I need relationship advice/ words of wisdom. From eighteen year olds and up only please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

I've been dating my fiance since I was thirteen (now I'm eighteen) and lately I just can't shake the thought about how much our relationship has changed. It's not that it's bad, it's just that it's different. I keep thinking about how absolutely and purely happy we were back in 2003 and how things are different now. Like I said, things aren't bad but, when we first met, each kiss and hug was so special, each phone conversation was so exciting, and each moment was so treasured. Now everything's just so.. normal? Our kisses aren't bad, our hugs aren't bad, and our phone conversations aren't bad either it's just that it bothers me that it's not so exciting now. Is this just because we've been together for so long? Is this normal for every long long term relationship? Is there any way that I can re - spark the magic for us? I miss the old days and it bothers me that they are gone because it seems like they just happened yesterday. I know that new relationship only seem so exciting because you are still learning the person but is there any way to make things just as special as they used to be even though we know virtually EVERYTHING about each other already?I need relationship advice/ words of wisdom. From eighteen year olds and up only please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
I pretty much have been in your situation before. I have only dated one person my entire life! Funny thing is we are going to get married! We met as Juniors in high school and it immediately seemed perfect! Like you said each kiss and hug was just like a firework show! Now that time has passed little things too have passed. I no longer keep count of every single kiss and I no longer get shy in front of him when we are together. Things have changed since we have gotten to know each other, but in my opinion it is for the better. Every time I look in his eyes I still get butterflies and we have amazing times together! There are some things I miss about before, but I am content where i am! I think that you need to look into your relationship. If you think that this she is the one you want to marry then you need to stay with her. If not then look around. There are plenty of people! :) I suggest that if you want to stay with her then you realize what a blessing it is that things have changed a little. Now you both understand each other better, you both have matured, and you both love each other enough to have lasted this long! That is something to be proud of!I need relationship advice/ words of wisdom. From eighteen year olds and up only please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Until you turn 30 you realize the kind of person you want to marry, don't try to lock yourself into your childhood love life as this is only part of things you did when you were young and stupi,
Do you have a toddler or one in preschool?
I am 30 years old and have had my fair share of relationships, good and bad.





You are very young. You will keep changing the rest of your life, but particularly until your mid 20s. Trust me, you will be a very different person at 21 and again at 25. I seriously doubt that this relationship will last forever. That is not necessarily a bad thing. I suggest dating around and playing the field while you are young, rather than getting married young and then living to regret it and wondering what you are missing out on.
some people like the ease of a relationship as they get older.. but you're only 18 so its tough because you are still very young (regarding lifelong partners/marriage)


of course there are ways to spice things up.. surprise him with a weekend away, leave little notes for him, go on 'dates' again if you don't still do that - maybe revisit some of the places you used to go to when you were younger.


talk to him - see what he thinks
every relationship will lose that shiny, special, new feeling because after awhile, it's not new anymore. there's nothing you can do to change that but that doesn't mean you can't still have some spark or have fun. be open to each other's ideas and don't be afraid to communicate. if you think you're getting stuck in a rut, speak up because he can't read your mind:) he might feel the same way but could be afraid of speaking up himself or sometimes, guys are just dense about those things lol. but, if you're meant to be, you'll enjoy doing normal things and it will only get better. but that doesn't mean you won't have hard times either because all relationships have ups and downs, some bigger than others. you have to be willing to work on it.





one thing i can say for sure though is i changed immensely from 18 to 21 to 25 and there's no way i could have known at 18 what i wanted by the time i was 25. i would strongly advise to have a longer engagement. there's a lot of growing up to do and you'll be surprised in a year or two or five what you've learned and what you still have to learn. good luck! the only way you can do this is by living:)
New things are always exciting, and just as predictably, as you get used to them they become less exciting. That doesn't mean the old and familiar should be discarded. Mature love is a gift. It is what sticks through the ups and downs, sicknesses, and tragedies. You can be yourself without fear of rejection. You have the stability to create a home.





You CAN have those sparks, but they will be different and you have to work a little harder. Every healthy long-term marriage I know of still has times when one partner looks at the other and feels such overwhelming love that it takes his/her breath away. It just doesn't happen all the time. Thank goodness, I say! How would we accomplish anything? Think back to those early times. Do you remember how hard it was to concentrate on anything except your new-found love? Mature love allows you to have it all!
I think that's the path most relationships go down, although it doesn't need to be that way. If you see your fiance every day, try taking a few days off- take a trip for a few days- because, really, distance makes the heart grow fonder. If you don't see your fiance everyday, or you think that maybe the normal everyday activities are bringing you two down, go on a vacation with your fiance- get away from it all- somewhere relaxing, but somewhere you can find something exciting to do- something new to learn- skiing, skydiving, snorkeling, whatever.
that is pretty much how relationships go ... that spark is usually rekindled if one of you goes away for a weekend, but complacency is quite normal ...





to respark, you both need to make an effort ... meet each other for a date at a nice new restaurant and don't get ready together ... I shower and primp in the gym locker-room sometimes ... you can also try new things in the bedroom (if your relationship is at that level) ...





relationships will also change as you mature and experience new things in life ... you each will adapt to the world around you in the way that is most fitting for your personalities ... newness is always exciting, but newness wears off ... stability and trust should be cherished ...