to scope out a church if you can. Don't worry keep doing as you are and remember God loves you.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
I am with you on that one. There are few,if any people who really love God and are not simply playing the religion game. I am so glad that you got something out of it and I am almost sure you will enjoy graduate school and partake in things that are new, exciting, and fun. God Bless, smile:)
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Get involved with a local Christian congregation. If your not a believer, become one and grow with people your age so they can mentor you on your journey.
The reason I say the Christian faith is so important to have especially if you are depressed because you can find hope in knowing that you will go to paradise after death where there is no more pain or suffering. A perfect life.
It helps me to get up at the same time every day, go for a morning walk and make sure I talk to people in person. You have an education, perhaps you could volunteer to tutor a child that needs help with reading or math. Volunteering is the best way to get your focus on something other than your current circumstances. I also get lifted up by going to church and reading Psalms in the Bible.
Well, we are kind of in the same boat (going to grad school + no job).
Just for something to do, I joined a political campaign (its a great way to meet people and get out of the house).
As for words of wisdom, just remember that you control your on fate. You have to make things happen.
As my late grandmother always said, ';G*d helps those who help themselves.';
Well, until you can land a job, I'd suggest getting active in the community through volunteer work, like at a soup kitchen or animal shelter. You'll get out more, you'll meet new people, and you'll gain some more confidence. :)
Good luck! Hopefully your energy will pick up soon.
My heart goes out to u. this is a really perilous time we live in financially, spiritually and emotionally. this is really the time to throw your burden on god. We cannot handle it all, he have to let god take some of the burden off of us, he encourages it at Psalms: 55:22. when we let god take over what ever we are going through we are showing faith in him.
a JW
Set some goals and get to work on them. I dont care if it is to ride a bike 100 mile or plant a flower garden. Just set some goals and it would be even better if those goals were benefiting someone else too.
Stop in at your local churches. Many of the them have young adult services with tons of stuff going on.
Pray, my dear, and He will be kind to you.
God Bless.
College is a wonderful thing as it will help you reach financial goals. However, your goals may be a little distorted. If we sum it all up, true success is happiness and I don't recall that having a hell of a lot to do with financial success. You may not need to see a doctor; maybe you're one yourself! Take a moment, grab some paper and pin (not pencil). Write as fast as you can, anything that comes to mind. I mean, write intensely!. When you have nothing else to say, read what you wrote. Maybe you'll find a clue as to what the problem is and maybe, even a start to the solution.
I need advice or words of wisdom? for a broken heart..?
i just found out that my ex boyfriend of a year and 20 day's got married last Saturday a day after his birthday!!
we made a year on august 5th of this year and on the 26 he just stoped talking to me...until this day i haven't talked to him only found out things through my friends and i found out that he got married yesterdy by the lady that does my eyebrows!! the chick is 20 and they only meet eachother for a month or two...the lady even asked him how long have you guys been together he said like a month or two...the same amount of time that we haven't been together!! i was shocked when i heard this news...i knw he had a gf like a week after he stoped talking to me, but that they lived together and got married that was just a schoker!! i feel bad..i feel empty...we always talked about marriage, but in out future he had his school to finish and i had my currer to finish as well...im guessing this girl got pregant! i just want advice...words of wisdom..to make me feel better!I need advice or words of wisdom? for a broken heart..?
Don't feel sad... You're lucky that you didn't end up with him! He can't be trusted. Move on! There are a lot of guys who deserves your affection... Go out with your friends. I know this isn't easy for you but only time can heal. One of these days, you'll find a guy who is deserving and is much better than him. Have faith. Good luck.I need advice or words of wisdom? for a broken heart..?
look, sometimes **** happens, obviously this guy had issues, and you need to just let it go.
If she did get pregnant, then he married her for all the wrong reasons. And it wont be long before he realizes that. Fill yourself with friends and happy things and let it go. dwelling on it wont help
He's a jerk. He didn't even have the decency to think of your feelings by allowing more time to go by before hooking up with another. You wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't care about the way he treated you anyways. He sounds pretty selfish. Just think of it this way... he hardly knows that girl he just married, not even a few months.. He's probably going to have a rude awakening. Don't hang on to him, hoping he'll leave her to come back to you. He has made his choice, now he has to live with it, and the healthy thing for you to do is to let him go. If his wife is pregnant, definately let him go.
If you are feeling lonely just let go, there is more love out there to hope for.
we made a year on august 5th of this year and on the 26 he just stoped talking to me...until this day i haven't talked to him only found out things through my friends and i found out that he got married yesterdy by the lady that does my eyebrows!! the chick is 20 and they only meet eachother for a month or two...the lady even asked him how long have you guys been together he said like a month or two...the same amount of time that we haven't been together!! i was shocked when i heard this news...i knw he had a gf like a week after he stoped talking to me, but that they lived together and got married that was just a schoker!! i feel bad..i feel empty...we always talked about marriage, but in out future he had his school to finish and i had my currer to finish as well...im guessing this girl got pregant! i just want advice...words of wisdom..to make me feel better!I need advice or words of wisdom? for a broken heart..?
Don't feel sad... You're lucky that you didn't end up with him! He can't be trusted. Move on! There are a lot of guys who deserves your affection... Go out with your friends. I know this isn't easy for you but only time can heal. One of these days, you'll find a guy who is deserving and is much better than him. Have faith. Good luck.I need advice or words of wisdom? for a broken heart..?
look, sometimes **** happens, obviously this guy had issues, and you need to just let it go.
If she did get pregnant, then he married her for all the wrong reasons. And it wont be long before he realizes that. Fill yourself with friends and happy things and let it go. dwelling on it wont help
He's a jerk. He didn't even have the decency to think of your feelings by allowing more time to go by before hooking up with another. You wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't care about the way he treated you anyways. He sounds pretty selfish. Just think of it this way... he hardly knows that girl he just married, not even a few months.. He's probably going to have a rude awakening. Don't hang on to him, hoping he'll leave her to come back to you. He has made his choice, now he has to live with it, and the healthy thing for you to do is to let him go. If his wife is pregnant, definately let him go.
If you are feeling lonely just let go, there is more love out there to hope for.
Some words of comfort and advice.?
im really terrified that i will not be able to carry this baby to full term.
ive been pregnant 4 times but the last two i misscarried and my first one is with a different man. the last two were with my boyfriend.
no we werent trying it was just an accident. but now im pregnant again going on 4 and a half months and im just terrified and worried.
i dont undertand why i was able to carry my first baby to full term and not the other two. do you think it could have something to do with my bf?Some words of comfort and advice.?
I just wanted to let you know that I have also had two miscarriages and now have a beautiful, healthy (almost) 1 year old. I had some tests done prior to my most recent pregnancy and the miscarriages were put down to an awful coincidence. The last poster was right in saying 1 in 4-5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage so it was really just bad luck. It is very possible that this is the case with you too.
I completely understand how stressful it is to be pregnant after suffering a miscarriage. The constant worry didn't ease for me until 32 weeks when I realised that if I went into labour I had a great chance of having a healthy baby.
I wish I knew what could make it easier for you. The stress and worry will probably be there until you have your baby in your arms but all I can say is please try to enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can without letting it take over.... easier said than done I know.Some words of comfort and advice.?
There's a tiny tiny chance it could have to do with your boyfriend IF there is some kind of genetic issue he is passing on that is keeping your babies from developing properly. You might consider a genetic test if you can afford it. However, it's probably just a tragic coincidence. Try really hard not to worry. If you're worried and stressed all the time it's bad for the baby. Talk to the doctor too. I suppose it could also be possible that something happened with your first child that compromised your ability to bear children. Maybe. Discussing it with your doctor is really important though. In the meantime, just try to enjoy it and not stress.
Hi,
Very sorry to hear about your past two miscarriages. But have confidence, if you can make it through the first 20 weeks, which is in two weeks, chances are your baby is healthy!
Medical statistics show tat approximately 20% of recorded pregnancy is miscarried. And about 30 to 50% of these miscarriages are simply chromosomal abnormalities. (Sperm / egg defects, which can be random)
Unfortunately, females who have experienced multiple miscarriages are statistically more likely to experience further miscarriages than average females. However, don't let that discourage you! Studies also show that a healthy diet, proper sleeping schedule, and refraining from cigarettes, alcohol, and other substances, reduces the chance of miscarriage drastically.
In addition, doctors will take lots more precautions with pregnant females that's experienced two or more miscarriages, so make sure you consult your peds doctor for more detailed advice.
This is about as much as I got, wish you all the best!!
there is a disease where your immune system attacks the baby or something like that. but it doesnt happen the first time you are pregnant, im not sure what this is called but you should definitly look into because it is treatable
Miscarriages are a mystery most of the time. Have you discussed this with your doctor? It has nothing to do with your boyfriend.
maybe,but just pray and stay healthy.believe god can bring you through,if you believe in god.blessings!
ive been pregnant 4 times but the last two i misscarried and my first one is with a different man. the last two were with my boyfriend.
no we werent trying it was just an accident. but now im pregnant again going on 4 and a half months and im just terrified and worried.
i dont undertand why i was able to carry my first baby to full term and not the other two. do you think it could have something to do with my bf?Some words of comfort and advice.?
I just wanted to let you know that I have also had two miscarriages and now have a beautiful, healthy (almost) 1 year old. I had some tests done prior to my most recent pregnancy and the miscarriages were put down to an awful coincidence. The last poster was right in saying 1 in 4-5 pregnancies ends in miscarriage so it was really just bad luck. It is very possible that this is the case with you too.
I completely understand how stressful it is to be pregnant after suffering a miscarriage. The constant worry didn't ease for me until 32 weeks when I realised that if I went into labour I had a great chance of having a healthy baby.
I wish I knew what could make it easier for you. The stress and worry will probably be there until you have your baby in your arms but all I can say is please try to enjoy your pregnancy as much as you can without letting it take over.... easier said than done I know.Some words of comfort and advice.?
There's a tiny tiny chance it could have to do with your boyfriend IF there is some kind of genetic issue he is passing on that is keeping your babies from developing properly. You might consider a genetic test if you can afford it. However, it's probably just a tragic coincidence. Try really hard not to worry. If you're worried and stressed all the time it's bad for the baby. Talk to the doctor too. I suppose it could also be possible that something happened with your first child that compromised your ability to bear children. Maybe. Discussing it with your doctor is really important though. In the meantime, just try to enjoy it and not stress.
Hi,
Very sorry to hear about your past two miscarriages. But have confidence, if you can make it through the first 20 weeks, which is in two weeks, chances are your baby is healthy!
Medical statistics show tat approximately 20% of recorded pregnancy is miscarried. And about 30 to 50% of these miscarriages are simply chromosomal abnormalities. (Sperm / egg defects, which can be random)
Unfortunately, females who have experienced multiple miscarriages are statistically more likely to experience further miscarriages than average females. However, don't let that discourage you! Studies also show that a healthy diet, proper sleeping schedule, and refraining from cigarettes, alcohol, and other substances, reduces the chance of miscarriage drastically.
In addition, doctors will take lots more precautions with pregnant females that's experienced two or more miscarriages, so make sure you consult your peds doctor for more detailed advice.
This is about as much as I got, wish you all the best!!
there is a disease where your immune system attacks the baby or something like that. but it doesnt happen the first time you are pregnant, im not sure what this is called but you should definitly look into because it is treatable
Miscarriages are a mystery most of the time. Have you discussed this with your doctor? It has nothing to do with your boyfriend.
maybe,but just pray and stay healthy.believe god can bring you through,if you believe in god.blessings!
Need some advice and words of encouragement?
well lets see my mom is single parent and she has 2 jobs now. i stay home all the time no joke and im 17. i have a twin sis and she just leave all the time with her boy friend so im stuck both weekdays and weekends watching kids,im really sick of it..i tell my mom that i am but i watch them anyways bcuz i dont want to let her down ..she needs my help but i cant take it anymore i need to live my out my teen years which i havent been able to do..so how should i go about telling my mom that i really cant take it anymore and that she needs to see it my way?Need some advice and words of encouragement?
Well you HAVE to tell your mom. You and your twin should share the responsibility of watching the littler kids. Period, point black. It's not fair that she has the opportunity to be free and young while you don't.
The three of you should talk it out.
Best of luck!Need some advice and words of encouragement?
First, she shouldnt have to see it your way. You all are a family, you should all see it everyone's way and work things out. Just because you are tired doesnt mean you quit your responsibilities. You must continue to contribute to the family's welfare, even if that means taking care of the kids. Your mother is working 2 jobs? What's keeping you from working? Seems you and your sister could participate more in the welfare of the family and stop making your mother do it all.
I totally agree with Husky. Why does your mum work two jobs anyway. Plenty of parents raise healthy kids on one job. You would do better to give us some luxaries and actually have a life. Your mother is totally letting you down. Also the younger kids need to see more of their mum.
You are all a family, sit down together and figure out a suitable plan of attack. You and your twin need to compromise on time spent with friends/boyfriend and taking care of younger siblings since your mom has to work. If she doesn't work then things will be so much tougher for your family. Maybe consider asking your mom to quit a job and you and twin sis each get a job instead (maybe part time after school) to help balance expenses. This way, she has time with the younger children and you each have a chance to feel independent and a little more useful.
Your mother needs to realise that SHE is her kids mother and not YOU. She is putting an adult burden on you and it is very very unfair. Every now and then is fine, say once a month or once a fortnight, but not all the time.
I am a single mum myself, and what she is doing is wrong. I would never ask my child to look after their siblings. She needs to sort out alternative arrangements or quite her job and get a better paying one. Like a night fill job, which generally pays much better.
She also needs to make your twin do 50/50.
Stick up for yourself, you have a right to be a teen. She has to realise this is HER responsibility and not yours.
Your mum should be proud of you but at the same time she should be giving you your own space and talk to your sister about helping out. maybe you and your sis can take turns, it's not fair on you, you need a life. you need to call a family meeting and tell them how you feel. then leave it up to them, hopefully they'll soon realise that the situation is taking a toll on you. they wont know unless you tell them
You, your sister and your mom all need to sit down together. You and your sister need to take turns watching your siblings. That way both of you get to go out one night on the weekends. Your sisters boyfriend can always come visit her when she is the one staying home. And your mom needs to put her foot down when it comes to your sister, and she better do it before your sister screws her own life up.
Talk to ur sis who is enjoying with boys,work out some plan that divides ur duty of taking care of kids.don't bother ur mom for that.
First find the suitable time when you will be able to talk to your mom don't talk to your mom when she is tired.
Second you need to pray for enlightenment how will you say it to your mom...Using the appropriate words make miracles.
Third you must continue to take care your siblings....
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Well you HAVE to tell your mom. You and your twin should share the responsibility of watching the littler kids. Period, point black. It's not fair that she has the opportunity to be free and young while you don't.
The three of you should talk it out.
Best of luck!Need some advice and words of encouragement?
First, she shouldnt have to see it your way. You all are a family, you should all see it everyone's way and work things out. Just because you are tired doesnt mean you quit your responsibilities. You must continue to contribute to the family's welfare, even if that means taking care of the kids. Your mother is working 2 jobs? What's keeping you from working? Seems you and your sister could participate more in the welfare of the family and stop making your mother do it all.
I totally agree with Husky. Why does your mum work two jobs anyway. Plenty of parents raise healthy kids on one job. You would do better to give us some luxaries and actually have a life. Your mother is totally letting you down. Also the younger kids need to see more of their mum.
You are all a family, sit down together and figure out a suitable plan of attack. You and your twin need to compromise on time spent with friends/boyfriend and taking care of younger siblings since your mom has to work. If she doesn't work then things will be so much tougher for your family. Maybe consider asking your mom to quit a job and you and twin sis each get a job instead (maybe part time after school) to help balance expenses. This way, she has time with the younger children and you each have a chance to feel independent and a little more useful.
Your mother needs to realise that SHE is her kids mother and not YOU. She is putting an adult burden on you and it is very very unfair. Every now and then is fine, say once a month or once a fortnight, but not all the time.
I am a single mum myself, and what she is doing is wrong. I would never ask my child to look after their siblings. She needs to sort out alternative arrangements or quite her job and get a better paying one. Like a night fill job, which generally pays much better.
She also needs to make your twin do 50/50.
Stick up for yourself, you have a right to be a teen. She has to realise this is HER responsibility and not yours.
Your mum should be proud of you but at the same time she should be giving you your own space and talk to your sister about helping out. maybe you and your sis can take turns, it's not fair on you, you need a life. you need to call a family meeting and tell them how you feel. then leave it up to them, hopefully they'll soon realise that the situation is taking a toll on you. they wont know unless you tell them
You, your sister and your mom all need to sit down together. You and your sister need to take turns watching your siblings. That way both of you get to go out one night on the weekends. Your sisters boyfriend can always come visit her when she is the one staying home. And your mom needs to put her foot down when it comes to your sister, and she better do it before your sister screws her own life up.
Talk to ur sis who is enjoying with boys,work out some plan that divides ur duty of taking care of kids.don't bother ur mom for that.
First find the suitable time when you will be able to talk to your mom don't talk to your mom when she is tired.
Second you need to pray for enlightenment how will you say it to your mom...Using the appropriate words make miracles.
Third you must continue to take care your siblings....
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Any advice? Perhaps words of encouragement?
I'm trying to whine or anything...I'm just kinda down I guess...and I know there are helpful people on here.
Ever since I was a kid I wanted to join the military. Never played with barbies, GI Joes baby! And I when I turned 17, I did join the Army. And I picked a job that would get me as close to the front lines as possible!...Military Police.
Well I'm in the Reserves and now I'm 24 weeks pregnant and I have a husband (i was single when I joined). I was about to volunteer for Iraq, (was actually supposed to leave in Jan) when I found out I was pregnant. I wanted to volunteer because I wanted to serve my country more than anything...but now...I'm going to have a son.
I'm supposed to have orders next year to deploy...my son will be about 1...and I hate it! Dont get me wrong, I still want to serve my country...but I don't know how I'll leave my baby or my husband! What do I say to a one year old when I know there's a chance I won't come home? What would you say?Any advice? Perhaps words of encouragement?
wow, i seriously don't know what to say
i have a one year old and can't imagine leaving him
you have a family now and it makes people look at life differently
just enjoy what you can now
and hope things will get better
good luck
;-)Any advice? Perhaps words of encouragement?
:( I don't know anything about enlisting in the army or anything -- but is there any way you can like... quit? Or do you have some sort of contract deal with them for a certain number of years? Is there any way out if you have a child? Or could you switch so your not a front-lines-woman? That would be heartbreaking to have to leave your baby knowing you may not even see him again.
im so seorry for you that is such a hard desision I really wouldnt know what to sayto my one year old im sorry that I cant help but you'll be in my prayers good luck and I hope you get an answer that will help you with this very very hard question once again Good luck
My husband is currently deployed for the second time. We just had our first son, so he is missing the whole first year of his life. Its hard, but many people are doing it right now. The best thing (if you do get deployed) is to have a webcam, lots of phone calls, and you should really get a video camera and tape yourself reading books, and talking to your son. This will insure that he will be able to see you everyday and remember you. Its hard, but you can do it.
Youre thinking too far ahead of your time and its only natural for a would be-mother like you.. I admire your love for your country but in this case you should choose between serving your country or staying with your family whom you love so much..
I will be praying and asking God for that feared day NOT to happen...with God's help, the war is over by then....
I cant pretend to imagine the situation you are in right now. That would be very difficult for me if i were in your position. If i were you.. and i understood that i might not come home.. i would make a video for my son/daughter if that should ever be the case.. letting them know why i went, and letting them know that i love them and wish i could have been there and letting them know things that are important for life..
A one year old will find it difficult to understand or comprehend what you are saying... I dont know that you can really explain it...
Spend the time that you have with them now.. live in the moment..
I would also ask yourself, if you are sure this is what you want to commit yourself to do.. its a big sacrafice and i know that many women and men have sacraficed themselves for the sake of your country.. but its a question that needs to be ask and its a question you need to answer..
Ask honest questions, get honest answers..
Truth is.. i couldnt leave if i had a one year old child.. their needs would come before the needs of others..
Im sorry, this may not help you.. but i hope that you find the answer you are looking for.. the answer that wont come from anyone else but yourself.
If you get rude answers ignore them sweetie....bunch of idiots...
I'm married to a marine so I know what you mean on this one...The best thing that you can do with a one year is just tell him that mommy is going away for a while but will be back. Don't concern yourself with telling a one year old that you may not come back. Whenever you get a chance to call home, call!! You can't really explain to a one year old what is going on. Just make sure that your husband shows your son pictures on you all the time and that he frequently talks about mommy and mommy is off being brave and maybe even show him some footage on tv of soliders or magazine clippings of them so that atleast he can place you in his mind of what you may be doing.
Good Luck and i'm sorry that this is so hard but I know exactly how it is.
truthfuly i think u need to talk to ur co about this bc he/she will be able to give u the best answers..... all u can do if u have to go is be truthful with ur son. and call write send pics as much as u can.. i have a 2 year old girl who'sdad is gone and he never calls her but thinks she will know him when he gets here to take her on his mid tour.....
I feel really bad for you. I mean really-really sad for you and your son. I do admire your dedication to our country. And I must say thank you. But, back to what you asked...what to say to a one year old when you leave. Well, I guess since he will be so young, you say you love him and you will see him soon. I hope he will have many pictures of you to look at. I hope your husband reminds your son about you everyday that you are away. I know your heart must be crumbling. It's very sad. I hope you won't have to stay in Iraq very long. I will keep you, and your son and husband in my prayers, along with the other men and women serving in the war. Best wishes to you!
I would get out of it.... When one of my friends had a baby she got out of the Air Force.... serving your country in nice but sometimes family needs to come first..... Think about it and see what you can do....
its up to you but either way. i hold the up most respect for you. you are a great women! some people could really learn a lesson by reading this .i wish you and your family the best and thank you for fighting for our country.. THATS AWESOME!! either way you are already a hero!!!
Ever since I was a kid I wanted to join the military. Never played with barbies, GI Joes baby! And I when I turned 17, I did join the Army. And I picked a job that would get me as close to the front lines as possible!...Military Police.
Well I'm in the Reserves and now I'm 24 weeks pregnant and I have a husband (i was single when I joined). I was about to volunteer for Iraq, (was actually supposed to leave in Jan) when I found out I was pregnant. I wanted to volunteer because I wanted to serve my country more than anything...but now...I'm going to have a son.
I'm supposed to have orders next year to deploy...my son will be about 1...and I hate it! Dont get me wrong, I still want to serve my country...but I don't know how I'll leave my baby or my husband! What do I say to a one year old when I know there's a chance I won't come home? What would you say?Any advice? Perhaps words of encouragement?
wow, i seriously don't know what to say
i have a one year old and can't imagine leaving him
you have a family now and it makes people look at life differently
just enjoy what you can now
and hope things will get better
good luck
;-)Any advice? Perhaps words of encouragement?
:( I don't know anything about enlisting in the army or anything -- but is there any way you can like... quit? Or do you have some sort of contract deal with them for a certain number of years? Is there any way out if you have a child? Or could you switch so your not a front-lines-woman? That would be heartbreaking to have to leave your baby knowing you may not even see him again.
im so seorry for you that is such a hard desision I really wouldnt know what to sayto my one year old im sorry that I cant help but you'll be in my prayers good luck and I hope you get an answer that will help you with this very very hard question once again Good luck
My husband is currently deployed for the second time. We just had our first son, so he is missing the whole first year of his life. Its hard, but many people are doing it right now. The best thing (if you do get deployed) is to have a webcam, lots of phone calls, and you should really get a video camera and tape yourself reading books, and talking to your son. This will insure that he will be able to see you everyday and remember you. Its hard, but you can do it.
Youre thinking too far ahead of your time and its only natural for a would be-mother like you.. I admire your love for your country but in this case you should choose between serving your country or staying with your family whom you love so much..
I will be praying and asking God for that feared day NOT to happen...with God's help, the war is over by then....
I cant pretend to imagine the situation you are in right now. That would be very difficult for me if i were in your position. If i were you.. and i understood that i might not come home.. i would make a video for my son/daughter if that should ever be the case.. letting them know why i went, and letting them know that i love them and wish i could have been there and letting them know things that are important for life..
A one year old will find it difficult to understand or comprehend what you are saying... I dont know that you can really explain it...
Spend the time that you have with them now.. live in the moment..
I would also ask yourself, if you are sure this is what you want to commit yourself to do.. its a big sacrafice and i know that many women and men have sacraficed themselves for the sake of your country.. but its a question that needs to be ask and its a question you need to answer..
Ask honest questions, get honest answers..
Truth is.. i couldnt leave if i had a one year old child.. their needs would come before the needs of others..
Im sorry, this may not help you.. but i hope that you find the answer you are looking for.. the answer that wont come from anyone else but yourself.
If you get rude answers ignore them sweetie....bunch of idiots...
I'm married to a marine so I know what you mean on this one...The best thing that you can do with a one year is just tell him that mommy is going away for a while but will be back. Don't concern yourself with telling a one year old that you may not come back. Whenever you get a chance to call home, call!! You can't really explain to a one year old what is going on. Just make sure that your husband shows your son pictures on you all the time and that he frequently talks about mommy and mommy is off being brave and maybe even show him some footage on tv of soliders or magazine clippings of them so that atleast he can place you in his mind of what you may be doing.
Good Luck and i'm sorry that this is so hard but I know exactly how it is.
truthfuly i think u need to talk to ur co about this bc he/she will be able to give u the best answers..... all u can do if u have to go is be truthful with ur son. and call write send pics as much as u can.. i have a 2 year old girl who'sdad is gone and he never calls her but thinks she will know him when he gets here to take her on his mid tour.....
I feel really bad for you. I mean really-really sad for you and your son. I do admire your dedication to our country. And I must say thank you. But, back to what you asked...what to say to a one year old when you leave. Well, I guess since he will be so young, you say you love him and you will see him soon. I hope he will have many pictures of you to look at. I hope your husband reminds your son about you everyday that you are away. I know your heart must be crumbling. It's very sad. I hope you won't have to stay in Iraq very long. I will keep you, and your son and husband in my prayers, along with the other men and women serving in the war. Best wishes to you!
I would get out of it.... When one of my friends had a baby she got out of the Air Force.... serving your country in nice but sometimes family needs to come first..... Think about it and see what you can do....
its up to you but either way. i hold the up most respect for you. you are a great women! some people could really learn a lesson by reading this .i wish you and your family the best and thank you for fighting for our country.. THATS AWESOME!! either way you are already a hero!!!
Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
i'm going to grad school in the fall, so i have something ot look forward to.
i don't have a summer job and really have no money, so i don't go out of my apartment much. i go for walks every day and i cook food for fun, but mostly, there isn't much i consider fun and more and more i find it harder to get out of bed. plus, i've been SO tired, i sleep like 12 hours a day. i've been trying to find a job, but no call backs.
i don't have friends in my life and my family ... well, they're downers and being around them makes me feel worse.
i kinda feel like life and time are just passing me by.
it's only june, and i'm afraid the hole might get deeper as the summer goes along. help?
oh, and i don't have health insurance and, like i said, i don't have a job or money, so please don't suggest i go see a doctor.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
I hear several issues here. Sounds like you know what answers to expect so maybe you just need to bounce them off someone (strangers).
Here are some suggestions. You pick what you think might apply to you:
You are looking forward too far when you look at autumn. Look at tomorrow morning or this afternoon. Plant some flowers and look forward to blossoms or stick a tomato in a pot and look forward to fruit. You need more immediate rewards. Invite a neighbor over or a fellow student and plan a special meal, maybe cook on the grill, make a light salad dressing. Then you'll have something to look forward to. Who cares if you make a friend? It'll be fun.
Cook light. Eating carbs is immediate reward but can make you tired. Eat more raw veggies and less pasta. Drink fresh water. Get plenty of B vitamins (or take a supplement). Stay away from onions and meat as these can make you sleepy. Drink mint tea and take Ginseng to perk you up. No more than 10 or 12 ounces of soda pop a day.
Get a funky job that is way beneath you. It's just a summer job. Work at McDonald's, a car wash or parking attendant or pushing carts at the supermarket. Volunteer at the animal shelter. If you haven't applied at 100 places, in this economy, you're not even trying. Take a part time job that no one else wants. Get involved helping at a church camp or ask at the police department what organizations need a warm body this summer. Try to get something that will keep you on your feet and outdoors.
Your tiredness is probably just mild depression. But it can be a symptom of something physical going on too. Are you prone to anemia? Take iron %26amp; B vitamins Low thyroid? Kelp supplements and avoid fluoride. Just getting over an infection? Boost your immune system with Ginkgo, Gotu Kola, Ginseng and vitamins A, C %26amp; E.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
there is a medicine for depression which cured me completely.Its a combination of ginseng+ashwagandha+20 ingredines which are complete safe with no side effects.Beauty is it can be taken with english medicines with no side effects at all. mail me at* karan_depression@yahoo.com * for more...
Volunteer to help a Charity! There are so many opportunities to help others. In helping others, you will help yourself too!
American Red Cross
American Cancer Society
Salvation Army
Your local church
Meals on Wheels
Your local hospital
You can call your local chamber of commerce. They will have a list of local charities. Just pick one and call them. Tell the people at the charity that you want to volunteer. They will love to have you!
Best wishes and good luck. And ... have a great summer helping yourself by helping others.
Energy shifts are happening right now for everyone, and things are going to be turning around by the end of June after the summer solitice, so hang in there and just know everyone is going through some energy shifts right now, just some are hitting others harder.
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I found that a gluten free diet was the only thing that really helped with depression.
man up.
Sorry that you are feeling this way I know how awful this feeling is.
I understand that you didn't want suggestions about going to the doctor but, please just hear me out.
Try a mental health clinic, they do blood work there also, it's how I found out about my thyroid problem.
They charge on a sliding fee scale.
I went for a year and it cost me fifteen dollars and I was able to make payments on just that small amount.
Keep your focus on Grad school as much as you can.
Best wishes.
What kinds of food are you cooking for fun? Are they loaded with white sugar, white flour, fat, sodium? I found that my moods improved when I started finding ways to cook healthier foods for myself. I still enjoy making sweet treats, but I take them to gatherings so other people can eat them.
One other suggestion is to write a simple list of positives each morning. Start with 1, then work your way up to as many as you can.
And if boredom is a problem, perhaps you could find volunteer work until you get a job?
i don't have a summer job and really have no money, so i don't go out of my apartment much. i go for walks every day and i cook food for fun, but mostly, there isn't much i consider fun and more and more i find it harder to get out of bed. plus, i've been SO tired, i sleep like 12 hours a day. i've been trying to find a job, but no call backs.
i don't have friends in my life and my family ... well, they're downers and being around them makes me feel worse.
i kinda feel like life and time are just passing me by.
it's only june, and i'm afraid the hole might get deeper as the summer goes along. help?
oh, and i don't have health insurance and, like i said, i don't have a job or money, so please don't suggest i go see a doctor.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
I hear several issues here. Sounds like you know what answers to expect so maybe you just need to bounce them off someone (strangers).
Here are some suggestions. You pick what you think might apply to you:
You are looking forward too far when you look at autumn. Look at tomorrow morning or this afternoon. Plant some flowers and look forward to blossoms or stick a tomato in a pot and look forward to fruit. You need more immediate rewards. Invite a neighbor over or a fellow student and plan a special meal, maybe cook on the grill, make a light salad dressing. Then you'll have something to look forward to. Who cares if you make a friend? It'll be fun.
Cook light. Eating carbs is immediate reward but can make you tired. Eat more raw veggies and less pasta. Drink fresh water. Get plenty of B vitamins (or take a supplement). Stay away from onions and meat as these can make you sleepy. Drink mint tea and take Ginseng to perk you up. No more than 10 or 12 ounces of soda pop a day.
Get a funky job that is way beneath you. It's just a summer job. Work at McDonald's, a car wash or parking attendant or pushing carts at the supermarket. Volunteer at the animal shelter. If you haven't applied at 100 places, in this economy, you're not even trying. Take a part time job that no one else wants. Get involved helping at a church camp or ask at the police department what organizations need a warm body this summer. Try to get something that will keep you on your feet and outdoors.
Your tiredness is probably just mild depression. But it can be a symptom of something physical going on too. Are you prone to anemia? Take iron %26amp; B vitamins Low thyroid? Kelp supplements and avoid fluoride. Just getting over an infection? Boost your immune system with Ginkgo, Gotu Kola, Ginseng and vitamins A, C %26amp; E.Depression - advice/help/words of wisdom?
there is a medicine for depression which cured me completely.Its a combination of ginseng+ashwagandha+20 ingredines which are complete safe with no side effects.Beauty is it can be taken with english medicines with no side effects at all. mail me at* karan_depression@yahoo.com * for more...
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Volunteer to help a Charity! There are so many opportunities to help others. In helping others, you will help yourself too!
American Red Cross
American Cancer Society
Salvation Army
Your local church
Meals on Wheels
Your local hospital
You can call your local chamber of commerce. They will have a list of local charities. Just pick one and call them. Tell the people at the charity that you want to volunteer. They will love to have you!
Best wishes and good luck. And ... have a great summer helping yourself by helping others.
Energy shifts are happening right now for everyone, and things are going to be turning around by the end of June after the summer solitice, so hang in there and just know everyone is going through some energy shifts right now, just some are hitting others harder.
http://www.healingartforms.com/apps/blog鈥?/a>
I found that a gluten free diet was the only thing that really helped with depression.
man up.
Sorry that you are feeling this way I know how awful this feeling is.
I understand that you didn't want suggestions about going to the doctor but, please just hear me out.
Try a mental health clinic, they do blood work there also, it's how I found out about my thyroid problem.
They charge on a sliding fee scale.
I went for a year and it cost me fifteen dollars and I was able to make payments on just that small amount.
Keep your focus on Grad school as much as you can.
Best wishes.
What kinds of food are you cooking for fun? Are they loaded with white sugar, white flour, fat, sodium? I found that my moods improved when I started finding ways to cook healthier foods for myself. I still enjoy making sweet treats, but I take them to gatherings so other people can eat them.
One other suggestion is to write a simple list of positives each morning. Start with 1, then work your way up to as many as you can.
And if boredom is a problem, perhaps you could find volunteer work until you get a job?
I am getting married soon........any words of wisdom or advice please?
don't....I am getting married soon........any words of wisdom or advice please?
dont cheat and pray lolI am getting married soon........any words of wisdom or advice please?
be happy and good luck
Oh my goodness.
1) Read ';Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'; by John Gray TOGETHER with your fiance AND discuss it! It's the best thing my husband and I ever did, and it's stopped SO MANY potential arguments and made us SUCH better communicators. I'm not even kidding... seriously. Read it. Please. It will be the best-spent time you will ever spend. I can't rant enough about it.
2) Decide now who will manage the money in the relationship: who's going to pay the bills? Who's going to pay the taxes? You? Him/Her? Mostly him/her but you help? Both of you equally?
3) Decide now how many kids you both want. Do you have vastly different ideas of how many?
4) Decide now on how your kids will be disciplined- is he/she pro-spanking but you'd never dream of it, or are you a big fan of time-out but your sweetheart doesn't think it's an effective discipline technique?
5) Decide now (especially if you two are from different religions) which religion (if any) your kids will be raised with. This is a BIG argument-causer and potential divorce-causer.
6) What are your plans about debt? Talk about it. What will you go into debt for (house? car? school?)? What will you not go into debt for? What are you going to do about existing debt?
7) If you've both waited till marriage (rare nowadays but very applaudable) talk about sex. Read some good books on it (not just the Kama Sutra, but informational books telling you about male and female responses during sexual activity).
That's all the advice I have for now.... PLEASE READ THAT BOOK..... good luck and I wish you the best!
I suggest taking a sharp razor blade and cutting deeply and horizontally along your wrist and then immerse your wrist in running water...
It will basically take 5 to 10 minutes to do what your wife will do to you over the next few years but without all the anguish:)
Good luck with it
make sure its what u want all relationships change after marriage
Don't freak out. It's going to be cool. You guys will grow old together and have beautiful grandchildren.
Just do 3 things
- look pretty
- cook
- don't talk to much
You'll be fine!
U are already getting married, That itself is showing a great wisdom. Nothing more to advice, be happy and always make her happy.
Good Luck and my advise is to NEVER, ever, EVER go to bed angry....ever.
GOOD LUCK
Confess everything to each other. Think honestly if the other person is a psycho. If not, good luck. If so, change your mind while you are still single. Have an honest talk about money. Do you have different spending habits, different levels of debt, different earning power?
Make sure that you know deep down that you could spend the rest of your life pleasing your spouse and know that they will do the same for you. Another important thing, make sure you have common future goals. (ex. It won't be a great idea to get married if you want kids and the other person doesn't). Congrats on your upcoming marriage.
Don't cheat, follow the 10 Commandments to help your marriage go smoothly, pray, and remember to always trust each other but don't overly trust. Good comes to those who wait and God is always there to help you. Also, before anything gets better it has to get worse so be patient and don't rush things.
Pray.
be kind to each other.
Keep the lines of communication open.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Keep the romance up even when it's difficult and life seems to get in the way.
Respect eachother.
Always say ';I love you'; when parting company... even if you are mad, you never know when it might be the last time.
Compromise.
Help eachother and be supportive.
Most of all love eachother.
Adapt common sense, logic, observation and understand each other with equal respect. These apply to both man and woman.
Both of you should be complimentary to each other.
A good husband should be deaf - A good wife blind.
This Section Call Marriage %26amp; Divorce !! Don't Forget This !!!
DON';T DO IT MAN.......RUN......LOL
Just kidding good luck.
Just love her and let her love you.
just don't screw it up...
Well if you have a loving and sweet fiance, and if you take care of him, compromise with him when arguing, and love him to the most you can, and are always there for him, you are gonna have a great marriage. Also, dont hide stuff from him because that really ruins a relationship sometimes.
Hope this helps :)
ive just got married i found the right one, been married 2 months it was the best day ive ever had, really was the dogs, i panicked about my Speech don't know why cos it come out really good, good luck, i hope it goes as good as mine did
Learn how to enjoy celibacy.
-If you're spiritual people, pray together.
-Don't go to bed angry. Solve any problems before you go to sleep at night.
-Keep the lines of communication wide open. Make your spouse feel like he/she can say anything to you.
-Keep ';dating'; you spouse. Set aside one night a week for a date... dinner, movies, etc.
-Be romantic. Don't stop being spontaneous.
Congrats!
Always keep the lines of communication open and honest. Never go to bed angry. Never with hold sex from your partner as a form of (immature) punishment. Think before you speak, a spoken word cannot be taken back. And always remember their is always room for compromise. Always consider the feelings of your spouse; treat them as you would like them to treat you. And consider their feelings in everything you do; you are no longer one but two coming together as one.
Be very sure - work through any doubts BEFORE tying the knot. Have you/they done growing up, or do you need to ';play'; some more?
Talk - really talk.
Discuss what it is you think marriage is, and what your role is within in it, and see if your prospective partner has the same ideas/ideals. Are you to be a Traditional couple? A Modern one? A combination of the two? What is and isn't allowed in your image of what marriage is.
Do you two want kids? How many and when? This IS a major issue for most couples. KNOW what the other wants/expects.
What are your goals and ambitions, for your life and for your marriage? How well do they match?
Do you want holidays at home, or more exotic locations? New cars, a small/large suburban/city/country home/unit/apartment, further education/training, a better paying job/less work hours? To stay put, putting roots down deep, or to move around?
Talk money. Want savings, or a ';C'est le vie'; lifestyle? How do you feel about credit/money/savings/debts, etc? How does your partner stand financially? How does that make you feel and how will that affect your lives together, and your future? When/where would you like to retire, and how are you going to fund that?
Remain committed - if you say I do, mean it. And not just for the day either. Love is not just a feeling, its a verb, a doing word. Live the love - gentle words, respect, compassion, understanding, and faithfulness.
Hope that helps a bit.
Don't leave God (Jesus) out of your life or marriage and it will last.
Yes, both of you should complete this:
http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Married-Until鈥?/a>
A. Do you guys love each other? Love and sex are totally different things. B. Can you guys afford a marriage? If yes to both of these, congratulations. Marriage is wonderful thing, and keep in mind, your spouse comes first. Good luck.
talk don't keep things bottled in...never go to bed angry
Don't let the little stuff get to you. Apologize if you are in the wrong. Love each other deeply. Unless something is done that's really wrong, don't just give up. Marriage is work...24 hours, 7 days a week. But it's all worth it. Don't go to bed angry. Don't take each other for granted. Kiss each other hello and goodbye each and every time. Just love and be happy. Lots of luck. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years, I was 19 when we got married, him 21. It wasn't always easy, especially in the beginning and not even always now...but it's so worth it. Oh and 1 more thing...communication is key.
dont cheat and pray lolI am getting married soon........any words of wisdom or advice please?
be happy and good luck
Oh my goodness.
1) Read ';Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'; by John Gray TOGETHER with your fiance AND discuss it! It's the best thing my husband and I ever did, and it's stopped SO MANY potential arguments and made us SUCH better communicators. I'm not even kidding... seriously. Read it. Please. It will be the best-spent time you will ever spend. I can't rant enough about it.
2) Decide now who will manage the money in the relationship: who's going to pay the bills? Who's going to pay the taxes? You? Him/Her? Mostly him/her but you help? Both of you equally?
3) Decide now how many kids you both want. Do you have vastly different ideas of how many?
4) Decide now on how your kids will be disciplined- is he/she pro-spanking but you'd never dream of it, or are you a big fan of time-out but your sweetheart doesn't think it's an effective discipline technique?
5) Decide now (especially if you two are from different religions) which religion (if any) your kids will be raised with. This is a BIG argument-causer and potential divorce-causer.
6) What are your plans about debt? Talk about it. What will you go into debt for (house? car? school?)? What will you not go into debt for? What are you going to do about existing debt?
7) If you've both waited till marriage (rare nowadays but very applaudable) talk about sex. Read some good books on it (not just the Kama Sutra, but informational books telling you about male and female responses during sexual activity).
That's all the advice I have for now.... PLEASE READ THAT BOOK..... good luck and I wish you the best!
I suggest taking a sharp razor blade and cutting deeply and horizontally along your wrist and then immerse your wrist in running water...
It will basically take 5 to 10 minutes to do what your wife will do to you over the next few years but without all the anguish:)
Good luck with it
make sure its what u want all relationships change after marriage
Don't freak out. It's going to be cool. You guys will grow old together and have beautiful grandchildren.
Just do 3 things
- look pretty
- cook
- don't talk to much
You'll be fine!
U are already getting married, That itself is showing a great wisdom. Nothing more to advice, be happy and always make her happy.
Good Luck and my advise is to NEVER, ever, EVER go to bed angry....ever.
GOOD LUCK
Confess everything to each other. Think honestly if the other person is a psycho. If not, good luck. If so, change your mind while you are still single. Have an honest talk about money. Do you have different spending habits, different levels of debt, different earning power?
Make sure that you know deep down that you could spend the rest of your life pleasing your spouse and know that they will do the same for you. Another important thing, make sure you have common future goals. (ex. It won't be a great idea to get married if you want kids and the other person doesn't). Congrats on your upcoming marriage.
Don't cheat, follow the 10 Commandments to help your marriage go smoothly, pray, and remember to always trust each other but don't overly trust. Good comes to those who wait and God is always there to help you. Also, before anything gets better it has to get worse so be patient and don't rush things.
Pray.
be kind to each other.
Keep the lines of communication open.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Keep the romance up even when it's difficult and life seems to get in the way.
Respect eachother.
Always say ';I love you'; when parting company... even if you are mad, you never know when it might be the last time.
Compromise.
Help eachother and be supportive.
Most of all love eachother.
Adapt common sense, logic, observation and understand each other with equal respect. These apply to both man and woman.
Both of you should be complimentary to each other.
A good husband should be deaf - A good wife blind.
This Section Call Marriage %26amp; Divorce !! Don't Forget This !!!
DON';T DO IT MAN.......RUN......LOL
Just kidding good luck.
Just love her and let her love you.
just don't screw it up...
Well if you have a loving and sweet fiance, and if you take care of him, compromise with him when arguing, and love him to the most you can, and are always there for him, you are gonna have a great marriage. Also, dont hide stuff from him because that really ruins a relationship sometimes.
Hope this helps :)
ive just got married i found the right one, been married 2 months it was the best day ive ever had, really was the dogs, i panicked about my Speech don't know why cos it come out really good, good luck, i hope it goes as good as mine did
Learn how to enjoy celibacy.
-If you're spiritual people, pray together.
-Don't go to bed angry. Solve any problems before you go to sleep at night.
-Keep the lines of communication wide open. Make your spouse feel like he/she can say anything to you.
-Keep ';dating'; you spouse. Set aside one night a week for a date... dinner, movies, etc.
-Be romantic. Don't stop being spontaneous.
Congrats!
Always keep the lines of communication open and honest. Never go to bed angry. Never with hold sex from your partner as a form of (immature) punishment. Think before you speak, a spoken word cannot be taken back. And always remember their is always room for compromise. Always consider the feelings of your spouse; treat them as you would like them to treat you. And consider their feelings in everything you do; you are no longer one but two coming together as one.
Be very sure - work through any doubts BEFORE tying the knot. Have you/they done growing up, or do you need to ';play'; some more?
Talk - really talk.
Discuss what it is you think marriage is, and what your role is within in it, and see if your prospective partner has the same ideas/ideals. Are you to be a Traditional couple? A Modern one? A combination of the two? What is and isn't allowed in your image of what marriage is.
Do you two want kids? How many and when? This IS a major issue for most couples. KNOW what the other wants/expects.
What are your goals and ambitions, for your life and for your marriage? How well do they match?
Do you want holidays at home, or more exotic locations? New cars, a small/large suburban/city/country home/unit/apartment, further education/training, a better paying job/less work hours? To stay put, putting roots down deep, or to move around?
Talk money. Want savings, or a ';C'est le vie'; lifestyle? How do you feel about credit/money/savings/debts, etc? How does your partner stand financially? How does that make you feel and how will that affect your lives together, and your future? When/where would you like to retire, and how are you going to fund that?
Remain committed - if you say I do, mean it. And not just for the day either. Love is not just a feeling, its a verb, a doing word. Live the love - gentle words, respect, compassion, understanding, and faithfulness.
Hope that helps a bit.
Don't leave God (Jesus) out of your life or marriage and it will last.
Yes, both of you should complete this:
http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Married-Until鈥?/a>
A. Do you guys love each other? Love and sex are totally different things. B. Can you guys afford a marriage? If yes to both of these, congratulations. Marriage is wonderful thing, and keep in mind, your spouse comes first. Good luck.
talk don't keep things bottled in...never go to bed angry
Don't let the little stuff get to you. Apologize if you are in the wrong. Love each other deeply. Unless something is done that's really wrong, don't just give up. Marriage is work...24 hours, 7 days a week. But it's all worth it. Don't go to bed angry. Don't take each other for granted. Kiss each other hello and goodbye each and every time. Just love and be happy. Lots of luck. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years, I was 19 when we got married, him 21. It wasn't always easy, especially in the beginning and not even always now...but it's so worth it. Oh and 1 more thing...communication is key.
Advice, Support & Words of Wisdom, Being Induced Tomorrow A.M.?
hello everyone,
so my due date is March 20th which happens to be tomorrow and im being induced at 7 am. On tuesday at my last appointment the doctor said i was dilated 2 cm, but i feel perfectly fine, the only reason im being induced is because I have a very lazy baby boy and rather than monitoring him via ultrasounds and NST, she figure since ill be 40 weeks, why stress me out with more monitoring and testing and just have me have him in my arms.
All looks fine but he hasnt been the average active baby and im not really looking like 40 weeks, but he is weighing in per ultrasound review at 6.7 and that was last week i believe (sorry had some many ultrasounds im not even sure anymore), we arent sure if its because i have an anterior placenta that i cant feel much movement but in all honesty im scared as all hell. I hate hospitals and needles and being in pain. This is my 1st for me and my husband and we are as excited as can be but i cant find any words of wisdom to help me through the thought.
Further, everyone that i have spoken too about being induced say contractions are much more intense than if i go into labor on my own and trhen i hear most end in csections.
HELPPPPPPPPPP !
NO RUDE COMMENTS, IM 25, so i am more than able to provide and care for a child, just figure i wouldnt be induced figure i have the movie type of birth, water breaking, contractions, etvc..
Thanks everyone !Advice, Support %26amp; Words of Wisdom, Being Induced Tomorrow A.M.?
Ask for an epidural and you won't feel a thing. They gave me one the same time they started inducing me. I didn't feel a thing. I freaked out so bad though because I too am so scared of needles. They had to give me medicine to calm me down through my iv before the epi. And you know it didn't hardly hurt at all.Advice, Support %26amp; Words of Wisdom, Being Induced Tomorrow A.M.?
Everything will be fine, I was induced with my last two children and those were the easiest deliveries for me (out of four)....Good luck and this time tomorrow you will be holding your bundle of joy :)
God go with you honey
congrats too :)
Yay! You are having your baby on the first day of spring! I was induced with my son (5 years ago) and the labor did last a long time, but I had an epidural, so most of it was slept through. : )
You should be fine as long as you concntrate on you and making that baby come out. I don't know what it is but for some reason when you go to deliver your baby your fears go awaY (mostly). Honestly, what I tried to keep in mind the whole time was ';women have been doing this for all of time and it started out where the did not he any medicine or technology... so if they can do it, so can I'; .. it helped. I did not require a c~section and I know plenty of ladies who were induced and gave birth just fine. Congratulations! Good luck! I am so jealous that you get to have your baby boy tomorrow! : )
well you will be fine I have been induced in the past and still had my kids fast with no meds and natural. I have said this before im a very small women and I did fine. Just relax and you will be ok.And think of this if u live all this time with a living thing kicking and moving ur insides u can do anything. A determine focus woman can do anything she puts her mind to. good luck and congras
I was induced with my son 17 years ago. It was terrible because, for starters, the nurse didn't put the IV in my vein. It went in my tissues which caused a minor infection later. Bad part was, the pitocin (Inducing drug) didn't work fast enough because it wasn't in my vein, so my labor lasted 9 hours before they finally broken my water. Then something bad happened. The cord flushed out in front of the head and prolasped. I ended up having an emergency c-section after 17 total hours of labor. I had to be put to sleep too, which sucked. Bottom line, make sure they do the IV right, and if they break your water, make sure the baby's head is down there far enough that the cord won't get flushed out with the water. I think you will be fine thou so don't worry. A lot of women get induced every day. I think I was just one of the unlucky ones. ha
I wish you the best and congrats on your little baby boy!!!
PS I'm not trying to scare you. I just wanted to give you the advice to look out for certain things. :)
well I have some advice for you. I have 5 children from 12years to 11mo and i was induced with all but 1. They were all over 8lbs my largest was 10lbs and to tell you the truth i only had drugs with the onw i went into labor with. The only thing is you need to be calm, remember it is not going to last forever. If they break your water your labor will be alot stronger. Dont Eat it will make you sick. If you need to scream,cuss whatever do it. Try to get up nd move, showers are great. I think I lived in there!! But remember once you see your baby you will not remember anything about it. Oh Yea I did not have a c-section once. Good Luck Tomorrow!!!
so my due date is March 20th which happens to be tomorrow and im being induced at 7 am. On tuesday at my last appointment the doctor said i was dilated 2 cm, but i feel perfectly fine, the only reason im being induced is because I have a very lazy baby boy and rather than monitoring him via ultrasounds and NST, she figure since ill be 40 weeks, why stress me out with more monitoring and testing and just have me have him in my arms.
All looks fine but he hasnt been the average active baby and im not really looking like 40 weeks, but he is weighing in per ultrasound review at 6.7 and that was last week i believe (sorry had some many ultrasounds im not even sure anymore), we arent sure if its because i have an anterior placenta that i cant feel much movement but in all honesty im scared as all hell. I hate hospitals and needles and being in pain. This is my 1st for me and my husband and we are as excited as can be but i cant find any words of wisdom to help me through the thought.
Further, everyone that i have spoken too about being induced say contractions are much more intense than if i go into labor on my own and trhen i hear most end in csections.
HELPPPPPPPPPP !
NO RUDE COMMENTS, IM 25, so i am more than able to provide and care for a child, just figure i wouldnt be induced figure i have the movie type of birth, water breaking, contractions, etvc..
Thanks everyone !Advice, Support %26amp; Words of Wisdom, Being Induced Tomorrow A.M.?
Ask for an epidural and you won't feel a thing. They gave me one the same time they started inducing me. I didn't feel a thing. I freaked out so bad though because I too am so scared of needles. They had to give me medicine to calm me down through my iv before the epi. And you know it didn't hardly hurt at all.Advice, Support %26amp; Words of Wisdom, Being Induced Tomorrow A.M.?
Everything will be fine, I was induced with my last two children and those were the easiest deliveries for me (out of four)....Good luck and this time tomorrow you will be holding your bundle of joy :)
God go with you honey
congrats too :)
Yay! You are having your baby on the first day of spring! I was induced with my son (5 years ago) and the labor did last a long time, but I had an epidural, so most of it was slept through. : )
You should be fine as long as you concntrate on you and making that baby come out. I don't know what it is but for some reason when you go to deliver your baby your fears go awaY (mostly). Honestly, what I tried to keep in mind the whole time was ';women have been doing this for all of time and it started out where the did not he any medicine or technology... so if they can do it, so can I'; .. it helped. I did not require a c~section and I know plenty of ladies who were induced and gave birth just fine. Congratulations! Good luck! I am so jealous that you get to have your baby boy tomorrow! : )
well you will be fine I have been induced in the past and still had my kids fast with no meds and natural. I have said this before im a very small women and I did fine. Just relax and you will be ok.And think of this if u live all this time with a living thing kicking and moving ur insides u can do anything. A determine focus woman can do anything she puts her mind to. good luck and congras
I was induced with my son 17 years ago. It was terrible because, for starters, the nurse didn't put the IV in my vein. It went in my tissues which caused a minor infection later. Bad part was, the pitocin (Inducing drug) didn't work fast enough because it wasn't in my vein, so my labor lasted 9 hours before they finally broken my water. Then something bad happened. The cord flushed out in front of the head and prolasped. I ended up having an emergency c-section after 17 total hours of labor. I had to be put to sleep too, which sucked. Bottom line, make sure they do the IV right, and if they break your water, make sure the baby's head is down there far enough that the cord won't get flushed out with the water. I think you will be fine thou so don't worry. A lot of women get induced every day. I think I was just one of the unlucky ones. ha
I wish you the best and congrats on your little baby boy!!!
PS I'm not trying to scare you. I just wanted to give you the advice to look out for certain things. :)
well I have some advice for you. I have 5 children from 12years to 11mo and i was induced with all but 1. They were all over 8lbs my largest was 10lbs and to tell you the truth i only had drugs with the onw i went into labor with. The only thing is you need to be calm, remember it is not going to last forever. If they break your water your labor will be alot stronger. Dont Eat it will make you sick. If you need to scream,cuss whatever do it. Try to get up nd move, showers are great. I think I lived in there!! But remember once you see your baby you will not remember anything about it. Oh Yea I did not have a c-section once. Good Luck Tomorrow!!!
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