Need some advice and words of encouragement?

well lets see my mom is single parent and she has 2 jobs now. i stay home all the time no joke and im 17. i have a twin sis and she just leave all the time with her boy friend so im stuck both weekdays and weekends watching kids,im really sick of it..i tell my mom that i am but i watch them anyways bcuz i dont want to let her down ..she needs my help but i cant take it anymore i need to live my out my teen years which i havent been able to do..so how should i go about telling my mom that i really cant take it anymore and that she needs to see it my way?Need some advice and words of encouragement?
Well you HAVE to tell your mom. You and your twin should share the responsibility of watching the littler kids. Period, point black. It's not fair that she has the opportunity to be free and young while you don't.





The three of you should talk it out.





Best of luck!Need some advice and words of encouragement?
First, she shouldnt have to see it your way. You all are a family, you should all see it everyone's way and work things out. Just because you are tired doesnt mean you quit your responsibilities. You must continue to contribute to the family's welfare, even if that means taking care of the kids. Your mother is working 2 jobs? What's keeping you from working? Seems you and your sister could participate more in the welfare of the family and stop making your mother do it all.
I totally agree with Husky. Why does your mum work two jobs anyway. Plenty of parents raise healthy kids on one job. You would do better to give us some luxaries and actually have a life. Your mother is totally letting you down. Also the younger kids need to see more of their mum.
You are all a family, sit down together and figure out a suitable plan of attack. You and your twin need to compromise on time spent with friends/boyfriend and taking care of younger siblings since your mom has to work. If she doesn't work then things will be so much tougher for your family. Maybe consider asking your mom to quit a job and you and twin sis each get a job instead (maybe part time after school) to help balance expenses. This way, she has time with the younger children and you each have a chance to feel independent and a little more useful.
Your mother needs to realise that SHE is her kids mother and not YOU. She is putting an adult burden on you and it is very very unfair. Every now and then is fine, say once a month or once a fortnight, but not all the time.





I am a single mum myself, and what she is doing is wrong. I would never ask my child to look after their siblings. She needs to sort out alternative arrangements or quite her job and get a better paying one. Like a night fill job, which generally pays much better.





She also needs to make your twin do 50/50.





Stick up for yourself, you have a right to be a teen. She has to realise this is HER responsibility and not yours.
Your mum should be proud of you but at the same time she should be giving you your own space and talk to your sister about helping out. maybe you and your sis can take turns, it's not fair on you, you need a life. you need to call a family meeting and tell them how you feel. then leave it up to them, hopefully they'll soon realise that the situation is taking a toll on you. they wont know unless you tell them
You, your sister and your mom all need to sit down together. You and your sister need to take turns watching your siblings. That way both of you get to go out one night on the weekends. Your sisters boyfriend can always come visit her when she is the one staying home. And your mom needs to put her foot down when it comes to your sister, and she better do it before your sister screws her own life up.
Talk to ur sis who is enjoying with boys,work out some plan that divides ur duty of taking care of kids.don't bother ur mom for that.
First find the suitable time when you will be able to talk to your mom don't talk to your mom when she is tired.





Second you need to pray for enlightenment how will you say it to your mom...Using the appropriate words make miracles.





Third you must continue to take care your siblings....





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