I am getting married soon........any words of wisdom or advice please?

don't....I am getting married soon........any words of wisdom or advice please?
dont cheat and pray lolI am getting married soon........any words of wisdom or advice please?
be happy and good luck
Oh my goodness.





1) Read ';Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus'; by John Gray TOGETHER with your fiance AND discuss it! It's the best thing my husband and I ever did, and it's stopped SO MANY potential arguments and made us SUCH better communicators. I'm not even kidding... seriously. Read it. Please. It will be the best-spent time you will ever spend. I can't rant enough about it.





2) Decide now who will manage the money in the relationship: who's going to pay the bills? Who's going to pay the taxes? You? Him/Her? Mostly him/her but you help? Both of you equally?





3) Decide now how many kids you both want. Do you have vastly different ideas of how many?





4) Decide now on how your kids will be disciplined- is he/she pro-spanking but you'd never dream of it, or are you a big fan of time-out but your sweetheart doesn't think it's an effective discipline technique?





5) Decide now (especially if you two are from different religions) which religion (if any) your kids will be raised with. This is a BIG argument-causer and potential divorce-causer.





6) What are your plans about debt? Talk about it. What will you go into debt for (house? car? school?)? What will you not go into debt for? What are you going to do about existing debt?





7) If you've both waited till marriage (rare nowadays but very applaudable) talk about sex. Read some good books on it (not just the Kama Sutra, but informational books telling you about male and female responses during sexual activity).





That's all the advice I have for now.... PLEASE READ THAT BOOK..... good luck and I wish you the best!
I suggest taking a sharp razor blade and cutting deeply and horizontally along your wrist and then immerse your wrist in running water...





It will basically take 5 to 10 minutes to do what your wife will do to you over the next few years but without all the anguish:)





Good luck with it
make sure its what u want all relationships change after marriage
Don't freak out. It's going to be cool. You guys will grow old together and have beautiful grandchildren.
Just do 3 things


- look pretty


- cook


- don't talk to much





You'll be fine!
U are already getting married, That itself is showing a great wisdom. Nothing more to advice, be happy and always make her happy.
Good Luck and my advise is to NEVER, ever, EVER go to bed angry....ever.








GOOD LUCK
Confess everything to each other. Think honestly if the other person is a psycho. If not, good luck. If so, change your mind while you are still single. Have an honest talk about money. Do you have different spending habits, different levels of debt, different earning power?
Make sure that you know deep down that you could spend the rest of your life pleasing your spouse and know that they will do the same for you. Another important thing, make sure you have common future goals. (ex. It won't be a great idea to get married if you want kids and the other person doesn't). Congrats on your upcoming marriage.
Don't cheat, follow the 10 Commandments to help your marriage go smoothly, pray, and remember to always trust each other but don't overly trust. Good comes to those who wait and God is always there to help you. Also, before anything gets better it has to get worse so be patient and don't rush things.
Pray.


be kind to each other.
Keep the lines of communication open.


Say what you mean and mean what you say.


Keep the romance up even when it's difficult and life seems to get in the way.


Respect eachother.


Always say ';I love you'; when parting company... even if you are mad, you never know when it might be the last time.


Compromise.


Help eachother and be supportive.


Most of all love eachother.
Adapt common sense, logic, observation and understand each other with equal respect. These apply to both man and woman.


Both of you should be complimentary to each other.


A good husband should be deaf - A good wife blind.
This Section Call Marriage %26amp; Divorce !! Don't Forget This !!!
DON';T DO IT MAN.......RUN......LOL


Just kidding good luck.


Just love her and let her love you.
just don't screw it up...
Well if you have a loving and sweet fiance, and if you take care of him, compromise with him when arguing, and love him to the most you can, and are always there for him, you are gonna have a great marriage. Also, dont hide stuff from him because that really ruins a relationship sometimes.


Hope this helps :)
ive just got married i found the right one, been married 2 months it was the best day ive ever had, really was the dogs, i panicked about my Speech don't know why cos it come out really good, good luck, i hope it goes as good as mine did
Learn how to enjoy celibacy.
-If you're spiritual people, pray together.


-Don't go to bed angry. Solve any problems before you go to sleep at night.


-Keep the lines of communication wide open. Make your spouse feel like he/she can say anything to you.


-Keep ';dating'; you spouse. Set aside one night a week for a date... dinner, movies, etc.


-Be romantic. Don't stop being spontaneous.





Congrats!
Always keep the lines of communication open and honest. Never go to bed angry. Never with hold sex from your partner as a form of (immature) punishment. Think before you speak, a spoken word cannot be taken back. And always remember their is always room for compromise. Always consider the feelings of your spouse; treat them as you would like them to treat you. And consider their feelings in everything you do; you are no longer one but two coming together as one.
Be very sure - work through any doubts BEFORE tying the knot. Have you/they done growing up, or do you need to ';play'; some more?


Talk - really talk.


Discuss what it is you think marriage is, and what your role is within in it, and see if your prospective partner has the same ideas/ideals. Are you to be a Traditional couple? A Modern one? A combination of the two? What is and isn't allowed in your image of what marriage is.


Do you two want kids? How many and when? This IS a major issue for most couples. KNOW what the other wants/expects.


What are your goals and ambitions, for your life and for your marriage? How well do they match?


Do you want holidays at home, or more exotic locations? New cars, a small/large suburban/city/country home/unit/apartment, further education/training, a better paying job/less work hours? To stay put, putting roots down deep, or to move around?


Talk money. Want savings, or a ';C'est le vie'; lifestyle? How do you feel about credit/money/savings/debts, etc? How does your partner stand financially? How does that make you feel and how will that affect your lives together, and your future? When/where would you like to retire, and how are you going to fund that?


Remain committed - if you say I do, mean it. And not just for the day either. Love is not just a feeling, its a verb, a doing word. Live the love - gentle words, respect, compassion, understanding, and faithfulness.


Hope that helps a bit.
Don't leave God (Jesus) out of your life or marriage and it will last.
Yes, both of you should complete this:





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A. Do you guys love each other? Love and sex are totally different things. B. Can you guys afford a marriage? If yes to both of these, congratulations. Marriage is wonderful thing, and keep in mind, your spouse comes first. Good luck.
talk don't keep things bottled in...never go to bed angry
Don't let the little stuff get to you. Apologize if you are in the wrong. Love each other deeply. Unless something is done that's really wrong, don't just give up. Marriage is work...24 hours, 7 days a week. But it's all worth it. Don't go to bed angry. Don't take each other for granted. Kiss each other hello and goodbye each and every time. Just love and be happy. Lots of luck. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years, I was 19 when we got married, him 21. It wasn't always easy, especially in the beginning and not even always now...but it's so worth it. Oh and 1 more thing...communication is key.